Father mad because I want him to financially support baby

[mommy2be412]

The father of my baby is mad that I want him to be a man and actually support the baby financially 50% and I told him I will support her financially 50%. He is on social security disability and if I take him for support all baby will receive per month is $40 then she can also receive SSI money from his social security disability. Sorry, but I think that is the easy way out, he is trying to do as little as possible and I told him I don't want to do that and go through courts etc, too much stress plus I do not want to put my baby in the care of some stranger so mommy can be in court all day etc. His argument is he is paying for his baby because he worked all those years and put money into social security, what a loser. Nobody has ever held him responsible before and I am and he can't stand it, says I'm not "normal" because I could get "free money" from the government but instead I expect him to pay for his own child out of his own money. How messed up is that?! Or am I just expecting too much?

 

[weebubba]

Not sure how it works in USA but if his only source of income is social security I don't see how you can force him to pay more. It sucks I know but im not sure what other options are available to you.

It makes me nuts when people shirk their responsibilities and take the easy route hoping someone else will pick up the pieces.

I hope things work out to your advantage and LO doesn't have to miss out. Good luck with your pregnancy and enjoy baby when he/she arrives.

 

[cookette]

PP is right... child support is income based. I agree with you, he should definitely be contributing his 50%, but I dont think its legally enforcebale to go over the standard percentage of what his income is. I hate peolpe who suck off SSI, its a huge pet peeve of mine.

 

[Dream.dream]

Agree with above most places child support is income based and they won't ever from that without a good reason. I only got an exception to mine because my sons allergy a and medical issues ment I needed a daycare that could accommodate him and keep him safe an it cost more .

While it really should be 50/50 it never is and as women unfortunately we at the en of the day are the only ones responsible for providing for our children

 

[Mummy1995]

I agree.. as unfair as it is, and it SHOULD be 50/50, you can't really demand more as he won't be able to keep himself then :/

 

[Natsku]

Yeah child support is income based, which I think is right because the custodial parent can only spend as much money as they can afford so it ought to be the same for the non-custodial parent.

 

[robbiegrl]

Was he on disability when you had the baby with him? I think it is completely right to have CS based on income. Would you be ok with him saying that custody should be 50/50?