Fathers Rights?? I really need your help. Advice please? I'm so desperate.

[RaRalalala]

Are you in the UK? If so he has rights to see her BUT that doesnt mean he has rights to see her away from you. How old is LO? They look at it in the best interests of the baby, shes best to be with her mum at all times really so they will tell him yes you can see her but you will have to go to your house or an agreed location or a visitation centre. Also if you're a single parent solicitors are free to you under legal aid if you have sorted out benefits for being a single parent (tax credits or income support wise) I've had the same arguments and worries with my LO and her dad and I seen a solicitor who assured me he wouldn't be getting to take her away from me, especially since they have no bond.

yes i am in the uk, will he when shes older thou? i dont want him to have overnight access EVER. She is 3 months old. how would i find out about legal aid or sort it out?? mydaughter doesnt have any bond but its because i have stopped access completely.

Well if you have grounds for concern that all comes into account in possibly preventing him from over night access - as long as he gets to see her the courts wont go putting her in any danger, especially if he takes her to his mothers the time is for HIM not his mother! So make sure they know all of that. Over night access would be at least another 2 years away or so IF he was granted it. As for legal aid what you need to do is google a list of solicitors in your area that take on legal aid cases or call around a few that do family law and ask them if they take on legal aid cases. If they do then they will tell you everything you need to know to go forward with it. For me they needed a few pay slips and proof of my working tax credits. Hope you get it sorted out soon, I know how you feel I was beside myself but it's mostly always in the mothers favour in these things and they will not make you just hand her over to him. At three months she NEEDS to be with you so that is where she will stay even for his visiting time.

 

[rexxii2012]

Are you in the UK? If so he has rights to see her BUT that doesnt mean he has rights to see her away from you. How old is LO? They look at it in the best interests of the baby, shes best to be with her mum at all times really so they will tell him yes you can see her but you will have to go to your house or an agreed location or a visitation centre. Also if you're a single parent solicitors are free to you under legal aid if you have sorted out benefits for being a single parent (tax credits or income support wise) I've had the same arguments and worries with my LO and her dad and I seen a solicitor who assured me he wouldn't be getting to take her away from me, especially since they have no bond.

yes i am in the uk, will he when shes older thou? i dont want him to have overnight access EVER. She is 3 months old. how would i find out about legal aid or sort it out?? mydaughter doesnt have any bond but its because i have stopped access completely.

Well if you have grounds for concern that all comes into account in possibly preventing him from over night access - as long as he gets to see her the courts wont go putting her in any danger, especially if he takes her to his mothers the time is for HIM not his mother! So make sure they know all of that. Over night access would be at least another 2 years away or so IF he was granted it. As for legal aid what you need to do is google a list of solicitors in your area that take on legal aid cases or call around a few that do family law and ask them if they take on legal aid cases. If they do then they will tell you everything you need to know to go forward with it. For me they needed a few pay slips and proof of my working tax credits. Hope you get it sorted out soon, I know how you feel I was beside myself but it's mostly always in the mothers favour in these things and they will not make you just hand her over to him. At three months she NEEDS to be with you so that is where she will stay even for his visiting time.

ok will do that when christmas is gone and out the way. well its all of them i just do not want them to have any influcence on Scarlett whatsoever but I know she will hate me when shes older if I stop Scarlett seeing her wonderful father. Yeah its when shes older Im worried about too I never want it to happen.

 

[RaRalalala]

Don't worry about his mother, fobs mother hates me, tried to tell me it was ALL my fault, I was breaking their hearts and had a big dramatic scene including trying to tell MY mother that it wasn't her son lying it was me - obviously. She's now ignoring her only grandchild and wont speak to fobs grandparents because they dare come and see LO. Honestly some people you are better off without and if they hate you let them as long as you know LO is happy and safe

 

[rexxii2012]

Don't worry about his mother, fobs mother hates me, tried to tell me it was ALL my fault, I was breaking their hearts and had a big dramatic scene including trying to tell MY mother that it wasn't her son lying it was me - obviously. She's now ignoring her only grandchild and wont speak to fobs grandparents because they dare come and see LO. Honestly some people you are better off without and if they hate you let them as long as you know LO is happy and safe

Yes similar thing happened to me. Whats happened with your LO and FOB and everything??

 

[RaRalalala]

Don't worry about his mother, fobs mother hates me, tried to tell me it was ALL my fault, I was breaking their hearts and had a big dramatic scene including trying to tell MY mother that it wasn't her son lying it was me - obviously. She's now ignoring her only grandchild and wont speak to fobs grandparents because they dare come and see LO. Honestly some people you are better off without and if they hate you let them as long as you know LO is happy and safe

Yes similar thing happened to me. Whats happened with your LO and FOB and everything??

He's a silly little selfish boy. He's never bought her anything, never paid for her. I called CSA and he quit his job. His mother encouraged him to do as much as he could to prevent him paying for her. Which is when I got annoyed then she went off on one (nuts honestly). He's not seen her since she was ten days old and I hadn't heard from him since she was 6 weeks old which was about June until last Friday when he sent Lexi a xmas present...weirdly enough. He's too busy going out every weekend and getting drunk yet expected to take her 3 hours away to Glasgow where he lives...ha.

 

[rexxii2012]

Don't worry about his mother, fobs mother hates me, tried to tell me it was ALL my fault, I was breaking their hearts and had a big dramatic scene including trying to tell MY mother that it wasn't her son lying it was me - obviously. She's now ignoring her only grandchild and wont speak to fobs grandparents because they dare come and see LO. Honestly some people you are better off without and if they hate you let them as long as you know LO is happy and safe

Yes similar thing happened to me. Whats happened with your LO and FOB and everything??

He's a silly little selfish boy. He's never bought her anything, never paid for her. I called CSA and he quit his job. His mother encouraged him to do as much as he could to prevent him paying for her. Which is when I got annoyed then she went off on one (nuts honestly). He's not seen her since she was ten days old and I hadn't heard from him since she was 6 weeks old which was about June until last Friday when he sent Lexi a xmas present...weirdly enough. He's too busy going out every weekend and getting drunk yet expected to take her 3 hours away to Glasgow where he lives...ha.

Yeah FOB for my LO is like that. Hes bought her a few things but not much hasn't seen her since she was 7 weeks old because the last time he came over he said some really nasty things to me. Yes that is the type of thing that his mother would do as well, shes a control freak and a complete twat to be quite frank. What did he get her? Has he threatened to take you to court? The thing I am mostly concerned with is that he won't look after he properly if I'm not there and the court grant him access. He already has a son who I have seen him with and he doesn't look after him properly at all.

 

[RaRalalala]

he'll always be granted access doesn't mean he will get her over night though and he hasnt had the chance to threaten me I went straight to solicitor when it all kicked off, his mother got a letter saying she had no rights to LO so was told not to contact me, fob got a letter saying he could set up seeing lo but he never bothered

 

[rexxii2012]

he'll always be granted access doesn't mean he will get her over night though and he hasnt had the chance to threaten me I went straight to solicitor when it all kicked off, his mother got a letter saying she had no rights to LO so was told not to contact me, fob got a letter saying he could set up seeing lo but he never bothered

Oh right well I will be doing that then, will ring solicitors and see who does legal aid... I will make sure that she doesn't contact me. Wish I was that lucky! He will always get access tho and one day he will get to take her away. My dad was a drunk and didn't look after us properly and still got overnight access so worried for my LO because think her FOB will get access.

 

[RaRalalala]

Just make sure you highlight the worries you have with her, even ask for supervised visitation to start with and see if that will work, solicitor will know best though!

 

[Tasha]

Also you could ask for drug testing if it ends up going to court.

 

[Apple7]

Hopefully it won't end up going through solicitors. If he accepts supervised contact, there'll be no need or way for him to gain parental responsibility.. Which means you call all the shots. If he goes to court they probably will award him it.

In my OH's case, before court his solicitor said that the mother wanted a residence order as she had concerns he wouldn't return his son. He said that was fine - Solicitor turned around and said 'We'll award a residence order if you award parental responsibility'. So if it comes down to him asking the court for PR , just claim that you want a residence order in return as you're worried about him returning her/trying to claim her living with him. x

My child's father was horrible in many ways.
I documented everything and went right to court after he put his hands on me, I got full custody and he has no rights what so ever.
It all depends on the laws where you live.
Good luck