~*~ February Flowers 2014! ~ 37 Babies Have Arrived! ~*

[wellsk]

I've brought so much already! But had already done so before I even fell pregnant (been collecting for about 2 years )
I've got my pram; a Bugaboo Donkey (which was an absolutely steal from John Lewis at £449!)
About 30 babygros from newborn to 12 months. As well as other bits of clothing too.
28 cloth nappies, all different types, some new, some second hand.
Baby Changing Bag from the US.

I think that's about it though!

 

[BlueMoonBubba]

We have the travel system,a swing,an bassinet, different baby clothes, electric breast pump,I'm waiting to find out the gender so I can buy more gender specific things like dresses bow little shoes with frilly socks awww!

got my scan tomorrow wish me luck xx

 

[KerryGold]

Oops! I thought I read you couldn't do it today!

xXx

 

[allforthegirl]

We have the travel system,a swing,an bassinet, different baby clothes, electric breast pump,I'm waiting to find out the gender so I can buy more gender specific things like dresses bow little shoes with frilly socks awww!

got my scan tomorrow wish me luck xx

OOOOo yay for your scan BMB can't wait!! Are you excited?

 

[BlueMoonBubba]

We have the travel system,a swing,an bassinet, different baby clothes, electric breast pump,I'm waiting to find out the gender so I can buy more gender specific things like dresses bow little shoes with frilly socks awww!

got my scan tomorrow wish me luck xx

OOOOo yay for your scan BMB can't wait!! Are you excited?

It was supposed to be today but I rescheduled so DH can come too on his day off tomorrow, I'm nervous more than excited tbh

AFTG!!! You're a week away from the 3 month mark and graduate to second trimester!! That's 1 down 2 to go! Are you excited? Are you excited for your next appt?

 

[Katiie]

I'm excited about hitting 12 weeks... So I can tell family!!!

 

[hibiscus07]

OK y'all--I'm feeling really terrible right now. I am "against" spanking but today I lost it with my son. I have several times before gotten so angry at him throwing food that I lightly smacked his hands but that's it. I might have done one quick smack on the butt one time, too, but he didn't seem phased by it.

Here's the situation: I stayed up working until midnight last night, DS came into our bed at like 11 PM, which was fine---until he woke us up at 6 AM, kicking my back, incessantly whining, crying for milk, etc. That didn't make me snap, though. It just set the tone for a terrible morning. It's SO hot and humid right now, and I left our air conditioned room and basically walked into a sauna. I got DS's lunch ready, and then scooped the cat litter (I know I probably shouldn't since pregnant, but DH isn't gonna keep up with it). The cats peed on a rubber mat next to the litter box. As I'm taking it outside, it's dripping pee all over the hallway. I come back in the house to find DS throwing scoop-fuls of litter all over the dining room. AHHHHHHHHHHHHH. I just snapped.

I grabbed his arm and spanked him on the butt twice (at least it was cushioned by a diaper). It made me feel terrible. It was totally my weakness, too--he thought the litter was fun, like sand at the beach (we were just at the beach this wknd). So he starts crying and telling DH that "mommy hurt me".
I apologized to him but I've felt terrible ever since.
I'm typically quite patient with him (and in general), and I actually think pregnancy hormones might be (in part) to blame. I've been in such a mood, and then everything just piled up.
Ugh--anyway, thanks for reading my vent. I had to get it out. I don't know how to redeem myself for the spanking. I'm worried he will be afraid of me now.

Anyone with similar experiences have any tips for forgiving yourself and for making sure your child feels OK?

 

[Dancerforlife]

Don't be too hard on yourself Hibiscus. Last night I almost snapped as well. We went on a walk and maybe a mile away from home as we were on our way back DD decided she didn't want to sit in the stroller, didn't want to walk but wanted me to carry all 27 lbs of her and push the stroller the rest of the way home.

I tried but I just couldn't physically do it and was afraid of overexerting myself, especially as I'm on exercise restriction with the hematoma and thought a nice walk would be okay. I put her back in the stroller and she literally screamed and cried the entire rest of the way home, past all my neighbors who were out in their yards. It was so embarrassing, and really really hard to resist yelling. When we got back home I put her inside and slammed the door and took a second to breathe. I felt terrible because she was scared when I went back in but a quick hug and some mickey mouse and she was all smiles. It's hard, I'm normally a very laid back and patient person too, and at the time all I could think about was her learning from me and thinking it's okay to get all mad and slam doors. Something I definitely want to work on controlling with these crazy hormones myself.

The great thing about kids is they forgive quickly, you apologized and I'm sure gave him a big hug. That's all you can do is show him mommy is sorry and still loves him. Maybe if you're still feeling bad you can plan a little mommy/son time to go do something he likes after work one day or this weekend? I don't think he'll be afraid of you at all but may make you feel better about it!

 

[hibiscus07]

Don't be too hard on yourself Hibiscus. Last night I almost snapped as well. We went on a walk and maybe a mile away from home as we were on our way back DD decided she didn't want to sit in the stroller, didn't want to walk but wanted me to carry all 27 lbs of her and push the stroller the rest of the way home.

Thank you very much for the nice note! It is always refreshing to hear that every parent has similar struggles. It's easy to think people must hear your kid crying and assume you're a terrible parent but I imagine every single parent has gone through similar things.

We are currently dealing with the same issue with the carrying. We created a monster--willing to carry him as he pleased, and now we're cracking down. He's ~34 lbs and I can feel my ab muscles aching when I pick him up now. He' been having similar tantrums when we force him into the stroller or grocery cart, or he will plop down on the ground and refuse to move. Yesterday on the way out of the house in the AM, he decided he wouldn't walk, so I said OK fine--took my things to the car and came back to "encourage" him to walk on his own. he wouldn't so i held his hand and semi dragged him until he realized i wasn't actually going to cave and pic him up, so then he walked.

 

[3xBlessed]

Don't be so hard on yourself Hibiscus...everyone has days like that! I wanted to tie my children up yesterday they were soooo bad! I didn't but I spanked my 3 year old on the butt one time after he climbed all over the couch jumping with his dinner in his mouth (scared me to pieces!). Totally didn't phase him. We only have an A/C unit in our living room and our bedroom, the kitchen was an absolute sauna yesterday which is why we were eating in the living room...with my bleeding yesterday and my kids attitudes I snapped! Like Dancer said, kids forgive and forget and it was just a little spank. He'll forget all about it, it is harder on you.

 

[hibiscus07]

Don't be so hard on yourself Hibiscus...everyone has days like that! I wanted to tie my children up yesterday they were soooo bad! I didn't but I spanked my 3 year old on the butt one time after he climbed all over the couch jumping with his dinner in his mouth (scared me to pieces!). Totally didn't phase him. We only have an A/C unit in our living room and our bedroom, the kitchen was an absolute sauna yesterday which is why we were eating in the living room...with my bleeding yesterday and my kids attitudes I snapped! Like Dancer said, kids forgive and forget and it was just a little spank. He'll forget all about it, it is harder on you.

Thanks for the reply! I'm feeling better this evening, after having had time to process it and have decent interactions with DS tonight.
OMG the jumping with the food in the mouth can be so scary! I might have had the same panicked reaction.

Ugh...NJ...I've heard you guys are getting hit worse with this than we are (in Mass.). Stay cool!

 

[OurLilFlu]

Ugh so had some bright spotting for a bit tonight, freaked me out a good bit! Wasn't sure what to do since I haven't even met the midwives and my doctors was closed. It's basically stopped but I think I wanna try to swing a scan just to check on things since I don't know when that'll be yet! Eeek worries!

 

[HappyHome]

QOTD - not brought anything yet, unless vitamins count??

Good luck with scans today.

 

[Itsychik]

aww, Hibiscus. I know how frustrating it can be. I know it's a huge controversial topic but I'm not against spanking (when used correctly and not with intent to just 'hurt' but to correct/teach). I've spanked my LO on a couple of occasions and he's not even phased, and forgets 5 minutes later. Kids are versatile

QOTD:

Not bought anything for LO yet. Bought some maternity clothes. But I've started making a registry, to hold off the need-to-buy instinct

 

[mumanddad]

hello ladies, can i join please?

I have not long found out that I am expecting my third and final baby

Baby Taylor is due the 21st February.

A little bit about my self.

Im Hayleigh I am 25 and a mum to an angel who was born a sleep at 43 weeks and a mum to a rainbow baby who was born at 37 weeks on the same day just 4 years apart.
I'm a stay at home mum and love every minute of it.

if there is anything else you would like to know then ask away

 

[allforthegirl]

Ugh so had some bright spotting for a bit tonight, freaked me out a good bit! Wasn't sure what to do since I haven't even met the midwives and my doctors was closed. It's basically stopped but I think I wanna try to swing a scan just to check on things since I don't know when that'll be yet! Eeek worries!

I know how stressful it can be. But my dr said not to worry if it was just spotting and as long as it has stopped I'm sure everything is fine. You may have pushed yourself too hard is all. Just be careful. Hopefully you can swing that scan so you can feel better. GL

 

[3xBlessed]

Hibiscus, it is downright disgusting down here!!! Of course today is supposed to be the worst for heat and humidity and my older son has swim races that I can watch at swim school...so I'll be standing in the blazing sun for 45 minutes at 1:00 in the afternoon! UGH! lol

Mumanddad, welcome! So sorry to hear your first LO was born sleeping.

QOTD: I haven't bought anything yet. If this one is a boy, I don't have to really buy anything since I have two boys already! If it's a girl...my mom is going to have a field day purchasing pink and purple!!! I do need to get a new stroller/car seat combo since mine is expired (it's from my first son). Holding off on that b/c I tend to not like the gender neutral stuff, I'll just wait to find out what this one is!

 

[OurLilFlu]

Thanks allforthegirl, things are better and better today, the bright spotting only lasted that one time. I'm gonna call right away just to see what the midwife thinks. Hope I can squeeze a scan out of em! Hope all your appts and monitoring is/ will be all going well!

 

[allforthegirl]

OurLilFlu everything starts next week. So I will know more then. I did start a pg journal. I would add it to my sig but I'm not sure how to do that.

 

[Katiie]

Welcome mumanddad - sorry to hear about your sleeping angel xxx

QOTD:
Bit of a random one... And one to make us laugh.

What did you last laugh at?



My answer:
Today me, Chris, Cameron, my neighbour Laura and her little girl Lily, filled the paddling pool up just to dip our feet...
The next thing I know we are having a huge water fight