FEBRUARY HEARTS Due in February 2015 , open group all welcome!

[bridgetboo62]

thats rediculous that they would tell you not to have second
everyone is entitled to their own opinion but i cant see why they would think that
and regardless do they have no manners at all? even if you think such things you dont tell people that. just rude
i wouldnt wait until 30 weeks though i would just tell them and act all excited about it and laugh when they disapprove

 

[Feronia]

Heh, yeah, I'm tempted all the time to tell them... but then I think it would be a lot of fun to get off the plane and surprise them all with it! By 30 weeks they can't complain.

And also I worry that my mom will try to ruin my birth again. Last time she invited herself to my home birth and wouldn't leave when we agreed she would, so my midwife kicked her out. We got in a big shouting fight while I was labouring and it was really horrible. She's already planning another trip up in March, so if we don't announce until December, she won't really have time to reschedule to ruin my birth, ya know? There's no guarantee she'd act like that again -- she was off her meds and acting totally different, completely NUTS! -- but now she seems a lot better. Still, I don't want her at my birth again, lol! I didn't the first time either.

 

[River54]

Jackdoll - had a scan just before 7 weeks, and we saw 1 peanut on board measuring as should. Will get another scan at almost 10 weeks (Aug 1), and if all is good, we get released from our fertility clinic. At which point we'll probably do the NT scan at 12 or so weeks, since it was already offered and mentioned to us.

OH's parents actually helped pay for the last round of IVF, so they also got to know after we saw the heartbeat on the first scan. My parents also knew we were going through IVF, so they got to know as well. Just one of those things. We don't want to tell anyone til after we are released into reg care at the very least. OH doesn't want any announcements on FB ever. I am fine with that, but I'd imagine my mum would at some point. Both of us thought it'd be funny if never mentioned on FB, but then baby pics started showing up later Have a family reunion second week of August, and I really don't want to say anything then though - I can only hope the family that knows will keep it to themselves.
Have a co-worker's wedding to go to in mid August - so I'd imagine word will get out after that.

Feronia - we are all happy for you I can't imagine having someone be like that to you when in labour. Sorry you had to go through that!

 

[bridgetboo62]

we dont plan on telling family when i go into labour
only my sister and her boyfriend will know because we will be living with them
so cant really hide it
we are only going to tell people after baby is born and we are ready for visits
its just unnecessary stress on them and us. with people waiting in the waiting room and OH going out to talk to them and give updates and gah just sounds like a nightmare

so i would recommend telling her your pregnant
just not telling her when your going into labour
and if she does show up have your OH or midwife go outside and talk to her for a second reassure her everything is going fine and they will call as soon as its all over to let her know all went well and let her know when you are ready for a visit but
dont let her in and dont talk to her to avoid drama and stress on you during labour

 

[Captain]

River I'm in Nanaimo how about you!?

Feronia - Like River said, we are all happy for you!! But I do hope the whole experience is a lot less stressful for you this time around!

 

[River54]

Captain - Victoria

 

[swanxxsong]

LOL I love the idea of stepping off the plane and being like, "I'm pregnant!"

Maybe I'm just evil like that.

 

[SurpriseBub]

We have told my husband's family, as I ended up being too sick to fly to visit them in Ohio on July 4. They are all very excited. HIs sister had a girl last year, so think they might be hoping we have a boy.

I haven't told my family yet- they all live in Australia, and I kind of don't want the extra 'checking in' they will want to do! I am sure they will be excited, although this means our planned trip to Aus for Christmas is off... Will see if they comment on that fact.

I don't know how I would react if anyone was negative! I suspect my style would be to more or less cut them off until baby arrives!! Just remember that they will be thrilled when they lay eyes on baby. I guess people (especially parents) have an idea of how they map out your life, and some people find it hard if you deviate from the path. You are happy, and your baby will be loved, so just ignore any nay-Sayers!

 

[imphope]

So, I hit 12 weeks on Saturday and I feel like my belly really popped out. Today it seems really big! I cannot possibly suck in to hide it. I am going to the beach first week of August and had to go suit shopping. I found a few one pieces at Target that are forgiving but they definitely cannot hide the belly. It is there for sure! I think it looks actually kinda cute as long as it looks like a baby bump and not a beer gut. Anyone else have to get into a swimsuit soon?

 

[ttc126]

Imp, I've been taking my son to swim class. I too really seemed to pop this weekend. I actually just bought a maternity suit! Maybe embarrassing but so much more comfy

 

[Feronia]

Bridget, I didn't tell her when I went into labour. She and DH's family live in southern CA and we live in BC, so we don't see one another very often. With my daughter she knew she was invited to come stay with us after the birth and that I didn't want her here when I was in labour. (She was not supportive of home birth at the time, so why would I want her watching me as a spectacle?) She ended up scheduling her plane tickets 2 weeks before I was due and then staying at our place... when she arrived, she suddenly was broke, couldn't find a place to stay, and we didn't want to just turn her out on the streets in a foreign country in the snow. I think she arranged it that way because earlier she was guilt tripping me about not wanting her to watch the birth. Plus she PROMISED to leave and get a hotel for a day when I went into labour, she just didn't when the time actually came. Actually, since I had a 56 hour labour, when my midwife kicked her out she went and slept in our leasing office for 2 days without eating or taking her medicine. Then she didn't help out at all, ate our food, broke our car, and sat around complaining. It was seriously nuts, and I really don't want to risk a repeat! We didn't end up speaking for 6 months afterwards. I had a beautiful home birth, but the aftermath was horrible because of her.

LOL I love the idea of stepping off the plane and being like, "I'm pregnant!"

Maybe I'm just evil like that.

Yep, that's what we're going to do!

 

[ttc126]

Feronia, that sounds miserable!!!! I think your plan definitely sounds great!

 

[MellyH]

The new plan definitely sounds like an improvement over the previous experience, Feronia!

I'd love to do the 'get off the plane and announce' thing with my mum and sister, so I could tell them in person, but I won't see them until I'm 7 months along! I can't keep it a secret for another 5 months.

 

[Megamegan]

We Skyped and told both families right away! It might be different for subsequent pregnancies but this news just couldn't wait. Plus everyone is really happy and supportive and there was no reason not to tell them. But, I've always sort of imagined how fun it would be to get off a plane and let the belly speak for itself!

I had our cleaning ladies come today and they did a spectacular job on our house. It was a surprise for hubby. So he came home and said "Wow, you really did a good job on the house today!" LOL! I was like "No I didn't... the cleaning ladies did" and he said he would have believed it was me lol. I never would have because I can smell the cleaning supplies they use. But he was sweet. It is always so nice to get the house deep cleaned like this. I never, ever clean as thoroughly as these ladies do. I am lucky if I manage to do a load of laundry (folding optional), load the dishwasher and wipe the kitchen countertop. So I'm glad we can afford something like this!!

Going to Florida tomorrow! Yikes, a little anxious about the plane ride! But so happy to go see mom, sister, niece and nephew, and kitties!! DH is allergic so I gave my 2 cats to my mom 2 years ago and I just absolutely LOVE when I get to see them again. Too bad they don't live closer.

And as for bathing suits, I already bought a tankini that allows for some belly expansion. My belly is completely popping out and I cannot suck it in. I am only 9 weeks. I can't wait until it is like a legit baby belly, because I still just feel like people must be wondering if I'm pregnant or just fat.

 

[Feronia]

Good luck on your trip, Megan! Sounds fun! Hopefully the heat isn't too bad in Florida.

Hehe, I'll be 7 months along -- 30-31 weeks -- when we see them, so it should be an interesting surprise. Hopefully they take it well! We're going to have both my mom and the in laws meet us at the airport, and I was thinking of bringing cards with scan pictures from our 20-week scan to give them, though I guess the belly will speak for itself. We told everyone at 8 weeks with our first since we are eager, and now I'm wondering whether I should even bother announcing on FB after 30 weeks or whether I should just start posting baby #2 pics! Hmmmm...

I looked at maternity swim suits because I was dumb and sold my one from my first pregnancy, but I didn't find any that we're flattering. I'm just going to wear my bikini and flaunt my belly this time, lol.

 

[SurpriseBub]

Holy crap, feronia! Hopefully your mother wouldn't want a repeat, either!!

Just wanted to take a moment to say how much I am loving this board. I have no pregnant real life friends (and as I am new in town, very few friends around at all!) so, it is really lovely to catch up with you guys every day.

 

[bridgetboo62]

that does sound awful
i would just tell her and let her know she can buy a plane ticket and come visit after baby is born and if she shows up earlier than that then she will have to buy another one home haha

 

[MellyH]

I agree SurpriseBub, it's good to have people to talk to, especially since we haven't told people in real life yet!

 

[Gdef]

Hey ladies! I hope everyone is having a HH pregnancy so far!

We put our house on the market today! I'm super excited to be buying a new and bigger house for our family but it's also bittersweet because the house we're selling was our "starter home" as newly weds. But we definitely need more space!

As for DH, I've been super lucky this time and he has been wonderful. He's been super helpful as long as I ask him to help me. But he doesn't just take it upon himself to just randomly wash dishes, clothes, sweep, or cook supper out of the kindness of his heart! Lol. At least he gets right on it and doesn't complain if I ask him to help me though! Haha

DH and I have DTD maybe 3 times since I found out I was pregnant. Mainly because I've just felt so crappy. But there are some days that I would swear I was in heat or something! Lol

DH really wants to go to our beach house next week but I'm seriously just not feeling it. I've found that heat is what REALLY sets off my sickness. It's hot enough here in Georgia. I'm definitely not looking forward to going even farther south down to Florida for a week!

But on a brighter note, my sickness is definitely starting to wean off just a little. After being on zofran, then phenergan, then back on zofran pretty much 24/7 for the last few weeks, I am sooooo looking forward to being less medicated! All this vomiting has also done a number on my esophagus and I've been super hoarse so I'm also looking forward to being able to talk normally again! Lol

 

[Gdef]

Ttc126, I don't know why I just saw that you have a blood disorder. I have one too so I totally understand what you're going through! I have Von Willebrands disease, which is a form of hemophilia. I make plenty of platelets, but I don't make the sticky stuff that sticks them together in order to form a clot so I don't bleed out. Luckily I don't have to worry much during pregnancy. It's when I actually give birth that my blood problems start and I have to get transfusions. My OB is setting up a consult with the specialist so we can start working on my birth plan at the hospital. I will be induced or have a c-section about a week or 2 before my due date because they don't want to chance me going into labor and having the baby outside of the hospital where I won't be able to have an immediate transfusion. Even with me delivering DD at the hospital, they almost lost me due to blood loss. That's the main reason we were originally planning on stopping after just one. But we're happy about our little surprise . I believe it was meant to happen. I just hope and pray that everything goes smoothly this time