FEBRUARY HEARTS Due in February 2015 , open group all welcome!

[lynnikins]

Not told anyone other than DH in person but let a few friends in Private fb groups know caus they won't talk, don't know how long i can keep quiet though for, i hope till after I have got a job so it might be after our first scan that we tell people. though i think i might end up telling Mum and my sister who's expecting in Nov but they live in NZ and Australia so no chance of letting it slip to MIL or FIL

 

[lynnikins]

I'm a home birth hopeful too!
I laboured at home for 24 hours and was abandoned by the midwife who was convinced i wasn't in active labour.
We got to hospital and he wasborn within 20 mins of arrival
I've registered with the home birth team and luckily the midwife from before doesn't work for them now.
Laura ds was 10lb3oz and was pushed it really easily, no tears or stitches so don't worry about birth xx

What part of Northamptonshire are you hun? I'm in Wellingborough, was under the care of Kettering Homebirth Team last time they barely made it must remember to call them earlier this time

 

[ShamzLovesKai]

I've told OH obviously, Mum & MIL. Not planning to tell the rest of the family until 12 weeks and not planning to tell the rest of the world, facebook etc until 20 weeks. Feel bad that I haven't told my Dad yet. Think my Mum's struggling not to tell him aswell lol. I really want to tell my 2 year old but I know he'll blab to everyone lol bless him xx

 

[bridgetboo62]

Just a suggestion but I thought it might be fun to add the stork next to each of our names on the first page and as we find out what we are having we can change them to or or even keep them if it's a surprise.

We could also do a running total for how many growing bumps then how many boy and girl bumps we have.
if you look at October bumpkins you will see what I'm talking about. I created that thread but left when I found out I was Misvarrying. Anyway just a suggestion I just thought it would be fun to keep track of who is who.

i love love love this idea!
we should definitely do this

 

[bridgetboo62]

I'm a home birth hopeful too!
I laboured at home for 24 hours and was abandoned by the midwife who was convinced i wasn't in active labour.
We got to hospital and he wasborn within 20 mins of arrival
I've registered with the home birth team and luckily the midwife from before doesn't work for them now.
Laura ds was 10lb3oz and was pushed it really easily, no tears or stitches so don't worry about birth xx

20 minutes after your arrived! wow i would have just stayed home and said screw the midwife, i would have also gotten my money back from her, that is so unacceptable she should lose her license

 

[bridgetboo62]

I'll hold out as long as I can before buying maternity clothes. Thankfully I still have tops left over from my daughter that I've worn as normal tops, but I feel like I might need pants soon. Wishing I didn't sell them all after my daughter!

i would just buy the band thing so you can leave your pants unbuttoned and you can wear it with any pants it comes in different colors and everything. thats what im going to get when i need maternity pants
not sure what i will do for shirts but i will probably just go to target and motherhood maternity and look around when it comes that time and hopefully i see something i like

 

[lynnikins]

I'm a home birth hopeful too!
I laboured at home for 24 hours and was abandoned by the midwife who was convinced i wasn't in active labour.
We got to hospital and he wasborn within 20 mins of arrival
I've registered with the home birth team and luckily the midwife from before doesn't work for them now.
Laura ds was 10lb3oz and was pushed it really easily, no tears or stitches so don't worry about birth xx

20 minutes after your arrived! wow i would have just stayed home and said screw the midwife, i would have also gotten my money back from her, that is so unacceptable she should lose her license

In the UK we don't tend to use private Mw's much as it seems expensive to pay for one when the NHS have to send a MW to you to attend when your in labour if you don't wish to go to hospital,

 

[bridgetboo62]

as far as pregnancy books go
i dont plan on reading any books
except maybe i will read some if my sister recommends it
she has the best natural birth books ever!
i would definitely stick to natural birthing books
they give you a sense of comfort and empowerment about labour
instead of fear like other books do
labour is not a medical emergency (in most situations) and its not something to be feared its just a part of life
we would definitely be doing a home birth if we could afford it
but with our insurance a hospital birth and all the appointments combined will add up to less than $100 at $5 each appointment and $5 for the hospital birth

sorry for all the posts just trying to catch up

 

[bridgetboo62]

I'm a home birth hopeful too!
I laboured at home for 24 hours and was abandoned by the midwife who was convinced i wasn't in active labour.
We got to hospital and he wasborn within 20 mins of arrival
I've registered with the home birth team and luckily the midwife from before doesn't work for them now.
Laura ds was 10lb3oz and was pushed it really easily, no tears or stitches so don't worry about birth xx

20 minutes after your arrived! wow i would have just stayed home and said screw the midwife, i would have also gotten my money back from her, that is so unacceptable she should lose her license

In the UK we don't tend to use private Mw's much as it seems expensive to pay for one when the NHS have to send a MW to you to attend when your in labour if you don't wish to go to hospital,

gah i hate the US
our systems for everything are so inefficient compared to other countries and it sucks!

 

[laurac1988]

There's quite a few people know about squishy. My dad, stepmum, OHs stepmum, dad and mum, OHs sister and my two sisters. Plus a couple of friends too

 

[bridgetboo62]

OH one of my sisters and a few of my friends know we are expecting
but by the end of the weekend my mom and dad will know
still super scared to tell them but want to get it over with so they can freak out and then come around and be supportive

 

[jmandrews]

Thank I thought so too

We want to find out the gender. I can't wait! But first I just want to make it out of the first Tri.
We have told our parents, one sister, and a couple close friends who were the best support during my miscarriage.

 

[Megamegan]

Good idea. I don't plan to find out at my 20 week scan, but DH wants to. We'll see!

That's cool living 1 minute away from a hospital. I'd personally be far more likely to want a homebirth in that situation because you'd get the comfort and advantages of labouring and birthing at home, with only being a minute away in case you need to transfer. Sounds ideal!

I would agree, but I'm renting a crappy little apartment so I'm not sure I'd actually be more comfortable in my own home at this point, lol. If we end up buying a house before I give birth (very slight chance, planning to do that after the baby actually) then maybe I would consider it.

 

[Megamegan]

I've told most of the world, lol. My whole family, DH's family, and tons of friends and coworkers. I don't care. I am a pretty public person, and DH and I were bursting with excitement and just felt like we had to tell people. But I will save the FB announcement for when we have an ultrasound photo to show. If anything goes wrong, I don't mind talking about it- I'd probably talk about it with all these people anyway after the fact, even if I didn't tell them early on. I'm just staying hopeful though and not expecting anything bad to happen... although each day it is more and more of a relief that I'm not bleeding!

And we totally are finding out the gender asap, DH and I really want a girl but we'd be happy with a boy too of course. We just always imagined ourselves with a girl first.

 

[bridgetboo62]

yeah we plan on telling my mom and dad after our first appointment and scan on thursday, they tried for nine years and had countless miscarriages before they had my sister, so they would be super understanding and supportive if that were to happen
and we are going to tell OH parents, grandma, and sister and my other sister after our 11-13 week scan
then we are going to announce on facebook after we find out the gender at our 18-20 week scan

 

[KatieSweet]

DH knows, and I've only told my best friend and her husband thus far. I just really needed to tell someone even this early on.

Ideally I wanted to wait with telling our families until after the first trimester, but we planned a big vacation with my family when I'm at 10,5 weeks (and we'll be together 24/7 pretty much for two full weeks... not a lot of hiding the symptoms then LOL), so we'll just tell both of our families shortly before then.

 

[Feronia]

We found out with our daughter, but I’m hoping not to find out. I remember after birthing her in the tub just holding her to my chest for a while and not knowing. I remember thinking that it would have been absolutely lovely to discover it at that moment, but I totally understand being anxious to find out sooner!

We’re thinking of not telling family until I’m 30 weeks. We live in Canada, but family lives in the States and we will be flying down in December. I’d like them to all meet us at the airport and surprise them! I am so tempted to tell friends though, but so far nobody knows.

Hehe, Megamegan, I totally understand. We live on the top storey of a 1-bedroom apartment, and I was really hoping to give birth in some place nicer and more permanent. Not likely to be a reality for some time, but the birth there ended up being very nice.

 

[bridgetboo62]

i dont think it would matter if it was an apartment or house for me
it was my home then i would feel comfortable in it

 

[laurac1988]

We can't wait to find out the gender

 

[bridgetboo62]

we cant wait either
im going to ask the midwife about the harmony gender testing at our first appointment the day after tomorrow
which can be done through blood after 10 weeks