FEBRUARY HEARTS Due in February 2015 , open group all welcome!

[bridgetboo62]

last night i got really bad cramps kind of
but they felt like bloating cramps or gas cramps or something
no like af cramps really
i cant explain it
then i checked my cervix and it felt open so i was freaking out last night
but absolutely no blood or anything
and i am not cramping this morning
and checked my cervix again and it feels closed
so im praying to see growth and that heart beat on my scan on wednesday

 

[jmandrews]

First appt went well! had blood works done and urine test to confirm. Met with the NP and she scheduled an early ultrasound for July 16th! I can't wait! I'm so nervous! I just pray I make it there and that baby is healthy. Since having a MC in March I feel like I'm constantly on edge. She decided to put me on progesterone. She said it will help prevent MC. So that made me feel better.


I am so so so sorry babyfeva my heart breaks for you. Take care of yourself and give yourself some time. You deserve a rainbow so don't give up.

 

[kezz_howland]

Oh Christ... how is it possible that I have begun to feel queezy already? I'm only 4.5 weeks!!! With DS I had MS from 6.5 weeks right through to 26 weeks (talking all day every day. Was only physically sick twice, but gagging all day long and was just horrific nausea - so much so I remember thinking I don't think I can cope with this!) So now it's starting at 4.5 weeks?? WTF? lol. I'm trying to think positive - least it looks like things are healthy!

 

[Leamarasmall]

Hey had my early scan today all is well baby has a heartbeat of 162bpm and I'm 7 weeks 6 days instead of 8 weeks so my new due date is 3rd Feb not 2nd Feb xx

 

[bridgetboo62]

god it seems like i cry and freak out whenever anything stressful or overwhelming is going on
when i rarely cry normally
and OH doesnt understand how to handle it
doesnt understand that he just needs to comfort me and calm me down
he gets defensive and thinks im trying to argue with him
and then he raises his voice
and ends up making it like 1000 times worse
and then i go into like a full on panic attack and have to talk to my mom or dad or sister
to help comfort me and calm me down
its a disaster but we had a big important talk about it today
cause he told me i just need to remember to relax
and its like i cant relax i need help from you
you need to help me instead of being harsh and cold
and i think he gets it so hopefully he reacts differently from now on
cause its really not healthy for me or baby to have me going through so much stress and anxiety
anyways thats the end of my rant

 

[babyfeva]

Ladies, miscarriage was confirmed today. Hoping genetic testing gives me some answers. Wishing you all the best. Thank you for all the support.

 

[Captain]

captain, let us know how your OH reacts! If you're in Vancouver and looking for midwives, I'm happy to tell you what I know about the various groups in the area. I'm a birth doula and prospective student midwive, so I know a bit about the various midwives in the area. (Some of them are fabulous, absolutely phenomenal -- some are not so great, and it also depends on what you're looking for.)

Thank you Feronia! I'm actually on the island, in Nanaimo, if you know of any over here?

Right now I really don't know what I need to be looking for, my doctor told me they had a ton of information at the front desk last week, but when I asked the receptionist told me they don't have a thing! I do have a follow up with my doc tomorrow, so now that I've had almost a week to let it sink in I'll be a bit more prepared to ask him questions!

I told OH that AF arrived last week just so he wouldn't get suspicious, he's quite excited today because he thinks he's coming home just in time to try again this next cycle

Edit: Bridget and babyfeva, sending you both lots of hugs!

 

[Megamegan]

Babyfeva best of luck to you when you're ready to try again

Captain that's hilarious! You should announce to him and then give him a little love so he's happy all around, lol.

Bridget- I know what you mean about OH. Like sometimes our OH's can seem so perfect, but when you need a certain sense of calm, a certain tone of voice, they don't understand. They want to rationalize and come up with "fixes" for problems- when all we want is to be comforted. Try telling him you realize it isn't natural for men to just listen and soothe us, but that's what will be most effective, and if he gives it a try he will see. Then when you're less emotional, you might be more willing to have a conversation about it. Does that make sense?

 

[Feronia]

So sorry to hear, babyfeva. I've had 2 miscarriages and they were so terrible to go through. I hope you have lots of love and support during this time and that you get some answers. Not knowing why is really tough.

captain, I don't know any midwives in Nanaimo, but I know a fabulous student midwife who is doing her placement there. It looks like there is one midwifery clinic and one solo practitioner there. You have to think of what is important to you -- if knowing exactly who will be at all of your appointments, labour, and birth is important to you, the solo midwife might be a great fit, but most clinics have small teams and you get to know everyone anyway. It's good to go and interview both though!

 

[Captain]

So sorry to hear, babyfeva. I've had 2 miscarriages and they were so terrible to go through. I hope you have lots of love and support during this time and that you get some answers. Not knowing why is really tough.

captain, I don't know any midwives in Nanaimo, but I know a fabulous student midwife who is doing her placement there. It looks like there is one midwifery clinic and one solo practitioner there. You have to think of what is important to you -- if knowing exactly who will be at all of your appointments, labour, and birth is important to you, the solo midwife might be a great fit, but most clinics have small teams and you get to know everyone anyway. It's good to go and interview both though!

Thank you! I've contacted the one clinic here but it went through to their answer phone so I left a message. Lots to learn with all this!

Megan - He's been gone for two weeks so you can always count on there being loving the night he comes home!!

 

[bridgetboo62]

yeah Megamegan thats what i have been telling him
i think it just finally got through to him today
he said he will try
so im hoping to see improvement haha
men are so different

 

[Megamegan]

Yep they are. In fact I just got into an explosive shouting fest with DH because he got my car detailed today and I went to put stuff back in it and he got mad that I was making it "messy" again. It doesn't help that we are both passionate and loud people, lol. But we always make up. Communication really is the magic trick, but usually it's the men who don't want to communicate.

 

[MellyH]

Hi all! Well my period is over a week late so I'm starting to hope that this thing might stick. I got my BFP last Sunday (Father's Day) at 12/13DPO, and surprised my husband with a Father's Day card (to which he replied "But I'm not a dad yet!") and the positive pregnancy test (to which he replied "I'm assuming... I don't understand... does this mean what I think it means?!"). I went to the nurse's clinic the next day and she said it was a 'faint positive' and that I should come back in a week and try again. Thanks for the vote of confidence, lady But I told her we were leaving in less than a week to be travelling for the two weeks after that on our honeymoon in Japan (where I am right now!), so could we just take the positive as given and start all the paperwork (rather than come back at nearly 7 weeks and not have done anything yet!). So I have my 'prenatal registration' appointment on July 10th (at which there will be NO SCAN, according to the paperwork, in big bold capital letters ), and my current due date is February 24th, 2015.

I am not going to read back 170+ pages But I'll try to jump in as best I can!!!

 

[Megamegan]

Welcome Melly My due date according to LMP was Feb 24 but I changed it to Feb 22 according to O date... we'll see what dating scan says. How is Japan?!! I want to go!!

 

[Hatethewait85]

babyfeva. so sorry to see the news.

 

[Hatethewait85]

Hi all! Well my period is over a week late so I'm starting to hope that this thing might stick. I got my BFP last Sunday (Father's Day) at 12/13DPO, and surprised my husband with a Father's Day card (to which he replied "But I'm not a dad yet!") and the positive pregnancy test (to which he replied "I'm assuming... I don't understand... does this mean what I think it means?!"). I went to the nurse's clinic the next day and she said it was a 'faint positive' and that I should come back in a week and try again. Thanks for the vote of confidence, lady But I told her we were leaving in less than a week to be travelling for the two weeks after that on our honeymoon in Japan (where I am right now!), so could we just take the positive as given and start all the paperwork (rather than come back at nearly 7 weeks and not have done anything yet!). So I have my 'prenatal registration' appointment on July 10th (at which there will be NO SCAN, according to the paperwork, in big bold capital letters ), and my current due date is February 24th, 2015.

I am not going to read back 170+ pages But I'll try to jump in as best I can!!!

Congrats!!

 

[QuintinsMommy]

Oh Christ... how is it possible that I have begun to feel queezy already? I'm only 4.5 weeks!!! With DS I had MS from 6.5 weeks right through to 26 weeks (talking all day every day. Was only physically sick twice, but gagging all day long and was just horrific nausea - so much so I remember thinking I don't think I can cope with this!) So now it's starting at 4.5 weeks?? WTF? lol. I'm trying to think positive - least it looks like things are healthy!

I with you, I only had a tiny bit of morning sickness with my son at 8-9weeks, I started having morning sickness at 5w1d with this one and it's been awful

 

[jmandrews]

Hi all! Well my period is over a week late so I'm starting to hope that this thing might stick. I got my BFP last Sunday (Father's Day) at 12/13DPO, and surprised my husband with a Father's Day card (to which he replied "But I'm not a dad yet!") and the positive pregnancy test (to which he replied "I'm assuming... I don't understand... does this mean what I think it means?!"). I went to the nurse's clinic the next day and she said it was a 'faint positive' and that I should come back in a week and try again. Thanks for the vote of confidence, lady But I told her we were leaving in less than a week to be travelling for the two weeks after that on our honeymoon in Japan (where I am right now!), so could we just take the positive as given and start all the paperwork (rather than come back at nearly 7 weeks and not have done anything yet!). So I have my 'prenatal registration' appointment on July 10th (at which there will be NO SCAN, according to the paperwork, in big bold capital letters ), and my current due date is February 24th, 2015.



I am not going to read back 170+ pages But I'll try to jump in as best I can!!!

Welcome!!! And congrats! Love how you told DH. So sweet! We are due around the same time
Hope you are enjoying your honeymoon!

 

[confuzion]

Yay mells. So happy to see you here!

 

[maisie78]

Babyfeva so sorry to read your news this morning I hope the testing can give you some answers. Take care xxx