FEBRUARY HEARTS Due in February 2015 , open group all welcome!

[ttc126]

Swan, i had a similar situation during my first pregnancy. I found a midwife i loved and the midwife group seemed great. Then i found out my blood disorder makes me high risk. The mw gave me the option to stay with her and chance that i would be referred to high risk later on or transfer right away to an ob that handles high risk. I chose the second option and changed at 13 weeks. I was disappointed at first, then when i had so many complications i was glad i changed. In your case I'm not sure what I'd do. I see your daughter was born 35+4. May i ask why? If it was an issue like cervix dilated early or random preterm labor, i myself would be more comfortable just planning to have the hospital take over care. If it was something else that caused your ptl that is unlikely to repeat I'd maybe stay with the midwives.

Whenever i have a tough decision to make i take my time. Remember, even though it's overwhelming you have time to think. Then i do something weird...i choose one of the options and go about life for a few days to a week as if I've made THAT decision. I see how i feel. Then i do the same with the other option. At the end of a few days i usually know in my heart which choice I'm most comfortable with.

I know how it feels to have a bunch of info you weren't expecting thrown at you. Remember to take all the time you need, research your options (maybe evaluate the hospital when you go for your mfm appt), and go with your instincts.

 

[ttc126]

Oh and don't worry! At your first appt with the specialist they'll probably be very in depth and sometimes they can overwhelm you with every scenario. Just keep in mind they see all of those small % of people with serious problems so a lot of the situations etc that sounds scary is just them being cautious

 

[Feronia]

Sorry to hear about your loss, Nicole...

Swansong, that does sound like a lot to take in at once! Fingers crossed you go past 37 weeks and can have a lovely birth centre birth!

I am absolutely pissed because at work today, we were doing this workplace "conflict" thing that involves acting. There have been a lot of physical games we've had to do for it, but I've taken it easy due to the subchorionic hematoma. However, today we had to do this improv acting bit and one lady out of NOWHERE picked me up to hug me as part of her acting segment and then squeezed me (crushing my abdomen) really hard... all as I was saying "no, no, stop!" Nobody knows I'm pregnant, and I ended up running out of the room crying because I started cramping immediately. Hard. Also embarrassing, but moreso I'm pissed off that she did this. My supervisor came to check on me and had my lie down with my feet up until my husband could pick me up.

I'm still cramping, but the spotting has stopped. My ultrasound is scheduled for tomorrow morning so I am trying to think positive thoughts that everything will be okay...

 

[ttc126]

Feronia!!!! I'm so sorry! That is so horrible!!! You poor thing!!! I hope everything goes well with the ultrasound tomorrow and i hope you don't worry too much. It's a good sign that your spotting stopped. I have a small sch as well and i had some brown spotting the other day. I was just glad it wasn't pink like at 6&7 weeks. I think everything is ok but i know how scary this all is. Got everything crossed for you!!!

 

[Megamegan]

Feronia- that sounds horrible. In this case, would it help if your coworkers knew you were pregnant to be more careful? In an improv situation it's obviously hard to predict what someone will do and if you have no choice but to be a part of it...maybe your supervisor can make a rule to make it less hands-on without spilling the beans about your pregnancy. I'm sorry, hopefully everything is okay in there

 

[MellyH]

That's awful Feronia, I'm sorry you were put in that situation. I hope everything is okay tomorrow.

 

[Feronia]

Thanks, I'll let you all know how the scan goes tomorrow!

I actually was able to talk with my supervisor and drop this conflict theatre thing completely, so thankfully I don't have to go back. I don't even know this woman so I don't think I will need to see her again anyway.

 

[babymamaagain]

Thats awful! Glad you can write off this job duty for the remainder of your pregnancy. So scary!

 

[swanxxsong]

Feronia, that is awful! I am so sorry! I would have been upset too. You poor thing!

Thanks for the support ladies.

TTC: I truly appreciate your insight! I am mostly terrified to death of them throwing out every dang scenario at me. I know she said their last woman they had with the same pre-term history, the doctors were like, "YOU CANNOT STAY WITH THE BIRTH CENTER" and scared her off, but her PT labor was much earlier than mine and she lived very close to a nice hospital. The hospitals nearest to me are not equipped to deal with PT labor and would likely transfer me if they can, or would transfer baby instantly upon delivery. So I am looking at traveling a half hour, regardless of if I stay with midwives or go to a hospital. Which is fine, we've accepted that.

My daughter came for unknown reasons. She was a decent size for being pre-term and was completely, 100% healthy. No issues. They kept considering my dates were "wrong" but as I had been charting, I knew that wasn't the case. She just seemed ready. My former OB said she had no reason to assume I would have a second pre-term child but the midwife said she just wants me to be fully aware of all possibilities.

My husband I have discussed that we will see what the consult says. At this point, I will not transfer. Depending on what they say, we will decide then. I know a regret would be if they say that there's a slim chance I could have PT labor again, I transfer, go to 40 weeks and then am miserable in another hospital setting as my first delivery was not ideal in the least. But since they're not giving me a time frame to decide, that helps immensely. If things look normal with my cervix, she said they may disregard me as high-risk, keep me on the prog and let me go naturally and see what happens.

So for now, I'm in limbo but after discussing it thoroughly with my husband and the midwife director, I am intending to remain with the center and they're fully prepared to allow me to continue. She said we can always transfer me if at 25 weeks (or before, or after that point) they see an issue that needs to be addressed immediately. But I'm trying to not focus on the what ifs until I hear anything from the specialists. Just gonna take it one day at a time and in exactly one month, I should know more.

Sorry, that was a long rant. But hopefully I answered your questions TTC. LOL

 

[ttc126]

Swan i totally understand about being nervous with what they will tell you! With my son they wanted me to have an amnio to see if he had the same blood disorder as me. They made everything seem worst case scenario and made a huge deal of me refusing the amnio. Well guess what? I've since found out that the disorder won't even show up until after 1yr old!!!!! They really do make everything sound worst case (at least the place i went to) so just remember to take it with a grain of salt.

Your plan sounds good! Time is on your side here and if you love the birth center and feel comfortable i definitely think you should stay and then you're right you could always transfer later if necessary.

 

[SurpriseBub]

I can't say I have an inkling one way or the other on the boy/girl question. My husband thinks boy, and we had a favorite boys name picked in about five minutes, so maybe that is a sign?

For months (ie. before I was pregnant) I had this vivid image of a very blonde/brown-eyed girl on a little car scooter thing zipping around. For some reason this image just kept coming back... So maybe it is her in there?!

You are right- healthy is a given wish. But really, we would be thrilled and happy either way on girl/boy. I would just be so, so thankful to have a healthy, happy baby- for us, either girl or boy would be so very welcomed to the world!!

 

[Captain]

Hi ladies, I hope you and all your bumps are doing well! I'm still on holidays in Vegas, struggling with the heat but doing okay and having lots of fun!

 

[Feronia]

Ultrasound in 2 hours to check on things after the spotting, cramping, and loss of symptoms... Has anyone else suddenly lost their morning sickness and fatigue around 8 weeks?

Anyway, I'll update you all later. I really hope there is a healthy, growing baby in there!

 

[swanxxsong]

Oh my word! I can't believe they tried forcing that on you and then, turns out for no reason! I would have been so upset! Good thing you stood up for yourself -- I would have done the same. haha. If my SS comes back questionable I'm also refusing the amnio.

Yes that's the great thing -- they're discussing this all so early, I have plenty of time to evaluate everything. I've been doing a lot of reading and it truly seems as though, more than anything, this is all just precautionary action they're taking to be on the safe side of sorry. Since my daughter was healthy and not even THAT early in the grand scheme, most of what I've read indicates that things should be good, but that it's a positive thing that they'll be checking my cervix to see if I have a shorter cervix or other indicator as to why I labored early.

I gained 50 pounds in 8 months with her and I'm barely 5'3" so I told my husband when I had her that she just ran outta room. I'm not gaining that much this time around!

 

[xxshellsxx]

Ultrasound in 2 hours to check on things after the spotting, cramping, and loss of symptoms... Has anyone else suddenly lost their morning sickness and fatigue around 8 weeks?

Anyway, I'll update you all later. I really hope there is a healthy, growing baby in there!

I didn't lose it all together, it was still there but it was so much better by mid 7 weeks to 8 weeks i hardly noticed it some days! Worried me a lot! Turns out it was nothing to worry about at all x FX everything goes well this afternoon!

 

[SurpriseBub]

Ultrasound in 2 hours to check on things after the spotting, cramping, and loss of symptoms... Has anyone else suddenly lost their morning sickness and fatigue around 8 weeks?

Anyway, I'll update you all later. I really hope there is a healthy, growing baby in there!

Good luck! Thinking of you, and hoping that all is well in there. I felt unusually well on Wednesday and was worried. I was happy to be feeling sick again yesterday. So sorry you have to go through all this worry.

 

[maisie78]

Good luck Feronia xx

 

[MellyH]

I had a few days last week where I almost felt 'well' but now I'm back to feeling gross almost constantly. I'm trying to look at the positives of that.

Captain, glad you're having fun in Vegas!! I spent so many hours watching the fountain show at the Bellagio.

 

[British Mummy]

good luck feronia! hope to see good news later x

 

[jmandrews]

Good luck feronia! FX for good news!

I have had a couple of times where I'm queasy but no MS or anything. Just tired and have sore bbs. Wish I had more signs. Just worries me. 5 more days until ultrasound.