FEBRUARY HEARTS Due in February 2015 , open group all welcome!

[EMYJC]

Lora, I am so so sorry for your loss. My friend is going through the exact same thing at the moment. She was due her 12 week scan on 4th Aug and started to have some bleeding. Went for a scan and she too had a 6 week embryo with no heartbeat.

Melly H, many congrats on your twins news. Fantastic x

 

[savvysaver]

Heehee. I think twins would be cool, but in the entirely abstract sense - in reality they would be incredibly unbelievably difficult!

Dammit, here I am jinxing myself earlier in this thread!

Savvy and myself did exactly the same thing lol

i'm secretly hoping for Twins this is my only shot at being a mummy and with clomid and a strong maternal twin line... i'm hoping there is more than one. If there is only one in there i'll be just as happy

I secretly hope for twins too...though I know my hubby would freak out! I have always wanted twins, but I will be super happy for one healthy, sticky bean.

Isn't it funny how we mentioned twins and then find out we are pregnant with twins! I am still shocked but so excited.

 

[savvysaver]

Thanks feronia, I will look for that twins Facebook group!

I am a little nervous for my next appointment. I am in my 11th week and my symptoms are all gone except the terrible bloat. My stomach is still about the same with the same very small bump when I am not bloated. I thought I would be bigger by now or still have some symptoms. I hate to always worry...

 

[RaspberryK]

My symptoms have gone too - in fact I only really had 2 weeks of sickness/nausea.
I saw my baby a week ago, and heard the heartbeat on the doppler on Monday night.
The placenta is taking over/has taken over and so the amount of hormones (ones that make you feel like crap and give you symptoms) are no longer required to sustain the pregnancy. Thus you feel better.
xx

 

[MellyH]

Yeah this is when the placentas start taking over, so your symptoms *should* be going away!

I'm sure in a few weeks when I am where you are I'll feel the same though! At the moment I am extremely fatigued, like, barely able to function at my desk, and I am barely keeping my lunch down.

 

[2nd time]

I still feel so sick its hard to function
I also have this 2eird thing when im pregnant my heart rythem changes andbi get ectopic heats (feels like it skips a beat) and shows on an ecg the last few times I have been preg it would skipmliie every 6 or 9 beats this time its every 2 beats and its maiing me feel weird

 

[savvysaver]

Thanks girls, it is good to know that my symptoms should be going away...I guess I figured I would feel more pregnant by now!

I wanted to stay away from buying a doppler but maybe using one would make me not worry as much.

 

[swanxxsong]

This is definitely more of a "limbo" part of pregnancy. Symptoms begin to fade. But most women don't have a large bump and aren't feeling movements yet, so it's kind of a tricky period of time! LOL.

I remember with my daughter that once my sickness faded, I didn't feel pregnant at all until I got a proper bump and felt movements. I just felt fat and exhausted.

 

[MellyH]

I wonder if the Doppler is harder with twins? Trying to find the two separate beats?

2nd time, make sure you mention it to your doctor so they can keep track of you!

 

[Feronia]

Bleh, I hate the uncertainty. I feel like I'm not getting bigger, and while I still have symptoms, googling was NOT a good idea. I just found posts of people saying they had MMCs while still having major symptoms.... so not helpful for my state of mind!

 

[MellyH]

Big hugs, Feronia. Chances are, baby is okay.

 

[savvysaver]

I wonder if the Doppler is harder with twins? Trying to find the two separate beats?

That was my biggest concern.
Is this your first pregnancy Melly? This is mine so everything is new to me and unfortunately I am a nervous person in general.

 

[savvysaver]

Feronia, Google is never a good idea but I am unfortunately addicted which just makes things worse. I am not getting bigger either which I thought would happen faster with twins. I am tall, 5'10", and my stomach is pretty flat when I am not bloated. I guess I expected a bigger bump by now. Hoping all is well with your little bean!

 

[MrsTM1]

Scan date has finally come through! 20th of August at 9:30 am. I'll be 12+5 that day!

 

[MellyH]

I wonder if the Doppler is harder with twins? Trying to find the two separate beats?

That was my biggest concern.
Is this your first pregnancy Melly? This is mine so everything is new to me and unfortunately I am a nervous person in general.

Yes, it is! In general I wouldn't say I'm a worrier, I'm pretty sure I lack some core survival instinct that has kept humanity going for thousands of years. My husband is more risk-averse than I am, so he evens me out.

MrsTM1 - yay for a scan date!! The countdown is on!

savvy, I have had to step away from Google - spent way too much time this morning trying to find out what the chances of vanishing twin syndrome happening after both heartbeats were seen at 9 weeks, and couldn't find any numbers to reassure myself with! I'm definitely a numbers person.

 

[savvysaver]

Melly, so exciting for twins on our first pregnancies! I am definitely finding out their genders.

I always say I will stop with google but I always find myself looking up something. I too researched vanishing twin syndrome. I won't feel better until I am holding both healthy babies in my arms.

 

[swanxxsong]

Feronia, bug hugs! Google is evil. I definitely have like.... No bump. Just flab from my kiddo... 2.5 years later. Lol!

 

[MellyH]

Frankly I'm glad for the excuse for the bump that I already have!

 

[SurpriseBub]

I am also a member of the ill-advised googling club. I am also becoming a little too insane on the food limitations. Stupid listeria fears!

We are all inching closer to first trimester being over from my research, it seems like a lot of people miscarry by 6 weeks, so having seen a heartbeat at 9 helped put my mind at ease... For a while...!

It is so easy to get swept up in the bad numbers, and the bad stories. But I have been trying to focus on he good: 85% of pregnancies end in a healthy birth, and every week that goes by, each of our odds get better and better.

I am for sure a worrier, and will worry... But I am also hopeful of driving home with a little bundle of joy less than 7 months from now. I guess that is the emotional roller coaster of pregnancy.

 

[Feronia]

Thank you all, I actually feel a lot better. DH is a realist so sometimes he doesn't know how to just comfort me for the sake of comfort, but that's okay. I appreciate his realism in most contexts.

I am also a numbers person and statistics give me comfort. I couldn't find anything in the scientific literature on the rate of MMCs, so naturally I start to google, and of course I find selected stories and start to succumb to misleading vividness!

We actually decided to forego the 30-week plan and tell my mom and FIL/ MIL today, haha. DH and I were talking and realized that our vacation might be ruined with drama if we wait that long! They were actually far more excited than I thought they would be. FIL did tell us to "stop at 2" (which I didn't appreciate even though we are definitely stopping at 2) but otherwise they were only happy! They even offered to give us money to upgrade to a 4-door car -- woo!