FEBRUARY HEARTS Due in February 2015 , open group all welcome!

[SurpriseBub]

Thank you all, I actually feel a lot better. DH is a realist so sometimes he doesn't know how to just comfort me for the sake of comfort, but that's okay. I appreciate his realism in most contexts.

I am also a numbers person and statistics give me comfort. I couldn't find anything in the scientific literature on the rate of MMCs, so naturally I start to google, and of course I find selected stories and start to succumb to misleading vividness!

We actually decided to forego the 30-week plan and tell my mom and FIL/ MIL today, haha. DH and I were talking and realized that our vacation might be ruined with drama if we wait that long! They were actually far more excited than I thought they would be. FIL did tell us to "stop at 2" (which I didn't appreciate even though we are definitely stopping at 2) but otherwise they were only happy! They even offered to give us money to upgrade to a 4-door car -- woo!

Yay- how lovely! (Bar the comment on how many children to have!)... It is always wonderful when people surprise you in a good way.

 

[MellyH]

Yay, I'm glad the news went well this time.

 

[MissEyre]

I'm right there with you ladies on the whole disappearing symptoms act. I'll have myself completely positive that I've had a MC until I feel like crap again the next day. In fact, last night I woke up in the middle of the night for a bathroom trip and had a hard time falling back asleep because I felt not pregnant. I don't have anything resembling a bump yet either which doesn't help. Google is downright terrifying. Hard to believe that we're getting out of the morning sickness stage.

 

[xxshellsxx]

I wonder if the Doppler is harder with twins? Trying to find the two separate beats?

That was my biggest concern.
Is this your first pregnancy Melly? This is mine so everything is new to me and unfortunately I am a nervous person in general.

Yes, it is! In general I wouldn't say I'm a worrier, I'm pretty sure I lack some core survival instinct that has kept humanity going for thousands of years. My husband is more risk-averse than I am, so he evens me out.

MrsTM1 - yay for a scan date!! The countdown is on!

savvy, I have had to step away from Google - spent way too much time this morning trying to find out what the chances of vanishing twin syndrome happening after both heartbeats were seen at 9 weeks, and couldn't find any numbers to reassure myself with! I'm definitely a numbers person.

This is my first too! I Googled exactly the same statistics and my biggest fear is getting to my scan next week and only having one. I know as of Monday there is still one beating heart for sure as heard it on the doppler at midwife. I know the other one was hiding behind the first one at the scan so likely that's why she couldn't get it but even though I said I wouldn't worry I have been! Thursday needs to be here now lol. If I could get my hands on a doppler for home without ordering online I would. X

 

[MellyH]

Do you have something to distract yourself with over the weekend, shell? I hope next Thursday is here before you know it.

 

[Captain]

Water at home makes me sick, cranberry juice makes me sick, pop makes me sick. I've been soooo freakin thirsty the last couple of days because I haven't been able to drink anything!

9PM drive to the grocery store to get those kiddies cartons of five alive and YES, I CAN DRINK SOMETHING!!

 

[British Mummy]

Don't you wish you could 'like'other people's posts as well as thank them. Sometimes thank doesn't always apply but liking does if you get me?

 

[RaspberryK]

I think 1% of all pregnancies end in a missed miscarriage is the percentage often quoted.
So you have a 99% chance of this not happening to you.
Xx

 

[MiniBump]

This baby-making business is hard! Can't believe some of you are almost 12 weeks and having to worry about MMC, urgh, it shouldn't be like this, it should be a time of joy!

I've also been googling brown discharge even though I've had it in both previous pregnancies! One was fine, one was not so I know it can go either way yet I'm still googling!

Re. the dreaded bloat - does anyone else wake up with a flat tummy and get more bloated as the day goes on? Every morning I convince myself I'm not getting bigger and it's all gone wrong but by evening, I feel huge! My nausea also appears to be improving (trying desperately to not see that as a bad sign, lol!)

Look in the dictionary under 'Paranoid' and there'll be a picture of me, ha ha!!

 

[xxshellsxx]

Do you have something to distract yourself with over the weekend, shell? I hope next Thursday is here before you know it.

Not a lot on this weekend - which is unusual for us, but this is our quiet time with our work (our own business). Going shopping today for flat shoes! I can't wear heels anymore my sciatica is already playing up I have a lovely maternity dress for my friend engagement party on saturday night and need flat sandles/shoes to wear with it as all i have are heels!

Would be rude not to pop in to babies r us while i'm over that way and have a look.... my mum and teenage nephew (who is probably more excited than we are that we're having babies lol) are coming along for the tripx

 

[xxshellsxx]

minibump my bump was definitely smaller in the morning and then bloat would make it huge... bloat is much less now and it's pretty even most of the time now x

 

[RaspberryK]

shells you are lucky as there are loads of lovely flats in the shops at the moment!
I am going to be keeping and eye out for flattish boots this autumn, my trusty boots that I have been wearing for 5 winters have too high a heel for heavily pregnant me so they will have to go away til the following year.
I didn't manage to get into babies r us the other day when I picked up my click and collect from Mothercare so I will have to make another trip soon.
I was a bit disappointed with what they had in store in Mothercare but it looks like they are changing seasons or something - at least there is a loo in there though lol.
xx

 

[swanxxsong]

Feronia I am so glad that telling the parents went well, save for the one remark! I bet that's a weight off your shoulders!

I tried the baking soda test that was discussed a few days ago. Said girl. I have no gut feeling at this point but am slightly leaning toward boy, only because so far things have been so different from my girl. I know that means nothing, but still. LOL.

 

[kittykat7210]

Feronia I am so glad that telling the parents went well, save for the one remark! I bet that's a weight off your shoulders!

I tried the baking soda test that was discussed a few days ago. Said girl. I have no gut feeling at this point but am slightly leaning toward boy, only because so far things have been so different from my girl. I know that means nothing, but still. LOL.

its weird for me, because all tests have pointed to a girl ( i know they're all fun but you know) but my gut feeling is that its a boy, and i have no idea why, i just have this feeling its a boy!!

 

[ShamzLovesKai]

So of course I have freaked myself out. Have been using the doppler for the past 3 days now and still haven't found the heartbeat. I've got myself into this stupid mess thinking that come the 6th there will be no heartbeat at my scan.

Anyone else tried a doppler and not been able to hear the heartbeat but everything been ok?

 

[Feronia]

Re. the dreaded bloat - does anyone else wake up with a flat tummy and get more bloated as the day goes on? Every morning I convince myself I'm not getting bigger and it's all gone wrong but by evening, I feel huge!

Look in the dictionary under 'Paranoid' and there'll be a picture of me, ha ha!!

Same here! I wake up with a flat tummy and am totally convinced that I'm not getting any bigger. Then I bloat more and more throughout the day. I sometimes will pick out a shirt that hides my pregnancy in the morning, and then by the afternoon it's obvious... I even had a colleague ask another colleague whether I was pregnant behind my back!

 

[ttc126]

So of course I have freaked myself out. Have been using the doppler for the past 3 days now and still haven't found the heartbeat. I've got myself into this stupid mess thinking that come the 6th there will be no heartbeat at my scan.

Anyone else tried a doppler and not been able to hear the heartbeat but everything been ok?

Shamz, i read posts like this all the time. With my son, the midwife herself took half an hour to find it at my appt at 11+4. I was freaking out!

This time my ob found it right away at 12+1 with this baby. But she warned it might take her a minute and i shouldnt get worked up.

It's so hit and miss too find it at this stage. It gets easier and easier as you get further along. Have you looked at videos online? Some people say that is helpful.

I personally don't use a home Doppler because i know I'd lose it if i can't find baby. Try not to worry. I hope everything is just fine

 

[ShamzLovesKai]

Thank you TTC..
I'm just trying to keep calm and be patient for my scan. So hard though. When does it get easier and exciting?!! Just feel like I'm stressed and worried all the time

 

[MellyH]

Captain - I have gone through 4L of milk this week, it's the only thing I can drink reliably that doesn't make me feel gross! I keep justifying it because it's calcium, good for building babies.

shell - I have had to physically restrain myself from detouring past Gymboree on the way home from work every night. So I think you should stop at Babies R Us if you want!!

Shamz, hopefully it will get easier after the 6th. When you see a heartbeat then (and you most likely will!) there is a very very small chance of anything happening after that point.

My husband changed his travel plans to come back a day early, HOORAYYYYYY! I mean, it's only a day, and he's been gone for three weeks, but since every day is dragging forever and I feel tired and miserable and sick most of the time, I will take it.

 

[Captain]

Melly I'll never forget my idiot brother-in-law telling my sister to drink milk during her first pregnancy as its good for the baby's teeth!

Milk has also been pretty good for me too, I've been putting some nesquik in them for a bit of flavour. My husband works away too so I know how nice a day early can be!