February Lovebugs of 2016!! 16 pink, 15 blue, 7 yellow

[mitchnorm]

I was thinking about going and not speaking to my aunt, or leaving if anyone tries to be negative, but I really DON'T WANT TO GO AT ALL.

My grandmother deleted me off Facebook. Normally, I wouldn't care, but that's my grandmother. Clearly she doesn't care enough to keep me and the kids in her life so why should I go?

I certainly wouldn't go if that's the case!!! sorry they're being rubbish
Thanks ladies about the cramping....feel better

 

[FaithHopeLov3]

I have to keep reminding myself to enjoy all parts of this pregnancy. I find myself rushing the time away because I'm anxious to get out of the first trimester but I told myself before we started trying that I wanted to just enjoy everything since this will be my last baby. It's hard to remember that when you can barely keep your eyes open though.

Fully agree! I find myself wishing I could sleep the first trimester away.... but then I do remember how quickly the 2nd and 3rd goes. Since I'm really sick again with this pregnancy, I am allowing myself to have really bad days where I watch way too much Netflix to keep my mind off the sickness and then on good days I soak up the good pregnancy vibes It makes me feel a littttttle less guilty and slightly less anxious especially since DD is a busy toddler and I can't always entertain her the way I used to.

I hope everyone's first appts go well, this is so exciting going through everything together my first ultrasound (dating scan) is booked for July 3rd!

 

[FaithHopeLov3]

Help me out ladies

I announced my pregnancy two weeks ago and my family didn't take it well. My mother called me sleazy, my grandmother went into detail about how difficult raising 5 on my own will be (I raise 4 on my own already. I'm sure it's not that much different) because "babies are cute but they grow up and need stuff" and when I explained I was aware of that and I'm not concerned because I provide for them without anyone else's assistance and they have RESPs, her response was "no comment" and she deleted me.

My aunt messaged me calling the baby a deceitful mockery.

My mother defends all of this saying it is out of concern.

My mother messaged me this morning to tell me that my grandmother's birthday, Father's Day and my aunt's MILs bday will all be celebrated next weekend and asked if I'm coming.

Personally, I want to write back "With the way I've been treated, hell-friggin no!". I have to travel an hour to get there.

On the other hand, despite my grandmother's words, I love her and want to be there to support her. I'm just not sure if I can get over everything said to me quick enough for it to not be awkward and me not be angry the entire time. I'm still pissed off and would love nothing more than to cut at least my aunt off. I cut my father's family off 5 years old for something very similar.

What would you do? Suck it up and go, or skip it?

Wow... that's horrible Brandi!
I think it's a tough call. I wouldn't say there is a right or wrong thing to do. You definitely don't need to be stressed out right now, so if you think it will do more harm than good (to you, forget about Grandma for a second) then I would NOT go.
Then again, you may regret not going. People are selfish and judgemental and just plain jealous. If these hurtful comments do come from a place of love then I would say they are afraid- maybe for your well-being or again, maybe they're just being close minded and THEY couldn't handle it so they don't understand why you're choosing this for yourself.

If there are going to be supportive people at the party then I would go and surround myself with them. I have a lot of family drama and the way I try to go about it is like this... I worry about me Was I the super awesome person who showed up despite someone making it difficult to do so? Did I do everything in my power to be nice to this individual? Did I make myself open and available for that person to make amends with me? If you can say yes to those things, you've already won Keep your head up, show them you're not easily shaken and do this (the party, raising the 5 kids etc.) by yourself like you've been doing. Hopefully, they'll come to terms with the choice you've made (it is your life after all) and one day they can be a part of the new little one's life

 

[FaithHopeLov3]

Brandi- that's a tough call... id feel so hurt if my family said anything even close to that to me!

Afm!- Had my first ultrasound today... everything looks great, baby is in the uterus (high risk ectopic) HB @ 150 (my gut instinct says girl) and measuring 3 days ahead... so that now puts me at January 29th due date!!! I hope you ladies don't mind if I hang around... ive already sorta gotten attached to this group heh!

Yay!!! So happy for you
I don't see why you shouldn't hang around?! Maybe baby will be late and you'll still have a Feb baby like us (not that I hope you'll go late! lol)

 

[Jules8]

That's a tough situation. I'm an avoider so I wouldn't go just to keep from the stress. Could you maybe visit the day before or after so you can spend some time without everyone else around?

AFM: I got my results from my bloods and my hcg is only 35 at 14dpo. My doctor said it's lower than what they like to see but they aren't concerned yet. I go in Friday to see of its doubling properly. I was hoping that I would feel better after it was confirmed, now I just feel worried.

 

[FaithHopeLov3]

I was thinking about going and not speaking to my aunt, or leaving if anyone tries to be negative, but I really DON'T WANT TO GO AT ALL.

My grandmother deleted me off Facebook. Normally, I wouldn't care, but that's my grandmother. Clearly she doesn't care enough to keep me and the kids in her life so why should I go?

Oops. missed this...
I still stand behind what I said. Show up, let her look like the immature fool. Social media is so silly, ppl use that unfriending thing as a way to hurt others. NOT cool. Go celebrate everyone, but her

 

[FaithHopeLov3]

That's a tough situation. I'm an avoider so I wouldn't go just to keep from the stress. Could you maybe visit the day before or after so you can spend some time without everyone else around?

AFM: I got my results from my bloods and my hcg is only 35 at 14dpo. My doctor said it's lower than what they like to see but they aren't concerned yet. I go in Friday to see of its doubling properly. I was hoping that I would feel better after it was confirmed, now I just feel worried.

hang in there

 

[mrswichman]

Help me out ladies

I announced my pregnancy two weeks ago and my family didn't take it well. My mother called me sleazy, my grandmother went into detail about how difficult raising 5 on my own will be (I raise 4 on my own already. I'm sure it's not that much different) because "babies are cute but they grow up and need stuff" and when I explained I was aware of that and I'm not concerned because I provide for them without anyone else's assistance and they have RESPs, her response was "no comment" and she deleted me.

My aunt messaged me calling the baby a deceitful mockery.

My mother defends all of this saying it is out of concern.

My mother messaged me this morning to tell me that my grandmother's birthday, Father's Day and my aunt's MILs bday will all be celebrated next weekend and asked if I'm coming.

Personally, I want to write back "With the way I've been treated, hell-friggin no!". I have to travel an hour to get there.

On the other hand, despite my grandmother's words, I love her and want to be there to support her. I'm just not sure if I can get over everything said to me quick enough for it to not be awkward and me not be angry the entire time. I'm still pissed off and would love nothing more than to cut at least my aunt off. I cut my father's family off 5 years old for something very similar.

What would you do? Suck it up and go, or skip it?

I think I would go...maybe they feel this way now but later down the road they will change their minds...don't burn bridges....but of course if it really happened to me...I could react a different way...IDK. I wish you luck in your decision.

AFM: Only my family knows and husbands parents...I work with my aunt...and I told her I wasn't feeling good, she said it's all in my head. Doubtful I think the acid reflux and feeling the urge to get sick all over everything and extreme tiredness and newest thing all the trips to the restroom is not in my head.

Everyone!!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Jules, what the number starts as is not as important as the doubling time. Good luck!!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

According to BetaBase, the average level for 10dpo is 43. Mine was 17, and it skyrocketed from there. All levels have to start somewhere

 

[emrhian91]

I'd be fuming Brandi.....that's so out of order. However if you do love her and will regret not going then I would go .....join in the festivities but don't get drawn into conversation about the pregnancy....sad as it is, it will only upset you and get you all stressed. Me personally I probably wouldn't go to make a stand but then I am stubborn....totally....only you can make this decision. Sorry they put you in this position. Are they close to your other kids?

Mondie glad everythings ok

I am getting some gentle cramps in lower abdomen on right hand side....normal? also slightly sore lower back. A little worried but not a lot I can do I guess x

I've had cramping like this.
Told my doctor today and he didn't seem concerned

 

[ajarvis]

Jules the doubling is important not the number necessarily. Link below gives you an idea of how things can change if you implant late etc. It's actually a really neat tool

https://whenmybaby.com/implantation-doubling-calculator.php

 

[Jules8]

Thank you guys. I'm trying to let myself relax and tell myself what will be, will be. In the meantime I just cleared walmarts .88 tests off the shelf to hold me over til Friday. Lol

 

[ajarvis]

88 cent tests at walmart? Had no idea lol. Cheapest here are like 5 bucks I think.

 

[BrittRashel]

Brandi, in that case, don't go. You really don't need any added stress right now, especially given the situation you are going through with your house. If it makes them mad, oh well. They'll get over it. You just do what is best for you and those babies.

Jules, I agree. Don't get worried until you can see your doctor on Friday. I know that is easier said than done and I am such a hypocrite as I worry over everything but I'm working on it. You don't need to worry until your doctor starts getting worried.

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Jarvis, they don't sell the $0.88 ones here in Canada, but Dollarama has a brand for $1.25. They also carry the Sobey's Compliments brand for $3.

 

[ajarvis]

Yea I know some people that find the dollarama ones But I never have. It's so hit and miss.

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Try smaller towns. They seem to sell out less often than in bigger cities. All four of our locations were sold out, so I took a 20 minute drive to the one in the small town over and they had TONS.

 

[Jules8]

They are forever out whenever I go because people stock up. I was only going to get the first response since I had a $3 off coupon and they had just restocked. Thank goodness for self check out...

 

[ajarvis]

I don't POAS often enough to matter. But I know quite a few people that do lol