feeding rooms - am i wrong?

[jess_smurf]

tell me if i am being a bitch !!

went into mothercare to change her and top up her feed which i had part done in mac donalds ( with a guy trying to cop a look but hey !!) so popped to mothercare , was struggling getting into changing room to have 2 women in there bottle feeding, not being funny but they can do that comfortably anywhere and there was a lack of space. i could just get in to change her had to go home instead so had an upset journey home . I was bit upset that i couldnt feed her at all

 

[lynnikins]

OMG i would have said something to the staff about it,
btw i just lay the puschair flat and put a portable change mat underneath EJ when im needing to change him and cant get into a change room for whatever reason, its a bit fiddlier but ive found its nessacary at the big shopping centres close to christmas time lol theres always a HUGE queue for changing rooms

 

[LogansMama]

Why not just feed her in the car or something? I mean - I don't blame you for being upset about the 2 bottle feeding in there... but still. If it were me I would have just found somewhere to sit and got on with it. I'm not quite as shy as I used to be though either. I always just carry a receiving blanket with me and cover up with that.

Heck - the other day I was at WalMart and baby was having a fit. I sat down on the bottom of an empty shelf and fed him right there! There was no where else to go and I wasn't about to listen to him scream for another second!

 

[jess_smurf]

i dont drive i did a bit of feeding in mac donalds but couldnt get comfortable so went there just to finish her feed

maybe i am being bit too demanding then

 

[Arcanegirl]

Is there anywhere else in mothercare someone could comfortably sit and feed a baby with a bottle?
The rooms are catered for both ways of feeding, i have fed both ways in the room and wouldnt expect anyone to move, nor moved myself because bottle feeding is easier.

 

[Eala]

Our Mothercare has a bottle warmer, and convenient counter-top areas with a pack of anti-bacterial wipes so you can make it clean for preparing your bottle.

I know it sometimes seems like bottle feeding Mums have it easier, but it isn't necessarily as simple as "apply bottle to baby and go!" I always prefer a quieter area to feed my LO, as otherwise she gets distracted way too easily.

 

[jess_smurf]

looks like i am being a grump then nevermind

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

I understand why you would feel that way hun

But it does have a bottle warmer in etc. I used them in winter as thats when Aidan was newborn and I wanted somewhere warm to feed him
xx

 

[v2007]

Your not a grump at all.

I live in a tiny town and when i was BF Ktie, i had no where to go.

The toilets in the market had a feeding room but the smell is awful and there is no door.

You have every right to be upset, we are encouraged to feed in public but sometimes its bloody hard to find a quiet spot.

Im sorry you had to come home.



V xxx

 

[polaris]

Is there anywhere else in mothercare someone could comfortably sit and feed a baby with a bottle?
The rooms are catered for both ways of feeding, i have fed both ways in the room and wouldnt expect anyone to move, nor moved myself because bottle feeding is easier.

I agree with this - Thomas is breastfed but I never would have bothered with feeding rooms when he was younger, I just fed him where-ever, but now that he's older he just won't take a feed unless we are somewhere quiet and private so feeding rooms are great. But whether a baby is breast-fed or bottle-fed, they still need an appropriate environment to take a feed.

 

[xUniquex]

TBH hun i totally get where you are coming from,and no i don't think that you are wrong at all!!

I understand that feeding rooms are for 'both' types of feed,and that FF babies sometimes need a quiet place to feed,however with you having such a young bub i know it must have been nerve wracking for you to be out and feeding in public.

It all depends on the amount of confidence that you have and sadly that just has to be built up over time.

I personally have never used a feeding room,because every one i have been in has been smelly and nasty,with the chair next to the toilet!

I think the best option here would of been to either wait for one of the ladies to finish feeding (save a bus journey with an unhappy bub home) or even just 'test' out one of the feeding chairs!!!

Being Mothercare i would of thought it may be a little easier to feed in there compared to McDonalds.

Chin up and don't worry~!!Welcome to the minefield that is BREASTFEEDING lool

xxxx

 

[Pixie71]

hi i bf Thomas where ever and use a muslin cloth as a shawl over him!!

 

[LogansMama]

Just want to add - I don't think you were wrong to be upset. I just think you could have probably fed him somewhere else if you had been a little more confident. Like someone else said though - that takes some time to build though.

Don't worry - with time it will get easier... and you will get more comfortable the more you do it.

I just try to avoid all eye contact with others while I am getting baby latched on... and then once we are situated its all good.

Also - the real help is wearing a top that is conducive to breastfeeding. I like to wear a tank top under my shirt. That way I can pull my shirt up and the tank down. The tank covers my belly and the shirt covers my breast while baby is eating. And then i still cover up with a blanket.

 

[teal]

I don't think you're wrong to feel a bit upset but I agree that feeding in public does get easier

 

[PB&J]

I can see why you're upset. Of course FF mums have as much right to use the room as anyone though so I think I'd have waited, even though it's easier said than done with a screaming bub!
When I had just started I went to our mothercare to use feeding room and there was a dad in there (which is brilliant that he was looking after LO) so I just couldn't bring myself to feed jenny in a little room with a man close by. Was so self-conscious at first I hated doing it in front of female friends. Now, of course, I'll do it wherever.
I went to a mothercare recently that had a feeding room and a NURSING room, which was a good idea I thought. The nursing room said mums only.

 

[Snowball]

I can see why it upset you hun

As much as bf and ff mothers have a right to use the room, for it to be full in any instance when you have a hungry baby is annoying.

I bf Ozzie still and I am not comfortable feeding in public, I just couldn't relax in the view of others. Infact, I only bf infront of my DH. So yes, if I was that situation I would find it frustrating

I actually envy the mums on here who do bf in public

 

[aurora]

I would have stood by them and done it as long as I could, huffing and puffing to make my point. lol

 

[curlykate]

I know this might tick off some FF mommies, but I agree with the OP.
While I understand that some FF babies need the quiet of a nursing room, I think that BFing mothers should be given preference in these situations.
Mothers get mush less negative response when they're feeding from a bottle then a breast in public. Not to mention that many mothers aren't comfortable BFing in public, but sometimes they have no choice. I think we should make it easier on them. I exclusively BF, but if I was feeding a bottle of EBM, and someone came into a nursing room to BF and there were no seats, I would gladly give mine up.

 

[CocoaOne]

^WSS

Also regarding the distractible baby issue - I think it's more of an issue for BF mums. If bottle fed babies keep pulling away from the bottle they might get some milk on their face or bib. When my LO pulls off the nipple (especially during let down) anyone within a 5 foot radius is risking milk in their eye!

 

[aurora]

^WSS

Also regarding the distractible baby issue - I think it's more of an issue for BF mums. If bottle fed babies keep pulling away from the bottle they might get some milk on their face or bib. When my LO pulls off the nipple (especially during let down) anyone within a 5 foot radius is risking milk in their eye!