feeding rooms - am i wrong?

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most probably the FF mums in the feeding room either werent aware or didnt care but that doesnt stop there being a need for BF friendly areas and i think the OP was trying to get at the point that she specifically went to Mothercare as she knew there was a feeding room to get some privacy to finish her babys feed and found 2 women there who didnt need the room for " privacy " reasons at least as they werent pulling a boob out to feed so felt justifiably annoyed that her own baby would have to either wait there for a meal or wait till they got home as she didnt feel comfortable completing the feed outside of a feeding room,

thats the thing though the FFers went in the room and obviously there was space for them, so i dont understand, why should they move because BFer comes in and wants privacy? why should their babies feed be affected, or should they have not used a room with a bottle on the door just incase someone wanted to BF in that time? it shouldnt be about the fact they were FF, fair enough to be annoyed there wasnt enough room to feed but not nice to assume they should get up because she wants to BF, no im sorry but if its full then tough luck she should have to wait just like id have to or anyone else, BF does not give you priority to a feeding room, effectively its saying my baby should go hungry because i give him a bottle and not a boob.
 
most probably the FF mums in the feeding room either werent aware or didnt care but that doesnt stop there being a need for BF friendly areas and i think the OP was trying to get at the point that she specifically went to Mothercare as she knew there was a feeding room to get some privacy to finish her babys feed and found 2 women there who didnt need the room for " privacy " reasons at least as they werent pulling a boob out to feed so felt justifiably annoyed that her own baby would have to either wait there for a meal or wait till they got home as she didnt feel comfortable completing the feed outside of a feeding room,

thats the thing though the FFers went in the room and obviously there was space for them, so i dont understand, why should they move because BFer comes in and wants privacy? why should their babies feed be affected, or should they have not used a room with a bottle on the door just incase someone wanted to BF in that time? it shouldnt be about the fact they were FF, fair enough to be annoyed there wasnt enough room to feed but not nice to assume they should get up because she wants to BF, no im sorry but if its full then tough luck she should have to wait just like id have to or anyone else, BF does not give you priority to a feeding room, effectively its saying my baby
should go hungry because i give him a bottle and not a boob.

I have to agree with you.
 
I bottle feed in Mothercare. I wouldn't just give him cold milk or milk which has been kept warm all day.. I heat the water up using the bottle warmers they supply.. then make it up and feed him comfortably. I don't want to sound selfish I mean maybe they could have left their prams outside for room but the room is made for FF/BF & changing. So I don't think you had more right to be in there than FF moms.

On another note, I think more places should provide places to feed. The amount of coffee's I have bought just to sit in a cafe without wanting one is ridiculous, should have a moms & babys room.
 
Another thought would anyone expect a bfing mummy to move if the room was full? Food for thought
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I wouldn't expect *anyone* to move if the room was full. I'd just find somewhere else to feed my LO, or I'd wait. And if I was feeding my son in a full feeding room and someone came in and looked around for somewhere to sit, I might be a bit quicker in getting him back in the pushchair/sling but I wouldn't be rushing or curtailing his feed. I *couldn't* even if I did want to.

Other than that I agree with Boothh's posts in this thread.
 
Although I can see both sides of the argument,if I was FF'ing Lennon in one of those rooms and I knew someone was waiting to breastfeed I would move but unless they specifically said,I dont know how I would know they were intending to breastfeed and not get a bottle out?!
Just because I'm happy to sit down and feed Lennon anywhere and I know some breastfeeding mums arent.
Thats just me though,I dont think FF mums should HAVE to move,just me personally,I would.
 
I have a nursing cover that i use for feeding out and about and i will use it to feed anywhere! I wouldn't use a nursing room even if it was empty as they usually smell like dirty nappies so there is no way I am sitting in there.

I think ff and bf mums have as much right to use the rooms as each other. You could have asked them to shift up a bit so you could fit in too or asked the staff to provide a chair for you to use. Some babies are easily distracted when feeding so it can be hard to feed them, perhaps that's why the mums were in there so they could feed their babies without them trying to look all round the place resulting in milk everywhere!

Also for what it's worth I certainly wouldn't judge anyone who is ff or combination feeding...each to their own and all that. I bf because it suits me and my baby and you ff because it suits you and your baby.
 
I am more concerned that the room was only big enough for two sitting mums, aint no formula verses breastfeeding row from this end.
 
most probably the FF mums in the feeding room either werent aware or didnt care but that doesnt stop there being a need for BF friendly areas and i think the OP was trying to get at the point that she specifically went to Mothercare as she knew there was a feeding room to get some privacy to finish her babys feed and found 2 women there who didnt need the room for " privacy " reasons at least as they werent pulling a boob out to feed so felt justifiably annoyed that her own baby would have to either wait there for a meal or wait till they got home as she didnt feel comfortable completing the feed outside of a feeding room,

thats the thing though the FFers went in the room and obviously there was space for them, so i dont understand, why should they move because BFer comes in and wants privacy? why should their babies feed be affected, or should they have not used a room with a bottle on the door just incase someone wanted to BF in that time? it shouldnt be about the fact they were FF, fair enough to be annoyed there wasnt enough room to feed but not nice to assume they should get up because she wants to BF, no im sorry but if its full then tough luck she should have to wait just like id have to or anyone else, BF does not give you priority to a feeding room, effectively its saying my baby should go hungry because i give him a bottle and not a boob.

I agree with this, I think it is the baby's needs that are the most important regardless of how they are being fed. Nobody should be expected to move if they are in the middle of feeding their baby.
 
tell me if i am being a bitch !!

went into mothercare to change her and top up her feed which i had part done in mac donalds ( with a guy trying to cop a look but hey !!) so popped to mothercare , was struggling getting into changing room to have 2 women in there bottle feeding, not being funny but they can do that comfortably anywhere and there was a lack of space. i could just get in to change her had to go home instead so had an upset journey home :(. I was bit upset that i couldnt feed her at all

I just wanted to repost the original post to remind people (who are like dogs with bones) that the OP NEVER SAID that the FF Mums should move!!

she simply states that she was 'bit upset that i couldnt feed her at all' and 'not being funny but they can do that comfortably anywhere'

I don't think that this thread was intended to start yet another 'BF's think they are better than FF's' or FF bashing thread.. in my view it was more of a rant .. a new mum having a bit of a vent at a frustrating situation!!!

I also think that if you find certain 'comments' offensive then you should not bother coming onto the thread,because it's a downward spiral from there!!

TBH i think that the OP was more frustrated that she not only struggled to get into the room,but also that she couldn't feed as she had intended.

This kind of frustration is much the same as seeing able bodied people get into a lift so you have to wait because they dont want to use the stairs and you have no CHOICE because you have a pram.
Or being pregnant and with shopping and getting onto a bus and noone offering a seat.


The OP complained more about the lack of space in the feeding/changing room than she did about the FF mums!

I don't believe for one second that she thought they should disturb their babies so she could feed hers!

A suitable reply would perhaps have been one showing empathy on the difficult situation,the frustration of being a new BF'in Mum and suggestion of what could be done should it happen again.

Why these things have to turn into FF vs BF is beyond me!!
 
I think more places should be considerate of parents who need to feed regardless of BF/FF, where I live the Mothercare doesnt have a room and the only one is next to the toilets at one end of the centre, the other shopping centres dont have one at all!

I BF and do it in coffee shops which always means getting a coffee, so now I try and feed before going out so that I dont get trapped and if I need to I give him BF in the car!! I do get some funny looks but so what they cant see anything as I use a muslin cloth to cover him!

I do think the area for feeding should be much bigger or there should be more rooms available!
 
This is when a slimg is a good idea i think.... do it on the go, no one can see anything..... no need to make bubs wait until you've found somewhere to sit down, which is one major drawback of feeding rooms i think... they are few and far between, and half the time they aren't very nice!
 
Might try that havent used mine much wonder if he would feed like that?? He is so whingy today that Ive not been able to get much done! Might try walking around with him in it to see if he will get used to it.
 
tell me if i am being a bitch !!

went into mothercare to change her and top up her feed which i had part done in mac donalds ( with a guy trying to cop a look but hey !!) so popped to mothercare , was struggling getting into changing room to have 2 women in there bottle feeding, not being funny but they can do that comfortably anywhere and there was a lack of space. i could just get in to change her had to go home instead so had an upset journey home :(. I was bit upset that i couldnt feed her at all

I just wanted to repost the original post to remind people (who are like dogs with bones) that the OP NEVER SAID that the FF Mums should move!!

she simply states that she was 'bit upset that i couldnt feed her at all' and 'not being funny but they can do that comfortably anywhere'

I don't think that this thread was intended to start yet another 'BF's think they are better than FF's' or FF bashing thread.. in my view it was more of a rant .. a new mum having a bit of a vent at a frustrating situation!!!

I also think that if you find certain 'comments' offensive then you should not bother coming onto the thread,because it's a downward spiral from there!!

TBH i think that the OP was more frustrated that she not only struggled to get into the room,but also that she couldn't feed as she had intended.

This kind of frustration is much the same as seeing able bodied people get into a lift so you have to wait because they dont want to use the stairs and you have no CHOICE because you have a pram.
Or being pregnant and with shopping and getting onto a bus and noone offering a seat.


The OP complained more about the lack of space in the feeding/changing room than she did about the FF mums!

I don't believe for one second that she thought they should disturb their babies so she could feed hers!

A suitable reply would perhaps have been one showing empathy on the difficult situation,the frustration of being a new BF'in Mum and suggestion of what could be done should it happen again.

Why these things have to turn into FF vs BF is beyond me!!


why bring up the fact they were FF then, can you imagine the onsalught if somebody wouldve posted that in the FF bit, 'there were two BF mums and i couldnt feed my baby' LOL, how many people wouldve taken offence to that,
it would be the oo people have a problem with me BFing cards out!

sorry but the implication is definatly there that she thought they should not be there! once again we all have as much right to use these rooms as each other,

the OP might not have said specifically that but lots of other replies in here implied the same thing,

and whos to say they couldve fed comfortably anywere else how many people have said their baby needs a quite place to feed which is what these rooms provide,

dont have a problem with BF at all and didnt manage to get very far with it with DS and plan to try again with #2 i hold no judgement on anybody for how they choose to feed, and would expect the same respect from other people, clearly from some of the replies thats not the case though,

the general feeling of the OP and most of the replies seems to be that the FF shouldnt use the room cus BF cant feed 'just anywere' like you assume FF can,
 
and also, if i ever come in here its to offer support, normally when people are upset about reaction theyve gotten in public etc, and seen lots of anti FF comments in the past and ignored but everyone has a breaking point, never normally get involved in threads like this but sometimes i need to express my opinion! :) :flower:
 
i do understand what you are saying hun.....though i cant relate wholly as i feed remi anywhere!! I have even fed her at a bus stop!
 
I think there are about 3 or 4 replies in this whole thread that say they think BFing should possibly be prioritised over FF. No one has said that FF mums should be kicked out if a BF mum comes in. So in fact most replies have said that the rooms are provided for both, and that they would try another solution.
 
why bring up the fact they were FF then, can you imagine the onsalught if somebody wouldve posted that in the FF bit, 'there were two BF mums and i couldnt feed my baby' LOL, how many people wouldve taken offence to that,
it would be the oo people have a problem with me BFing cards out!

sorry but the implication is definatly there that she thought they should not be there! once again we all have as much right to use these rooms as each other,

the OP might not have said specifically that but lots of other replies in here implied the same thing,

and whos to say they couldve fed comfortably anywere else how many people have said their baby needs a quite place to feed which is what these rooms provide,

dont have a problem with BF at all and didnt manage to get very far with it with DS and plan to try again with #2 i hold no judgement on anybody for how they choose to feed, and would expect the same respect from other people, clearly from some of the replies thats not the case though,

the general feeling of the OP and most of the replies seems to be that the FF shouldnt use the room cus BF cant feed 'just anywere' like you assume FF can,

I think that the posts regarding FF perhaps not needing the room as much as BF have been pretty well written and all have given reasons why (such as when you BF and baby gets distracted everyone cops a flash !)

FF might cop a hard time from HP's and some BF's but when it comes to feeding in public you do generally have it a lot easier!

Again i will state that i think the OP was VENTING.. and she is more than entitled to do so IMO.No doubt just the thought of going out and knowing she would possibly have to feed in public had her feeling uneasy so it's no wonder she got flustered at the situation.

I don't think anyone has more 'rights' to using a feeding room than anyone else,and i think it being first come first served is expected.Trying to turn this into a FF bashing thread simply because in her opinion she believes that they could have fed elsewhere with ease is stupid!!!

If the OP had made outright comments about how the room WASNT for FF or how they should have moved for her then i could understand your defensiveness but the fact is she didn't.. you just took what you wanted from the post and the replies and tried to turn it into a debate!!

Everyone is entitled to an opinion and as long as it is worded in a non-offensive way (which i believe this post was) then i can't see the issue!
So we must all keep our thoughts to ourselves now for fear of offending others?Isn't that kind of defeating the object of a public forum?

TBH i'm tired of people jumping on the defensive about the way in which they feed their kids...and i think that if you may get offended byt hings posted in a section that is not relevant to yourself then you shouldn't waste your time browsing that part of the forum.

I myself have visited the FF section on occassion and have seen MANY a post which annoyed me but there's no point in replying,because ultimately people will do and say what they see fit and you just have to learn to live with it!
 
I do agree that there should be more spaces available to feed babies - no matter how they are fed (after all my boy would propbably be just as distracted if I was trying to give him a bottle rather than boob) and all babies have a right to be fed! So I wouldnt expect anyone to move for me, but I would want the place to have more facilities available. It does sometimes feel like none of us are still 'meant' to be part of society if we have young children, but staying at home chained to the sink :)

i still don't see that anyone really was discriminatory though :shrug: Tbh I just wish mothers would be more supportive of each other rather than get stroppy with each other and presume we're all looking down on each other. Maybe we'd have a bit more power in the world ... But then I wish for lots of things to be different in the world :haha:
 
Think OP made the thread in this section for a reason :roll:
 
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