I'm getting to the stage of of irritable with everything and everyone. And I'm finding it hard getting DD ready for school and taking her. It's my fault we were running late this morning and DD was running off when I was trying to dress her she's only three and I shouted get here now loudly and she came and hit me so I said I can do that too and I hit her on the arm she didn't cry but looked upset and said I'm telling my teacher on you. I felt awful and still do I can't wait to pick her up later and give her hugs. I don't agree with hitting kids that's why I can't believe I've done it. Please feel free to tell me what an awful thing I've done I deserve it. I dOnt want every morning to be like this so I will get up earlier tomorrow. It's all to do with being pregnant I've turned into someone I no longer know I'm ok 80% of the time it's just the other 20% I feel so stressed.
Feel awful for getting cross with DD please slate me!
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sammi.bump
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your not awfull, i go thru this ever morning with my 3 year old, she wants to play i want to get her ready, and she gets sooooo bored whens she's not at school and im so tired and stressed i take it out on her, sometimes i just want to hide under the duvet and cry, but i pull myself together and get on with it, sometimes you just need to take 5 minuets to breath and then start again. big hugs 
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You're not awful at all. Children need to learn that hitting is inappropriate. If that was another child it could have really hurt them.
Personally I wouldn't hit my child but I don't judge people who do. I work with children so have had to deal with situations in other ways. ie naughty step etc.
I know its not the same thing but I get very stressed with my dog just lately, always under my feet and whinging to go for a walk. I love him to bits but there have been time I've felt guilty for getting stressy with him.
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Personally I wouldn't hit my child but I don't judge people who do. I work with children so have had to deal with situations in other ways. ie naughty step etc.
I know its not the same thing but I get very stressed with my dog just lately, always under my feet and whinging to go for a walk. I love him to bits but there have been time I've felt guilty for getting stressy with him.
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I go through the same thing every morning with my 16 year old so rest assured you are not alone (though you may not want to know it doesn't get any better as they get older lol)
Im sure it will all be forgotten when she comes home but she does need to learn that hitting is inappropriate and maybe this has nailed it for you first time
Im sure it will all be forgotten when she comes home but she does need to learn that hitting is inappropriate and maybe this has nailed it for you first time
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Aww, Hun. We're all allowed to lose our tempers, and toddlers are champions at knowing exactly what will set you off.
You're not a horrible mum, there are plenty of people who flip out and beat their kids over nothing. A smack on the arm is not going to send her into therapy.
My 10 year old SD is into hitting ATM. She'll smack her mum or her sister on the arm and if they hit her back, she does it harder. One of her mates is a right spoiled brat and hits her mum all the time, so B now thinks she can.
Maybe you can talk to her about smacking and explain that while you are sorry, she was still wrong for hitting you and that you want an apology from her.
I hope you get it sorted! xxx
You're not a horrible mum, there are plenty of people who flip out and beat their kids over nothing. A smack on the arm is not going to send her into therapy.
My 10 year old SD is into hitting ATM. She'll smack her mum or her sister on the arm and if they hit her back, she does it harder. One of her mates is a right spoiled brat and hits her mum all the time, so B now thinks she can.
Maybe you can talk to her about smacking and explain that while you are sorry, she was still wrong for hitting you and that you want an apology from her.
I hope you get it sorted! xxx
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I know how you feel I feel so awful when I shout at my daughter and yesterday when she was pushing and pushing me and answering me back and i just snapped and shouted so loud she started crying. I felt so awful and was lying in bed last night wanting to go a cuddle with her as a felt so guilty.
But she has been really good and listening to me since.
They need to learn though don't they and it is so hard being nearly full term and being to tires to entertain them constantly xx
But she has been really good and listening to me since.
They need to learn though don't they and it is so hard being nearly full term and being to tires to entertain them constantly xx
Thanks all I feel better although I still feel guilty as hell. Normally I would use naughty step but just didn't have time.
I'm going to try an be a better mum for the rest of this week. It's not worth the guilt. I know she needs to learn but it needs to be other ways instead of shouting and hitting
Thanks all xxx
I'm going to try an be a better mum for the rest of this week. It's not worth the guilt. I know she needs to learn but it needs to be other ways instead of shouting and hitting
Thanks all xxx
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No I won't slate u! Bein heavily preg an a mum is hard! I have 2 kids already an bloody hell they push me to my limits. The fact they made it thru the summer holidays alive is a milestone in itself. X
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Im with you on this, I have a 5yo and a baby who will be 1 this Thursday and I have times (especially school run times) when I have no patience at all, Luke dawdles about and stands there naked staring at tv/photographs/his sister or plays with his bloody willy until Im at the point of screaming at him! I broke down crying the other day and had to explain to him how tired I am and I promied him once the baby was here I would be more patient and less grumpy. He said it OK Mam... I hope he forgets what a witch Ive been lately! Im sure he will once he has a new baby bro or sis to stare at hehehe x
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I'm not going to slate you either. I have a 6 year old and every morning is a nightmare trying to get him ready for school, he plays up and uses delay tactics like every morning, i even lose my temper when i'm not 9 mths pregnant!! 
I've often lost my temper and just wanted to pick him up from school and give him a huge cuddle coz i feel guilty. It happens when you've got kids
I've often lost my temper and just wanted to pick him up from school and give him a huge cuddle coz i feel guilty. It happens when you've got kids
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Girl, you are human. With a human growing inside of you, and far along at that. You are allowed a 'losing my temper' pass every once in a while. I think we've all had those moments (and I don't believe in spanking either). I bet the second she sees you when you pick her up, she's going to have a huge smile on her face and you can cuddle her! Hang in there momma!
