Ok OH and I have been together 4 years and have a 1 year old.
We discussed marriage and children and due to fertility problems decided to try for a baby first and have a wedding afterwards. (He's never officially proposed - just says we will get married).
On the basis of this I gave our daughter his surname at birth as we agreed I would soon have the same name anyway. This was a big deal for me and if marriage had not been discussed she would have taken my name.
Anyway OH has done nothing about proposing etc and I'm starting to get more than a little fed up. Even the doctors didnt recognise the baby as my child because of our different names and now I'm told if I want to take my daughter on a day trip to france I have to have written permission from her dad but because they share their last name HE can take her to any country without any permission from me!!
This is bugging me. I want a simple registry office wedding and a steak dinner afterwards. I'm not looking for a wedding - I want a marriage and to share the family name.
The problem is that now I feel like I'm begging and its so degrading. I so regret giving her his name. Ive said if we were to have another child out of wedlock it would be given my name - see how he likes it. How childish is that!!
Anyone else have to give their OH a few nudges to get things going??
We discussed marriage and children and due to fertility problems decided to try for a baby first and have a wedding afterwards. (He's never officially proposed - just says we will get married).
On the basis of this I gave our daughter his surname at birth as we agreed I would soon have the same name anyway. This was a big deal for me and if marriage had not been discussed she would have taken my name.
Anyway OH has done nothing about proposing etc and I'm starting to get more than a little fed up. Even the doctors didnt recognise the baby as my child because of our different names and now I'm told if I want to take my daughter on a day trip to france I have to have written permission from her dad but because they share their last name HE can take her to any country without any permission from me!!
This is bugging me. I want a simple registry office wedding and a steak dinner afterwards. I'm not looking for a wedding - I want a marriage and to share the family name.
The problem is that now I feel like I'm begging and its so degrading. I so regret giving her his name. Ive said if we were to have another child out of wedlock it would be given my name - see how he likes it. How childish is that!!
Anyone else have to give their OH a few nudges to get things going??