Feel traumatised after my son's surgery
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My son has been in theatre at 5 weeks old, 2 years old, 3 years old and 4 years old. I still cried the last time because it is just the leaving him and watching him get knocked out really bothers me because he was seriously ill when he was 4 weeks old and it takes me back to that, it's horrible. It does get better, though and you haven't handled it badly! Your feelings are totally natural! I've spent a lot days and nights on surgical wards and I can say that your reaction is completely normal, going to theatre is a huge deal for a child and not something we imagine our kids going through and I don't think any amount of preparation beforehand can help handle the emotions of going through it all.I also sympathize with the medication, my son had daily medication from 4 weeks to 4.5 years, there were times where getting him to take it was the absolute worst. Keep at it, though, hopefully he settles down with it.
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I just realized that this is from a week ago but wanted to give you big hugs mama! What a hard thing to go through and you have every right to feel the way you do. Your children are the most important thing in your life and naturally it is our job to protect them. No doubt seeing your son in distress is upsetting because it grabs you right at the heart. I would feel totally the same as you and I'm sorry that it left you feeling traumatized and so emotional.
Definitely agree with a pp that if it continues to bother you that talking to someone might be super helpful and they can help you find ways to cope.
What a hard thing to go through and you have every right to feel the way you do. Your children are the most important thing in your life and naturally it is our job to protect them. No doubt seeing your son in distress is upsetting because it grabs you right at the heart. I would feel totally the same as you and I'm sorry that it left you feeling traumatized and so emotional. Definitely agree with a pp that if it continues to bother you that talking to someone might be super helpful and they can help you find ways to cope.
Thanks so much everyone, you're all so understanding! I appreciate it. Big hugs to the other mamas who have been through surgery with their LOs too, it's such a hard thing and you're all really strong!
My son's surgery was very minor and I have to say I can't imagine the added worry that a major health problem would bring. There are some real rockstar parents out there.
I have to say, also, that the horror has faded over the last week and I don't feel like breaking down over it anymore. I will always remember it, but I don't feel like it's too much for me now, which is great. It has been helped mostly by the fact the my son is back to being a totally cheeky, bouncing off the walls four year old, which makes me feel much better - so happy he's okay! His post op appointment went well too and it looks mostly successful, we have to go back in 6 weeks for another check (hoping like heck nothing further has to be done!).
My son's surgery was very minor and I have to say I can't imagine the added worry that a major health problem would bring. There are some real rockstar parents out there.
I have to say, also, that the horror has faded over the last week and I don't feel like breaking down over it anymore. I will always remember it, but I don't feel like it's too much for me now, which is great. It has been helped mostly by the fact the my son is back to being a totally cheeky, bouncing off the walls four year old, which makes me feel much better - so happy he's okay! His post op appointment went well too and it looks mostly successful, we have to go back in 6 weeks for another check (hoping like heck nothing further has to be done!).
