Feeling a bit overwhelmed and low

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Before I say this, I just want to point out how deep down under all the worry, I am happy to be in my current situation and I realise how blessed I am to have a healthy child and twins on the way. Especially as I've had 4 mcs in the past (2 before my son, and 2 before this current pregnancy). I am also excited about having twins and can't wait to meet them, but I just can't shake off this constant worry and feeling of panic.

As time is going on I am starting to feel scared about the future, how OH and I are going to cope emotionally, financially, where I'll be working (I work part time nine to five for 2 days a week at the moment, so will need to leave my current work and find something more suitable), and where we'll live.

We live in a private rented top floor flat (3 floors up with no lift) so going to need to move house too, and it is all starting to get a bit too much. My son has hypermobility and is nearly 2 but can't walk yet so needs to be carried up and down stairs. I try not to think too much and go with the flow as I know deep down things will work out, but it's just starting to all get to me this week.

Pregnancy aches and pains have also kicked in recently which I think has contributed to how I am feeling (I am 23 weeks), and also OH and I regularly struggle to cope with my mum and dad who can be very overbearing, and there was an incident last week where my mum overstepped a boundary and belittled me in front of my child but when I tried to talk to my dad about it he just defended her. My mum is not an easy person to sit down and talk to so it isn't just a simple case of having a word with her about it.

Everything just all feels overwhelming at the moment and just needed to get all that off my chest.
 
:hugs: I'm sorry you're having a hard time right now. Being pregnant makes everything harder, too, because on top of regular worries, you have hormones doing their thing, too. It must be so hard to have so much on your plate right now. My best advice would be to take each day at a time. Don't think about tomorrow more than you have to and just focus on getting through today. Also, if you can fit in some time to just relax with your OH after your son is in bed, do it.

I hope you have a better day tomorrow. :hugs:
 
:hugs: The annoying part of the future is that it's unknown! I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time right now. Can you tell your mom to either help or get out of the way? If not, try to ignore what she says! You don't need anyone causing you any more anxiety! It's difficult looking at things when you're worrying, but it will all work out. It's never as simple as we want it to be, but it will get better!

Vent any time, it's what we're here for! :)
 
:hugs:Im sorry that you are feeling so stressed. You will probably feel much better when you do move. Then all the worries about that will be gone.
As far as the overbearing mom.....I have one of those. I will usually just stay away for long periods of time. And when she asks why im very blunt and honest with her. My mom belittles my husband ALL the time, and takes it upon herself to assume things and confront him. So I end up defending him and thats when I feel the need to keep my distance.(my mom left when I was two, my dad raised me and my brothers) I dont know my mom very well. And ive just begun to get to know her and how to handle her in certain situations. Maybe you can look at how your dad handles things with her and mimic his technique? I hope you start feeling better soon!:hugs:
 
"if you wait until the time is right, you will never do it"

This is too true when it comes to children. It will work out. It always does. YOu will find a way. I can't guarantee it will be easy but it will work out.
 

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