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Feeling guilty about ttc

amy261989

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Hi, my first child, a little girl, Evie was born sleeping 16/07/15 at 26 weeks gestation, she was beautiful, perfect in every way. The past weeks have been so hard, nobody expects to bury their child, we had a whole future planned with her and its been taken away, life can be so cruel :cry: . I'm still coming to terms with whats happened, its only been weeks but I'm desperate to have a living child, we knew we had to try for another baby as soon as we could. My periods came back around 14th Aug and i ovulated on 28th Aug, i am now 5dpo feeling more hungry, tired, subtle twinges in my pelvic area and slightly dizzy since but since i am so desperate i could just be making myself have these symptoms! However i feel so guilty for even thinking about another child let alone trying for one :cry: My emotions are all over the place, i love my little girl and i don't want her to think I'm trying to replace or forget about her. She is my first and always will be, no other child could take her place but how do i get past this feeling, its awful.

Any advice would be much appreciated xx
 
I'm so sorry for your loss :nope: I had a friend who lost her baby at 23 weeks and I have had losses myself but they were in the first trimester. I think the best thing you can do is do what feels right for you and your OH, I have never forgotten my first baby who I lost before my rainbow who is now almost 9 years old. Don't feel guilty for wanting another baby, that is a healthy and normal feeling and there's no reason why you shouldn't feel that way or any way for that matter. No ones, especially not yourself should be trying to put parameters on your grief/healing process. One thing a good friend of mine has done to honor her baby who was still born at full gestation was to have a special stuffed bear who represented her baby and all her family pictures has the little stuffed bear, it helps her and others to remember and honor her sweet baby who is now in heaven. :hugs:
 

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