Feeling guilty about ttc

[amy261989]

Hi, my first child, a little girl, Evie was born sleeping 16/07/15 at 26 weeks gestation, she was beautiful, perfect in every way. The past weeks have been so hard, nobody expects to bury their child, we had a whole future planned with her and its been taken away, life can be so cruel I'm still coming to terms with whats happened, its only been weeks but I'm desperate to have a living child, we knew we had to try for another baby as soon as we could. My periods came back around 14th Aug and i ovulated on 28th Aug, i am now 5dpo feeling more hungry, tired, subtle twinges in my pelvic area and slightly dizzy since but since i am so desperate i could just be making myself have these symptoms! However i feel so guilty for even thinking about another child let alone trying for one My emotions are all over the place, i love my little girl and i don't want her to think I'm trying to replace or forget about her. She is my first and always will be, no other child could take her place but how do i get past this feeling, its awful.

Any advice would be much appreciated xx

 

[JasmineFrame]

I think its normal how you are feeling and i dont think your sweet little girl will ever think you are trying to replace her because she will always have a special place in your heart forever. I will pray you find peace and comfort during this time. Even though i miscarried at 9 weeks i still loved my baby so on some level i know what you are going through

 

[LoraLoo]

We have lost 3 babies Eve at 5 days, alfie 18 weeks pregnant and Eden 15 weeks pregnant. We started Ttc straight away after all of them. Please don't feel guilty- I've been there. We are not replacing our lost bAbys- they are irreplaceable, we are doing what we need to do- and I truly believe it is a need. It's an over powering, instinctive urge to hold another child in our arms. I'm so sorry for your loss of little Evie xx

 

[amy261989]

Thank you JasmineFrame, they are still our babies no matter how long we carried them for. Thinking of you xxx

 

[amy261989]

We have lost 3 babies Eve at 5 days, alfie 18 weeks pregnant and Eden 15 weeks pregnant. We started Ttc straight away after all of them. Please don't feel guilty- I've been there. We are not replacing our lost bAbys- they are irreplaceable, we are doing what we need to do- and I truly believe it is a need. It's an over powering, instinctive urge to hold another child in our arms. I'm so sorry for your loss of little Evie xx

I am so very sorry to hear about your precious babies, my heart breaks for you
You are right i need to fill my empty arms, i do hope it doesn't take too long to become pregnant again. Did it take you long to become pregnant again? xxx

 

[LoraLoo]

We have lost 3 babies Eve at 5 days, alfie 18 weeks pregnant and Eden 15 weeks pregnant. We started Ttc straight away after all of them. Please don't feel guilty- I've been there. We are not replacing our lost bAbys- they are irreplaceable, we are doing what we need to do- and I truly believe it is a need. It's an over powering, instinctive urge to hold another child in our arms. I'm so sorry for your loss of little Evie xx

I am so very sorry to hear about your precious babies, my heart breaks for you
You are right i need to fill my empty arms, i do hope it doesn't take too long to become pregnant again. Did it take you long to become pregnant again? xxx

It took 9 months after losing Eve. 5 months after Alfie. We only lost Eden 2 weeks ago so we will be TTC as soon as possible. Ironically my 3 angels were all 'whoops' babies.
I found sands a huge support to me when we lost Eve, you may find them helpful too x

 

[thumpette]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please don't feel guilty. We lost Max in January at 41+4. Before he was even born I was obsessed with trying again. I'll never replace my beautiful boy but I have so much love to give and I want a little brother or sister for him. I hope the symptoms are a sign. For the first few months I had every single pregnancy sign- it's amazing how much you can believe what you want to believe. I've been writing a blog about still birth- it's in my sig if you'd like to read. Just take it one day at a time. Xxx

 

[thumpette]

Evie will always be your first child- no matter what. I love her name too. X