feeling guilty for wanting a c section instead this time...can anyone relate?

[Aud05291987]

So my first pregnancy was really traumatic, baby almost died. To sum it up, I was supposed to have a c section when they realised she was stuck and not getting enough oxygen and that my pelvis was too small to deliver...however there was not a surgeon to perform a c section when it was needed so I was forced to deliver natural. She was in nicu for few days because of that. I refuse to do it natural this time. I am electing c section. Im in the u.s if my doctor denies it. I will switch. After what me and baby went through first time there is no way I will take that chance again.

 

[Eleanor ace]

Don't feel guilty, I imagine a lot of women would make the same decision in your shoes, I know I probably would. You're making the decision you feel is safest for your LO, don't let anyone make you feel guilty for that . I'm in the UK and I know it is probably very different but I was offered a c-section with my 2nd due to some complications with my 1st delivery and it was a lot less extreme than what you went through so I would think that your doctor would surely agree to a c-section. good luck.

 

[Aud05291987]

Thanks my man is totally for the c section too based off the last birth. I just feel kinda like im cheating, but then again I feel also it will be worth it. I just hope the docs understand. I know they push natural and then c section if all goes wrong here mostly.. so ill figure it out thanks for advice merry christmas!!!!

 

[Eleanor ace]

Where do you live? I'm sure your doctors will understand your reasoning, if your last labour almost lost you your baby I can't see how they wouldn't! Especially as they said your pelvis was too small to deliver, I don't have experience with that but I'd imagine if it wasn't big enough for your 1st it might not be for your 2nd. If they won't take you seriously I'd ask for a 2nd opinion.

 

[Aud05291987]

Thanks ladies for the positive input I recall appreciate. Im in the u.s.based off my last pregnancy n whatv ive heard I know they really push vaginal over c section here. However, after researching I will def be asking for it. If she does notunderstand I will switch docs. There are a lot of moms that dont understand and know wwhatvif was like to almost lose thier child, and are so against c section and more towards natural (which id rather have too) so they dont understand. I just dont think that risking baby's life is more importantjust so I can have my natural birth.

 

[rescuemom82]

I also had a rather serious situation with my first daughter which ended in EMCS. I am pregnant now and my OB has stressed a c section. They allow vbac but I'm not a candidate

 

[QueenQueso]

I'm also in the US and in my experience most places are pretty happy to jump straight to a cesarean.

I'm really really pro-vbac, but in your case, I can't imagine wanting to go though labor again with all that fear. I don't think you'll have any problem getting an OB to do a cesarean. I wouldn't even call it an elective, as it seems more like a necessary cesarean to me.

I'm also feeling guilty about going with a cesarean this time. In my case, this will be cesarean #3. My oldest was frank breech, my second was intended to be a vbac but my doctor (the only VBAC place in the area) won't let you go past 41w, so I had a rcs at 41w1d. No one here except a homebirth midwife will allow a vba2c, so it'll be a rcs. I feel a lot of pressure from a couple of people to go with the homebirth, but I'm not comfortable with it. If I could labor at the hospital, I'd want to try it for sure. And I really, really just WANT to have a vaginal delivery instead of another cesarean, so that, plus the people pushing me towards it, are making me feel really guilty.

 

[Perplexed]

I don't think you should feel guilty hun. Your dr should agree to a c-section based on your last experience. Hope you have a safe delivery