Hey! I need advice. I feel terribly guilty.
Long story short, our gender scan is Friday. I planned on my mom and some of the in laws coming to the scan (its at an elective place that allows for guests). I am really close with my in laws and I want them there, along with my mom. I want it to be intimate, and we will have five people there along with myself and my spouse (7 total).
Anyway, my grandmother just moved here and is living win my parents. I told my mom that I still just wanted the initial people there but that we could all do dinner afterward. Fast forward to a few days later, and my mom is planning on bringing my grandmother but leaving her in the car during the appointment. I tried to tell my mom that doing that is openly excluding her while the other family members go in. Anyway, it was decided that we will just pick her up after.
In the meantime, now I feel really guilty for not just letting her come. But, if Im being honest, Im not that close with her. Id love her to come celebrate at dinner afterward, but I have a right to want to keep my appointment small, right? I mean, thats a really special moment that I want to share with the people that have prayed and kept up with it! Those that are coming were heavily (emotionally and financially) involved in our fertility treatments and stuff and I just dont want anyone else there. My grandmother really wasnt involved at all and didnt check in on us or anything throughout. But I do feel mean. I love my grandmother, but her being there just makes me feel kind of awkward. But now I feel so guilty for not just obliging. I wish my mom would have just respected my wishes and made plans to come alone. I reassured my mom that I would love to have her at dinner, but I want to keep the appointment small with the original people.
Long story short, our gender scan is Friday. I planned on my mom and some of the in laws coming to the scan (its at an elective place that allows for guests). I am really close with my in laws and I want them there, along with my mom. I want it to be intimate, and we will have five people there along with myself and my spouse (7 total).
Anyway, my grandmother just moved here and is living win my parents. I told my mom that I still just wanted the initial people there but that we could all do dinner afterward. Fast forward to a few days later, and my mom is planning on bringing my grandmother but leaving her in the car during the appointment. I tried to tell my mom that doing that is openly excluding her while the other family members go in. Anyway, it was decided that we will just pick her up after.
In the meantime, now I feel really guilty for not just letting her come. But, if Im being honest, Im not that close with her. Id love her to come celebrate at dinner afterward, but I have a right to want to keep my appointment small, right? I mean, thats a really special moment that I want to share with the people that have prayed and kept up with it! Those that are coming were heavily (emotionally and financially) involved in our fertility treatments and stuff and I just dont want anyone else there. My grandmother really wasnt involved at all and didnt check in on us or anything throughout. But I do feel mean. I love my grandmother, but her being there just makes me feel kind of awkward. But now I feel so guilty for not just obliging. I wish my mom would have just respected my wishes and made plans to come alone. I reassured my mom that I would love to have her at dinner, but I want to keep the appointment small with the original people.