Feeling jealous and selfish!

[Mrs R]

So another day, another pregnancy announced that is not mine

After spending a very long day in work with all the pregnant people and ooahing and aahing at scan pictures that made me want to cry, my DH rang to tell me that his friend in work has just announced he is going to be a daddy again.................

Why is it never my turn????????????

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

DH's friends already have a baby and we don't. So why are they getting two?

I'm just feeling very unreasonable and jealous and selfish today lol

And to top it all off, DH said to me ' Hopefully we won't be far behind'. He meant it in the sweetest possible way, but I feel like such a failure

Sorry for the rant, just needed to get that off my chest.

PMA Mrs R, PMA!!

 

[HAYS]

aw chick, crappy isnt it!!!!

our days have to come soon, it has to be our turn!!
xxx

 

[krissi]

Oh hun I have days when i feel like that too x not selfish just frustrated xx

 

[Emerald-Sarah]

Oh Hun .. we all now exactly how you feel .. but like Krissi says its not selfish its frustration.
We will all get our little bundles soon, im sure of it.

 

[Mrs R]

I think I always feel worse when something happens that effects my DH too. Do u girls find that?

I'm used to be a hormonal mess, crying over scans etc but when my DH cracks I just feel like Im letting him down coz he's always there for me to lean on. As the months go past, he seems to be getting more desperate too : (

 

[krissi]

I know excatly what you mean, my OH is now worrying which is unlike him as he is usually unflappable.

You are not letting him down a relationship means you are there to support but also be supported and there will always be times when you fulfill either role but when you both need someone to lean on I find it good to do exactly that and just talk and be there for each other xxx

 

[maz]

Oh Mrs R - I know where you're coming from. It seems especially hard when our DHs are affected. If it's just me that's upset then I can deal with it better than if DH is upset too. But we have to remember that one day it will be us making that wonderful announcement - and how smug are we going to feel then???

 

[renee_xx]

this girl I grew up with is now 8 months pregnant with her 6th!!!

she's my age (22) .. 4 different fathers.

ugh.

ugh.

ugh.

doesn't make any sense...

 

[fairy1984]

I just heard on a call today that someone I work with is pregnant. she announced herself as being 13 weeks. I didnt congratulate her (this wasnt noticed because it was a call and lots of people said "congrats" at once).

I instantly (and irrationally) felt jealous and bitter towards her.

BUT...i've had a cup of tea and mulled it over and now feel a bit more rational about it. I dont know if she has had a long struggle to get pregnant or if it happened easily. I dont know this therefore I shouldnt begrudge her as she could be one of us.

i'm today - up and down!

you're right in what you said at the end of your message Mrs R - PMA PMA PMA

 

[Bexy]

I think these are all natural thoughts when we're all struggling so much - its not like being jealous of someones new house/ car/ lovely holiday...this is something that no matter how hard we work for it, its just not happening!! Grrrr!

I've had a thought that if (when!!! PMA!) I do get preggo and announce it, I will actually say that I have been trying for 2 years in the hope that someone else who hears the news and themselves are struggling might find some hope and feel re-assured that its not that easy for everyone!

 

[hopeful4baby]

I'm sorry, it is just undoubtebly hard! So many times I think I'm fine, but when another pregnancy is announced it's almost like a smack back to reality. No matter how much I try to hide, someone will always remind me how LOOOOONG has it been since we've been trying. This friend on Sunday even said: I don't understand it! I didn't even have fertile days! - So I've tried very hard and decided no to resent her for it, but to think what a miracle this actually is, therefore it gave me a boost it is more likely to happen than not!

 

[Schmelly]

I know exactly how you feel. I'm just off to buy another 'congrats on your new baby' card now, and it feels like my heart is breaking.

We just have to cling on to that pma and reassure ourselves that one day it WILL be us. Easier said than done, but what choice do we have? They're saving the best babies for us!

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[smokey]

I understand the heartache of this, in the years we have been trying 5 and of our friends 4 work mates have announced pregnancies, 1 of them has even had 3 children in the time we have been trying.
My best friend is due today so im just waiting for that phone call.
Its made worse by the fact someone told me the other day she just found out she was pregnant but doesnt want it (5 minutes after telling her id been trying for nearly 8 years)
all I can say is these feeling are normal but think how extra special and exciting your news will be when your time comes because youv tried and wanted this more.

 

[alison011177]

My best friend announced that she was pregnant for the first time last week, I am sooooo excited but i will be honest i cried for a week- we are so close and the guilt for feeling this way is terrible. When I told my mum how I was feeling she said 'dont you dare ruin it for her!!! i was so shocked!

People keep telling me i will see those 2 lines soon, im still waiting!

keep smiling