I just don't know what is going on with La and her sleep! We part time co-sleep (her cot is right next to the bed - had to put the side on a few months back as she started crawling and we can't get our room baby-proof entirely because of lack of space to put stuff - and when she wakes I lay her next to me and bf her and tend to go back to sleep.)
Her sleep is just all over the place though. We are pretty consistent with timings for bed time and nap time with flexibility - basically we watch her and she's usually tired just after her lunch at 12ish, and then bedtime is between 6-7.30. We don't force her to go to bed if she's not tired.
Every night is different though - 2 nights ago she slept from 6.45pm-2.13am which was although she then woke up again at 3.45am, 5am and then 7.11am. Last night I was feeling hopeful as she'd eaten loads all day, fed well at bedtime - well, she went to sleep at 7.40pm (she took ages to drop off last night), then woke at 8.35pm (a quick cuddle sent her back to sleep although this usually only works for the first wake up, if it's before 12am), then woke at 11.30pm, 12am, 12.15am... I gave up watching the clock then as she woke up intermittently through the early hours and then woke for the day before 5am!
I just feel like such a failure. She's had an early nap today as she was tired (me too!!) but I just feel so crap. I don't want to do CC or anything, I want to respond to her if she needs me, but am I doing something wrong?? Surely she should be sleeping better by now, she's over 1? All the CIO/CC mummies I know (and my mum) think I'm mad and maybe I am because their kids are sleeping and mine isn't? She doesn't have a regular waking pattern at all - she'll wake at similar times maybe 2/3 days in a row but then it changes. I just feel like I'm doing something wrong and I get so upset sometimes. Not always - often I think 'she's just a baby, she will settle eventually, being a mummy doesn't stop at night time, I enjoy the cuddles...' but every so often when I'm tired and hormonal I start to panic and lose faith.
I'm not looking for advice on how to change things really, just reassurance - will things change by themselves, will she grow out of it, am I doing something wrong? Any experience? Please reassure me.
PS At bedtime she has a really long breastfeed in bed interspersed with her getting up and rolling about, then coming back for more. She has a good feed normally, then gets up, flops back and goes all glazed. I usually put her in her cot awake but dopey or if she's just getting too agitated and tired, sometimes she'll calm down and sleep if I tuck her in bed. So she generally goes to sleep herself, but needs the boob to calm down first. In the night, if she wakes before 12am she can sometimes be settled with a cuddle and a song, but after that she claws at my boobs until I feed her and gets very upset it I don't.
Her sleep is just all over the place though. We are pretty consistent with timings for bed time and nap time with flexibility - basically we watch her and she's usually tired just after her lunch at 12ish, and then bedtime is between 6-7.30. We don't force her to go to bed if she's not tired.
Every night is different though - 2 nights ago she slept from 6.45pm-2.13am which was although she then woke up again at 3.45am, 5am and then 7.11am. Last night I was feeling hopeful as she'd eaten loads all day, fed well at bedtime - well, she went to sleep at 7.40pm (she took ages to drop off last night), then woke at 8.35pm (a quick cuddle sent her back to sleep although this usually only works for the first wake up, if it's before 12am), then woke at 11.30pm, 12am, 12.15am... I gave up watching the clock then as she woke up intermittently through the early hours and then woke for the day before 5am!
I just feel like such a failure. She's had an early nap today as she was tired (me too!!) but I just feel so crap. I don't want to do CC or anything, I want to respond to her if she needs me, but am I doing something wrong?? Surely she should be sleeping better by now, she's over 1? All the CIO/CC mummies I know (and my mum) think I'm mad and maybe I am because their kids are sleeping and mine isn't? She doesn't have a regular waking pattern at all - she'll wake at similar times maybe 2/3 days in a row but then it changes. I just feel like I'm doing something wrong and I get so upset sometimes. Not always - often I think 'she's just a baby, she will settle eventually, being a mummy doesn't stop at night time, I enjoy the cuddles...' but every so often when I'm tired and hormonal I start to panic and lose faith.
I'm not looking for advice on how to change things really, just reassurance - will things change by themselves, will she grow out of it, am I doing something wrong? Any experience? Please reassure me.
PS At bedtime she has a really long breastfeed in bed interspersed with her getting up and rolling about, then coming back for more. She has a good feed normally, then gets up, flops back and goes all glazed. I usually put her in her cot awake but dopey or if she's just getting too agitated and tired, sometimes she'll calm down and sleep if I tuck her in bed. So she generally goes to sleep herself, but needs the boob to calm down first. In the night, if she wakes before 12am she can sometimes be settled with a cuddle and a song, but after that she claws at my boobs until I feed her and gets very upset it I don't.