CantWaitToTTC
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Just needed to vent and ask if I'm the only one. I have a 3 & half year old and a 6 month old. With my first I worked from home when he turned 4 weeks old. I felt guilty that I couldn't take him to many groups, etc (as I had to be near my laptop in case I needed to log on). Second time round I started working from home when she turned 3 weeks old (due to Year End). So I was checking my emails on phone every few minutes, logging on when needed (not often during day), but mostly I worked my arse off as soon as I put them both down and every weekend while my husband entertained the kids.
This time round I have made an extra effort to get out (I take them to park a few times a week and I take 2 days off a month and take them to the soft play. I feel like I leave Ellie to roll around on the floor too much while I spend every spare second playing with my son (on floor next to mat). He became extra clingy as soon as the bump showed and he asks me to play with him ALL the time (I can sit play with him for an hour, then as soon as I have to do something else, clean up, feed Ellie, he begs me to play).
I just feel so guilty when I tell him I can't. And sometimes I'm just so tired that I don't 'want' to play all day with him. I read, take him to park, play for a bit, and I feel like this makes me a HORRIBLE mum, like I should be doing more.
My work pay a bit more then maternity pay due to me working (which we need), plus they let me work from home 2 days a week when I go back, so I get to be with my children. Plus when I go back I won't need to work weekends or every evening as I will get more work done while in office.
This time round I have made an extra effort to get out (I take them to park a few times a week and I take 2 days off a month and take them to the soft play. I feel like I leave Ellie to roll around on the floor too much while I spend every spare second playing with my son (on floor next to mat). He became extra clingy as soon as the bump showed and he asks me to play with him ALL the time (I can sit play with him for an hour, then as soon as I have to do something else, clean up, feed Ellie, he begs me to play).
I just feel so guilty when I tell him I can't. And sometimes I'm just so tired that I don't 'want' to play all day with him. I read, take him to park, play for a bit, and I feel like this makes me a HORRIBLE mum, like I should be doing more.
My work pay a bit more then maternity pay due to me working (which we need), plus they let me work from home 2 days a week when I go back, so I get to be with my children. Plus when I go back I won't need to work weekends or every evening as I will get more work done while in office.