Dear all,
since ever, my husband and I like to create a family and now think that the right moment has come to "go for it". Before, we had to wait for work reasons. Yet after years of attentive contraception (we used both, pill and condom), the idea of now having totally unprotected intercourse (I'm meanwhile off the pill, did all recommended medical checkups, and I'm taking folic acid for a while) makes our minds go round with all kinds of thoughts. You'll certainly say "Don't think too much - enjoy each other, be relaxed and just let it happen". Not that we were not sure about our "project"; we both wish to have a family. It's more the emotional side that we are meditating on. To tell the truth: We both never ever had unprotected sex. There was always a condom between us. We are both in the thirties and - yes (!) - we know the facts of life, even if your thoughts may look for the one or the other among you like 20 years too late. I adore my husband. However for me as a woman, the idea of receiving his body fluid in my womb is quite awesome. It makes me hot from arousal and curiosity as well as shiver with fear of the unknown. I confessed my inner thoughts to husband and I was quite relieved when he revealed to me that for him, it is just the other way round. He is not only standing by me, but also in full reverence and respect of my female body. Moreover, I know that sperm is of big importance for a man, and so it is for him. Like some holy water. Consequentially, he explained to me that the idea of devoting his sperm into my fertile body would be a very solemn act for him and an expression of utmost faith. And yes, he confessed me, too that he's afraid of being done too quick. Once again: We don't want to make a big ceremony out of our baby making love acts. But maybe there are some couples out there, that were at that time as "unexperienced" as we are, are now already one step further, and who take us and our emotions seriously?
Our questions to you are: Which thoughts were passing through your mind, when you had your first unprotected baby-making sex?
To the ladies: What feelings did you have as a woman, when your husband intentionally inserted his penis for the first time without a condom in your fully exposed body?
To the gentlemen: What did you guys think when you entered your wife's vagina for the first time without a condom and being aware that there is now no barrier at all between you and her fertile womb?
To both of you: Do you have any remembrances of the seconds right before ejaculation? This decisive moment must have engraved in your either memories rather in slow-motion or are we wrong? And afterwards: How long did it take to conceive in your minds that you are now possibly on the way to become mother and father?
On the one hand, we have made the decision to go for a child, on the other hand, we currently feel a little bit like the deer in the headlights, being afraid what's next, although the outcome is in fact well known. Sounds paradox - but maybe you had similar thoughts, hadn't you?
Many thanks in advance for sharing your experiences with us.
Kind regards,
Olivienne & Fredy
since ever, my husband and I like to create a family and now think that the right moment has come to "go for it". Before, we had to wait for work reasons. Yet after years of attentive contraception (we used both, pill and condom), the idea of now having totally unprotected intercourse (I'm meanwhile off the pill, did all recommended medical checkups, and I'm taking folic acid for a while) makes our minds go round with all kinds of thoughts. You'll certainly say "Don't think too much - enjoy each other, be relaxed and just let it happen". Not that we were not sure about our "project"; we both wish to have a family. It's more the emotional side that we are meditating on. To tell the truth: We both never ever had unprotected sex. There was always a condom between us. We are both in the thirties and - yes (!) - we know the facts of life, even if your thoughts may look for the one or the other among you like 20 years too late. I adore my husband. However for me as a woman, the idea of receiving his body fluid in my womb is quite awesome. It makes me hot from arousal and curiosity as well as shiver with fear of the unknown. I confessed my inner thoughts to husband and I was quite relieved when he revealed to me that for him, it is just the other way round. He is not only standing by me, but also in full reverence and respect of my female body. Moreover, I know that sperm is of big importance for a man, and so it is for him. Like some holy water. Consequentially, he explained to me that the idea of devoting his sperm into my fertile body would be a very solemn act for him and an expression of utmost faith. And yes, he confessed me, too that he's afraid of being done too quick. Once again: We don't want to make a big ceremony out of our baby making love acts. But maybe there are some couples out there, that were at that time as "unexperienced" as we are, are now already one step further, and who take us and our emotions seriously?
Our questions to you are: Which thoughts were passing through your mind, when you had your first unprotected baby-making sex?
To the ladies: What feelings did you have as a woman, when your husband intentionally inserted his penis for the first time without a condom in your fully exposed body?
To the gentlemen: What did you guys think when you entered your wife's vagina for the first time without a condom and being aware that there is now no barrier at all between you and her fertile womb?
To both of you: Do you have any remembrances of the seconds right before ejaculation? This decisive moment must have engraved in your either memories rather in slow-motion or are we wrong? And afterwards: How long did it take to conceive in your minds that you are now possibly on the way to become mother and father?
On the one hand, we have made the decision to go for a child, on the other hand, we currently feel a little bit like the deer in the headlights, being afraid what's next, although the outcome is in fact well known. Sounds paradox - but maybe you had similar thoughts, hadn't you?
Many thanks in advance for sharing your experiences with us.
Kind regards,
Olivienne & Fredy
