Feeling really down and I don't know why

[mummytobe_93]

I have a 21 month old daughter and a nearly 7 week old son.

When he was first born I had terrible baby blues for the first week but after that felt so much better so I chalked it up to the hormonal changes after birth

But now the last three or four days this intense feeling of sadness and frustration has turned up again and I don't know why? I seem to be coping pretty well. Clean house, happy kids that are dressed, fed and nappy changed when needed. Tea is always on the table for when my partner gets home. I'm dealing with the sleepless nights relatively well.

So why do I feel like this? I love my kids loads abd wouldn't chabge then for the world.
Me and my partner aren't getting on well at the moment I keep snapping at him and we aren't sharing a bed at all.

It's my 22nd birthday tomorrow and I'm just sat here looking at my baby and my toddler and thinking, when the hell did this happen?

How am I living this life at only 22?!

 

[Sb86]

It's okay to feel down sometimes. You're human. And if you and your partner aren't getting on very well at the moment then that's probably a big factor. Plus you only gave birth 7 weeks ago, give yourself a break, you're doing great and you need to be proud of yourself. I know it's easier said than done.

I understand how you can feel when you sit and think "how is this my life.." - I've just turned 29 and my daughter is 13 days old. I'm not with her dad (he had another "proper" girlfriend the whole time I was seeing him and she gave birth to his baby 6 months ago), so I live with my mum and my daughter is his secret - I also find myself thinking "what even happened?!"

Happy birthday for tomorrow , try enjoy yourself, you're young and still need to have fun! X

 

[MindUtopia]

I think to some extent what you're describing is normal. I definitely felt a bit like that when I had my daughter, and certainly, my house was not clean (I was lucky at that point if I managed to remember to brush my teeth!) and definitely no meal on the table when my husband got home from work. And I was 32 when I had my daughter, and I was still like, is this all life is now?!? Having a new baby, even when you've done it before, is still a huge change and can feel really overwhelming. So to a certain extent, I think that's normal to feel a bit out of sorts and like you're having a bit of an emotional let-down, especially if you and your partner aren't totally feeling right at the moment. But at the same time, feeling truly desperately sad, if you are, might mean it's worth just talking to someone about it, just in case it's PND starting to creep in.

 

[Angelbaby_01]

You are describing how I feel and although grateful it does get a bit too much sometimes. I guess this is the hard part about being a mother and wife.