Feeling really down...ex has been horrible to me :'(

[Jade85]

My first post so hope I'm doing it right! Basically I got pregnant with my Son, very quickly. At first fob didn't want to know, thecame round to the idea, he moved in with me 5 weeks before my due date (my little boy is 1 next week) and as far as I was aware we were "together".

We had a lot of ups and downs, he kept saying he didn't wanna be with me, etc but still he stayed. 6 months ago he found a job back in his hometown, about an hour away and moved back in with his Mum. Things were great fr the first few months,told me he wanted to be with me, loved me etc.

A month ago I found out he'd been telling people we weren't together and never had been and was also using a well known dating website, therefore we called it a day. However because he lives so far he still stayed at my house from Friday to Sunday. And we were still sleeping together.

Now Friday I asked him if we could give things another go and it has started an almighty arguement, which has resulted in him not coming up this weekend. Last night he said some really hurtful things to me.

Like, he's glad our little boy got is looks and not mine. That of course I'm gonna get hurt if I punch above my weight, to go for someone on my level next time which may mean scraping the barrell but hey. I'm deluded thinking I can be with someone way out of my league. And the final one? He sympathises with my ex for beating me!!!

And now I don't know what I'm gonna do?? Its my little boys first birthday next weekend, I don't want him around me but what about my son? I don't think I can ever forgive him for this.

What would you do? Say to him? Any advice?

xx

 

[littlekitten8]

I'm not surprised your upset hun. That was totally out of order. I think you need some space away from each other to cool down. Then you need to sit down with him and explain that you want for him to be there for his son but that it isn't acceptable for him to slag you off. If he can't agree to that then he is a complete idiot. It's no good for either you or your son to hear that kind of stuff

 

[Jade85]

Thanks hun, he just always seems to be able to tun it round on to me and make me feel bad/guilty, even though I know I shouldn't

I've text him ths morning to say Happy Fathers Day and to basically say theres no need to be nasty, I do everything for our son 24/7 and I don't need his abuse and have norly so suppose that just sums it up really!

xx

 

[AbbynChloe]

I am so sorry hun that you are stuck with such a pig of a FOB/SOB (you decide)

no-one has the right to speak to you that way - esp the FOB

Like Littlekitten said, take some time to cool off.... then try and speak to him and see what kind of involvement he intends.

Hugs to you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx