Feeling sad after DH's vasectomy

[Grateful365]

Feeling so sad after my DH's vasectomy today.

After a very slow start (took 4 years TTC #1) We have 3 beautiful boys...the youngest is 7 weeks. I'm 38 and DH is 39.

He felt done after #2 and I wanted a #3. We had #3 and DH scheduled his Vasectomy right away.

I didn't like the finality of it, but do feel that I am very blessed to have 3 and I know DH is very done - so I agreed to it.

Why am i feeling deeply depressed suddenly now? I don't want to feel this way.

 

[WackyMumof2]

I want my tubes tied after this baby arrives. This will be our forth. Everyone keeps telling me that hubby should have the snip because it's less invasive and while that may be true, I know I don't want anymore children of my own. It's not going to feel the same without a baby in the home but eventually my kids will have families of their own. I'll be 33 when this baby is born and I feel like I am too old to do a 5th round as much as my sister would love me too. Lol. And realistically, I can't afford the added costs of 5 children. I found pregnancy with DS3 tiring, this one is bound to be the same. Best pregnancy I had but the last trimester was Hell. Regardless of what the future holds for hubby and I, I know if I have my tubes tied I don't have to worry about falling pregnant. I agree, it feels so un-natural and final but I think you have to find peace in yourself and think about it logically.

I will if need be, do a 5th and 6th pregnancy but I have already put the offer to a close family member I would be happy to do a surrogate pregnancy or 2 for her as she can't have children. I think that's different - it's a different reason. As much as I love pregnancy, labour and giving birth, there is only so much I am willing to put my own body though - even for someone else.

 

[Grateful365]

Thanks for the reply Wackymum. I think your right about needing to think about it logically. I think I'm just having a hard time letting go of this phase of life - the. Asectony kind of put it right in my face. Lol

It is so kind of you to offer to be a surrogate ❤️