feeling so insecure

[Mummy2B1989]

just a wee rant...

my fiance works in a call centre and has a lot of colleagues hes friendly with and they go out quite a lot for birthdays/leaving do's etc. this never bothered me at all until the last time they all went out..

his supervisor (who I know from my group of friends from a while ago) who was engaged for a year and recently moved in with his mrs and they got a dog etc etc...got drunk..pulled the birthday girl..told her hes liked her for a while..went home and broke up with his fiance and is now seeing this girl.

my fiance doesnt see that as being as terrible as I do. he says said man was unhappy for a while. thats not an excuse.

what scares me is his point of view on this..esp as we have been going through a bad patch for a while too.

I suppose I should tell him that im feeling insecure and why. but im so emotional il prob start blubbering like a baby.

 

[noon_child]

You see this situation as "without warning" he went and broke up with his fiancé and they never got a chance to work things through but maybe that's not the case. Maybe they got counselling, maybe they'd been talking about being unhappy for a while etc. etc. He had the guts to admit that marrying this woman wouldn't make either of them happy. Would you want someone to marry you knowing it was a mistake and they didn't love you? - doubt it. Reported as a gossipy story it sounds awful, but in the long run maybe it's best for them both.

That said their relationship isn't your relationship. Not every couple going through a bad patch break-up, lots get through it and stay together. All you can do is be honest and ask your partner to do the same. That way if either of you are unhappy you'll know about it and have the chance to make things better.

And yes your hormones are probably making it worse and you are allowed to ask your other half to give you an allowance to be a bit more emotional over this stuff. He doesn't have to agree with you but he should support and reassure you.

 

[celestek89]

With how hormonal and insecure I am atm, I think I would feel the same too. I've never been the jealous type, unless I'm pregnant, then I worry about everything. Luckily DH knows and understands this and tells me I'm being silly. Hormones do funny things to us and make us worry and over think things that wouldn't normally bother us. I wouldn't look into it too much hun xo