feeling terribly upset :(

[aSh_x0x]

this thread dosnt have anything to do with pregnancy, but i come on this forum alot and i no its a very supportive place and i really need to vent and get all this stuff off my chest...

Yesterday my mum told me that my 'dad' isnt my biological dad..and i just feel broken inside. Im 18, and finding out at this age that your dad isnt your real dad is heart breaking. My parents found it hard to conceive when they were trying for kids, so im a result from a sperm donner :S. and i was also told..that my twin sister (not identical) might not even be my twin sister...because when my mum was getting her scan done, one baby was very very small and the other was pretty big..and the doctor said it is possible that one of the babies was a result from the sperm from the doner, and the other a result of the sperm from my dad. Means all this time we've thought we were twins..might end up being 1/2 sisters, or 1/2 twins i dont no. im so confused. It feels like my whole lifes been like a lie..and seeing as my biological father is a 'sperm doner' means i probably have 1745192 1/2 sisters and brothers . Its come as such a shock, and i love my dad and it wont change anything..but now i have so many questions it feels like ive just found out i was adopted in a sense..

i dont no why i posted this ..but i think i just needed to vent it all out.
thanks for listening.
xoxo

 

[kookie]

OMG That is a huge thing you've just been told i don't even know what to say i'm sorry this has happened but like you said it won't change anything he's still your dad and loves you loads hope you feel better soon xx

 

[polo_princess]

im very sorry that it all came out like that!!

You said that between you and your "twin" sister that one was a result of your dad and the other was a result of the donor ... do they know for definate which one was which?

Im sure you must have a million and one questions, so sit down with your mum and ask her. She's the only one who can give you answers sweetie

 

[nikky0907]

I'm sorry hun.But your dad is still your dad...It doesn't change and your sister is still your sister...
I know I can't really say anything that will make you feel better but try and think about the family thats right in front of you...

 

[holly]

Aww hun its not nice. I found out when i was 17 that my dad wasnt my biological dad and another man was. She had an affair! I get on kinda with my 'real' dad but it was a big shock meeting him and stuff also found out i have a half sis 6 months older than me and 2 older half bros! It will never change the way you feel for the man that bought you up! i had so many questions too its only normal! you'll be fine chin up xxxxxxx

 

[leeanne]

You have to remember something. Your parents did this as they wanted a child - a child to love and bring into their family. Many have a hard time conceiving and go that route. I can't say I blame these parents for doing so.

Oh, I am sure it was a shock to the system, but imagine how hard it would be for them as they were having a hard time conceiving and truly wanted another child to expand their family and their love.

 

[aSh_x0x]

thanks heaps everyone.
i really appreciate all your support. xxx

and to polo princess...we could only find out who belongs to which father by DNA tests...but i doubt that will happen. and its not a definate that one of us came from the sperm doner and one of us came from my dad, its just a chance that it happened..

anyway thanks everyone. xox

 

[7WZ]

Exactly what leanne said. Your parents have brought you up as their own and they see you and them as one family. All they had was a little help from someone else because they wanted you so much.

 

[pregnant_13yr]

Let me first say how lucky you are to at least have a dad (even if he's not your biological one) and a sister (even if she may not actually be your sister). Genes don't decide who is your family, God does and love does. My dad died when I was an infant and my mom's had to work really hard without him. I've never had any siblings and I think it would be wonderful to have a friend who lives in your house with you. I didn't have very many friends to start with, and now with this whole 13 years old and pregnant thing I'm down to two and those are my mom and my cat. I wish you the best of luck and try to be thankful for everything you still have.