Madwolf3
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I was looking through all the papers I got at my first appointment at my OB's office. I didn't meet the OB yet- he was out that day, all I did was get a sonogram and meet his nurse.
Anyway, I'm already feeling panicked. Things didn't go so well when I had my daughter. Something was wrong and we didn't know what it was. Found out at the c-section it was a bicornuate uterus. Funny enough, I found out at my first appointment THIS time around that if my last OB's office had just done a vaginal sonogram we would have known immediately!!! And they SHOULD have on the first one since I wasn't very far along! Once we found out something was wrong I was sent to see a specialist every month for a sonogram, and my OB NEVER kept in touch with the specialist to see how things were going! On top of that my last OB treated me like a 17-yr-old who didn't know anything (which I was) and I feel as though he took advantage of that, not talking to me about anything or discussing my birth plan or ANYTHING with me!
My daughter was breech, so we planned for a c-section. I talked to my OB about a version (where they try to turn the baby by hand) and he was all for it- then I asked my specialist and he said "NO WAY IN HELL- there's no way this baby can turn with this condition. Do NOT try it"! Now, had my OB been consulting with my specialist, I wouldn't have almost had a catastrophy on my hands!!!
When I had my c-section, the hospital I was at was miserable! I had told my OB that I wanted to know exactly what was going on as he was doing the c-section, and he spent the whole time chatting it up with the assisting nurse!!! Here I am laying on a table, numb from the chest down, and I had to ask poor hubby if they'd even started! He was like "yeah hun they've already got you open and your water is broken!" Are you kidding me??? Why wouldn't anyone tell me what was going on??? My baby was healthy, and I barely got to kiss her before they took her out!
THEN my OB comes in to tell me about my uterine condition- he's there less than 5 minutes, barely explains anything, and as is I'm doped up! THEN after he leaves we try to breast feed and come to find out that for some reason my colostrum hasn't even come in! It didn't come in until 3 days later- a day before my milk came in. No one did anything to help me! My baby was starving and so we had to give her formula. Not to mention the staff was giving her a pacifier without even asking- I didn't know until they brought her in with one in her mouth! I didn't say it was ok!!!
Again, I was treated like a 17-yr-old who didn't know shit. I suffered from postpartum depression afterwards, and my OB didn't even see me for it. Told me to get councelling and prescribed me meds (which made me SO sick I had to stop taking them anyway). AND had I still been breastfeeding (which he didn't even ask about) I would have put her at risk had I been taking them while I was!
Needless to say, I'm not a confused 17-yr-old this time. I'm panicking because I need to make sure I trust my doctor this time. I will be meeting this new one in two weeks. Different state, different hospital and doctors, so I'm hoping it will go better.
BUT- I want to choose my hospital this time. I have three options here, and I want to make sure I can choose which one I deliver in. Plus, I want to make sure that I don't have nursing problems again, or that the hospital staff respects me as the MOTHER OF MY CHILD and ASKS me first! I want to be in control of things this time!!! I think I'm more scared than last time because last time I didn't realize how I was being treated!
I'm sorry- this is insanely long! If you took the time to read it, I appreciate it! I'm just venting because I feel soo overwhelmed this time, and I want to make sure it's right.
Anyway, I'm already feeling panicked. Things didn't go so well when I had my daughter. Something was wrong and we didn't know what it was. Found out at the c-section it was a bicornuate uterus. Funny enough, I found out at my first appointment THIS time around that if my last OB's office had just done a vaginal sonogram we would have known immediately!!! And they SHOULD have on the first one since I wasn't very far along! Once we found out something was wrong I was sent to see a specialist every month for a sonogram, and my OB NEVER kept in touch with the specialist to see how things were going! On top of that my last OB treated me like a 17-yr-old who didn't know anything (which I was) and I feel as though he took advantage of that, not talking to me about anything or discussing my birth plan or ANYTHING with me!
My daughter was breech, so we planned for a c-section. I talked to my OB about a version (where they try to turn the baby by hand) and he was all for it- then I asked my specialist and he said "NO WAY IN HELL- there's no way this baby can turn with this condition. Do NOT try it"! Now, had my OB been consulting with my specialist, I wouldn't have almost had a catastrophy on my hands!!!
When I had my c-section, the hospital I was at was miserable! I had told my OB that I wanted to know exactly what was going on as he was doing the c-section, and he spent the whole time chatting it up with the assisting nurse!!! Here I am laying on a table, numb from the chest down, and I had to ask poor hubby if they'd even started! He was like "yeah hun they've already got you open and your water is broken!" Are you kidding me??? Why wouldn't anyone tell me what was going on??? My baby was healthy, and I barely got to kiss her before they took her out!
THEN my OB comes in to tell me about my uterine condition- he's there less than 5 minutes, barely explains anything, and as is I'm doped up! THEN after he leaves we try to breast feed and come to find out that for some reason my colostrum hasn't even come in! It didn't come in until 3 days later- a day before my milk came in. No one did anything to help me! My baby was starving and so we had to give her formula. Not to mention the staff was giving her a pacifier without even asking- I didn't know until they brought her in with one in her mouth! I didn't say it was ok!!!
Again, I was treated like a 17-yr-old who didn't know shit. I suffered from postpartum depression afterwards, and my OB didn't even see me for it. Told me to get councelling and prescribed me meds (which made me SO sick I had to stop taking them anyway). AND had I still been breastfeeding (which he didn't even ask about) I would have put her at risk had I been taking them while I was!
Needless to say, I'm not a confused 17-yr-old this time. I'm panicking because I need to make sure I trust my doctor this time. I will be meeting this new one in two weeks. Different state, different hospital and doctors, so I'm hoping it will go better.
BUT- I want to choose my hospital this time. I have three options here, and I want to make sure I can choose which one I deliver in. Plus, I want to make sure that I don't have nursing problems again, or that the hospital staff respects me as the MOTHER OF MY CHILD and ASKS me first! I want to be in control of things this time!!! I think I'm more scared than last time because last time I didn't realize how I was being treated!
I'm sorry- this is insanely long! If you took the time to read it, I appreciate it! I'm just venting because I feel soo overwhelmed this time, and I want to make sure it's right.
That doctor sounds like a total idiot. Unbelievable he suggested to turn the baby when you had that condition. Incompentence!.
