General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[DobbyForever]

Oh yeah I did Shae haha my bad. That's awesome! I'm glad you have help. Even if things are boxed up already, moving is such a big task. Hope it all goes smoothly!

So "date" #2 was lovely. He left work early and we met at the park by a manmade lake. Had fun making out and people watching. I have no anxiety with him. Just feel super safe. He's obsessed with me. Who can blame him He is going on a work trip then to visit his fam in Chicago so I won't see him until he's back which is after the 4th.

 

[gigglebox]

Autumnal sorry about the early pregnancy discomfort! Hummph had to bring up the age thing, eh. Honestly I think my 3rd pregnancy was more miserable than this last one. I mean the end was rough but isn’t it always? Anywho do people at your work know yet??

Shae you must be moved by now! How did it go?

Dobs oooooh you better not go anywhere, I am so invested in how this turns out!! He sounds like a nice dude. Honestly you deserve to be treated nicely by someone so I am really rooting for this to be the start of something wonderful! Even if it’s just a short term NSA fling. But that’s a lot of vacationing for a fling……bummer foe the forced break but hope you make up for it when he gets back

So to answers BIL is moving for a better paying position, however it’s only 8k more a year and evidently more because the lack of income tax. I still think states with no income tax get you elsewhere but what do I know. Honestly I think it’s more out of spite towards his current supervisor (who he hates) and an excuse to live closer to his favorite cousin. His best fried plans to move down there in a couple years as well so bonus for him I guess. Also SIL will be closer to her own family.

So last night hubby ended up in the ER and it really felt like our first taste of family emergencies if we’re alone in the area. I stayed with the kids and he drove himself. I could have had MIL watch the kids but to be honest I don’t trust anyone with the baby overnight. Fortunately he wasn’t there too long and nothing major, he just had a freak incident happen. In a nut shell he has had ab on again, off again sore throat the oast couple weeks and found that massaging it has helped relieve the discomfort. Well I guess he was really pushing hard and he said he felt a crack, and the pain was suddenly much worse…..he ended up fracturing his cartilage 0_0 it can be life-threatening so thank God it isn’t as bad as it could have been. Anyway he is in discomfort but fine.

As for me…I’m 8 weeks postpartum and still bleeding so they’re investigating that on Friday. I’m hoping it’s nothing that requires intervention but we’ll see….my fear is it’s residual tissue and I have to get a d&c or something but hopefully not and I just need to stay off google.

 

[shaescott]

Gigs oh my Lord. Note to self, no throat massages. I wonder how hard he had to be massaging it to actually fracture the cartilage… ouch sorry about the bleeding. I really don’t know much about postpartum bleeding (I’ll have to add that to my research list lol) so I have no advice or knowledge there. Hopefully it’s no big deal.

We are moved, unpacking is going quite slowly lol, still don’t know where the plates or utensils are lmao, but the bed is together, and I know where my work clothes are, so ya know, priorities. The apartment is by no means perfect, but we’re just so glad to have our own place just the two of us. The cats are adjusting differently, but exactly as I would have expected honestly. The extroverted loud one adjusted by the next morning and was back to yelling at me for pets and food. The shy terrified one is hiding a lot, but he did come up for pets once when I got up at 1:30 am and caught both of them out and about, after the loud one came for pets and reminded the shy one that he likes those that tends to be how it happens normally, the loud one models the human interaction behavior and the shy one goes “oh okay, he didn’t get hurt and he looked happy, maybe I can do that too”.

 

[gigglebox]

That’s actually nice you have the two cats then, at least in the case of the shy one. In the pet fish world people sometimes use the more active, less shy fish to get shy fish out if hiding. The theory is if the scared one see the others swimming and they’re fine, then the water must be ok to explore, and they come out. They active fish are called “dithers” or “dither fish”….so yeah you have a dither cat lol

Glad you’re all moved! How did the actual move process go?

 

[autumnal]

Oh my gosh Gigs so sorry about your hubby. What an insane thing to have happen!! Hope he is recovering well

Congrats on the move Shae!

 

[DobbyForever]

Shae hahah yes priorities. Glad the kitties are adjusting. I’m sure as you get everything unpacked and the place set up with your personal things it’ll be perfect. Home is where the heart is.

Gigs OMG that’s terrifying! I’m glad he’s ok and was able to drive himself to the ER. Did they say anything about what might have been causing that level of discomfort? I can see that though. I used to have an ex massage my ankle/scar tissue every night and it felt so good but quickly started to develop a bad bruise. But yikes the throat! I’m so glad he got to the ER in time.

Yes stay off Google! It’s the worst haha. Ask ChatGPT instead jk. Sorry you have to wait until Friday to get answers.

lol yeah I’m in a good headspace mentally now that everything is squared away with A’s school and I’m on meds I’ll be around until the next catastrophe.

Okay the super long tea on the Engineer. Grab your popcorn.
He just wrapped up his week in TX and he’s off to his parents this morning. We had CTJ talk a few nights ago because he really texts me with the intensity of a guy who is pursuing me to date me rather than short term/casual. He basically started spiraling because he likes me, so I called him to tell him to chill out and go to bed and it turned into a 7 hour conversation. The key take aways being:

1. I’m right. He wants to date me but is insecure and scared of hurting me/A or of losing himself in a relationship (he stopped pursuing all of his passions and stopped hanging out with his friends with his last gf)
2. Apparently we had very different versions of what the Carmel sleep away meant. I thought it was casual. Apparently, in his mind, once he takes me that’s him committing to me. And I was like how in the eff did you get that idea in your head
3. There’s only a week between when he gets back and I go to FL, so we’ll do 1-3 g rated dates then and another g rated date when I get back and make a plan for Carmel then.

So anyway I broke him for about a day and half but we needed to have that convo and now he’s back to his adorable self. My only concern is that I get self sabotage vibes as his default. Like I don’t know if over a long period of time he’ll chill the eff out or not lol.

I was telling my cousin like there’s a lot about him that reminds me of my dad. Which I can’t really say about most of my exes. So I am curious to see how this goes. But he’s made it very clear in actions and words that I’ll be getting the princess treatment with him. So he’s going to be around for a minute and the roster is closed and all the players kicked off the bench.