Ffions last booby feed....

[Tezzy]

after ffions next feed im going to switch to formula full time. i have been increasing her formula feeds for 5 days and im at a point where my boobs feel comfortable enough to stop completely.

i didnt post about this earlier because i didnt want to be made to feel guilty by other members of the forum for giving up.

since ffion was born the relationship between me and my husband and son has crumbled, i was constantly feeding ffion and never able to give attention to the other people in my house. rhys never understood why mummy always held ffion and not him, or why i couldnt play with him or why mummy was cranky because id been awake for 56hours in a row. ive been too tired to show my DH any love, just struggling to get from one feed to the next to the next and not having the energy to do anything else.

it really hit me when rhys came up to me the other day when i was feeding and held out his hand to take me to see something and i said 'no,later,mummys busy' and he looked up at me and said 'please'... it was the first time he said it and it just broke my heart.

so that night i gave ffion a formula feed and some pureed pear.. she slept from 9.30pm till 4.30am and we've done it almost every night since.

so im sorry to all you 'die-hard' breastfeeders... i just couldnt hack it any longer. ffion is underweight and hadnt slept well since birth. this is whats best for everybody in our family.

 

[clairebear]

why are u so sorry hun. u need to do what is best for u ffion AND ur family. it is important u are all happy. i can compleatly understand ur situation and dont every feel like u should jusitfy ur self 2 others on here.

xxxxx

 

[Serene123]

I think you are bloody brilliant for hacking it this long!!

 

[reallytinyamy]

Tez, you must do whats right for you and shouldnt be made to feel like you need to justify your decision to anyone else.

Enjoy your family.

 

[sam's mum]

I think you are bloody brilliant for hacking it this long!!

Completely agree! You have nothing to feel guilty about. You need to do whatever is best for your whole family, and that's exactly what you're doing x

 

[leedsforever]

i agree too.... im breastfeeding but with top ups and I still dont think I will last as long as you!!

Well done

 

[doctordeesmrs]

You have nothing to feel guilty about. You should be proud of yourself. I had to stop BF Rocco cos he wasn't getting enough from me. You have to what is best for your baby, yourself and your family.

 

[LaDY]

Yey u now have a happier family...well done I did the same, i breast fed for upto 2months then switched to formula and now we have a happier baby You have no reason to feel guilty...we should only be made to feel guilty if we starve out children or we neglect their needs which we don't. Lots of love hunny xx

 

[oOKayOo]

l applaud you for even breastfeeding with a toddler hun , brilliant to have kept it up for so long

dont feel you have to justify yourself i do understand what your saying though, but not only is this great for your family its great for ffion. she is sleeping better ( from the sounds of it ) which will give everyone peace im sure
im happy for you nothing wrong with bottle feeding chick your doing a geat job

 

[Mamafy]

Totally know where you're coming from hun, you probably feel split in 2 at times with the little ones as it is so bf'ing on top, well you need a medal

You have absolutely no need to feel sorry or explain. I hope you can get some rest and some quality time spent with your little boy and husband as well

 

[Margerle]

Don't feel guilty!

You are Super mum!

Seriously you gave it 110% - you should never feel guilty. I admire you a lot for the sacrifices you made to get this far.

Now go enjoy your family!

 

[Mynxie]

Tez huni, why would anyone make you feel guilty? You're doing the best that you can for your children - that's being a good mum! If that means not breast feeding, well so be it - it' not the be all and end all.

 

[leeanne]

after ffions next feed im going to switch to formula full time. i have been increasing her formula feeds for 5 days and im at a point where my boobs feel comfortable enough to stop completely.

i didnt post about this earlier because i didnt want to be made to feel guilty by other members of the forum for giving up.

since ffion was born the relationship between me and my husband and son has crumbled, i was constantly feeding ffion and never able to give attention to the other people in my house. rhys never understood why mummy always held ffion and not him, or why i couldnt play with him or why mummy was cranky because id been awake for 56hours in a row. ive been too tired to show my DH any love, just struggling to get from one feed to the next to the next and not having the energy to do anything else.

it really hit me when rhys came up to me the other day when i was feeding and held out his hand to take me to see something and i said 'no,later,mummys busy' and he looked up at me and said 'please'... it was the first time he said it and it just broke my heart.

so that night i gave ffion a formula feed and some pureed pear.. she slept from 9.30pm till 4.30am and we've done it almost every night since.

so im sorry to all you 'die-hard' breastfeeders... i just couldnt hack it any longer. ffion is underweight and hadnt slept well since birth. this is whats best for everybody in our family.

Honey, this is part of the reason why I am bottle feeding this time around. I do feel a tad bit guilty by it and did in fact try breastfeeding once one night. Then I felt guilty because he's established on the bottle and all the thoughts of not giving my other kids attention, etc. came to me. Also the thoughts of being restricted in what I can and cannot do in a day.

I am sorry, but by breastfeeding, I find that the times of feedings are so much longer and you feel like all you are doing is sitting and feeding your baby. With bottle feeding, they tend to go longer between feeds.

Good luck hon and hope that everything changes for the better!

 

[Samantha675]

I think you did amazing love, and have nothing to feel guilty about.

 

[Tezzy]

thanks girls, youve made me feel much better.

today Ffion has had only 2 bottles since her last booby feed.. its amazing.. she usually went on the boob at least twice as often and for twice as long. rhys has been much happier and because Ffion has been much more settled during feeds ive been able to play with rhys like the good ol' days.

both kids are napping right now so can have two minutes to myself before i do housework. i go out on a thursday night and usually spend this time pumping... but i only have to make up a bottle now!

 

[x-amy-x]

Everyone has said what needed to be said. Just wanted to say a big well done from me. Hope things get better from now onwards

xxx

 

[Holldoll]

You have no reason to feel guilty. Ffion got the really great stuff! You did the best you could. I don't even know how I could have two kids as close in age as you do, let alone BF one!

 

[Rachel]

You done well getting this far, well done

I know how you feel trying to breastfeed while trying to look after a toddler aswell. Im giving Kieran formula once a day now but I think soon he will be on it all the time because I also feel guilty when Nathan wants me for something and I can't because Kieran is feeding all the time.

 

[leeanne]

Quite honestly, I went out today and was gone most of the day. Chase was hungry at the restaurant and then again when my daughter was getting her hair cut.

It was soooo much easier to bottle feed. I remember so well in the past where I would stress as soon as the baby got hungry and rush home.

 

[claire1983]

Well done for giving her the best start. Not sure about giving her pureed pear at this age tho, anything other than milk can make her get sick very quickly as a baby of this age cannot handle or digest food properley and it can potentially poison her.