First birthday... possible awkwardness!

[AppleBlossom]

I'm not going to start planning Grace's 1st birthday for at least another month but I've been thinking what I can do. My family don't want to see Jason for obvious reasons and they don't particulaly want to see his family and apart from his mum and sister I don't particulaly want to see any of them either. Before we split up his mum suggested having her birthday at her house as it's quite big. Obviously that won't happen now. I want her to have a party at mine or my mums but I don't know how to go about it. I know I could get my family to grin and bear it for Grace's sake but I just know for a fact that getting them all together will just be awkward and may end in some kind of dispute possibly, I don't want her party ruined or for there to be any kind of bad atmosphere. I want her to have a lovely birthday. The only thing I can think of is having 2 seperate parties but it's not the same, she will end up spending hardly any time at either and to be honest I want to have her all day but I can't of course. I just despise his stepmum and I'm not fond of his dad. I don't want awkwardness but I want her to have one BIG party instead of two little parties. Dunno if any of that makes sense, it's kind of rambly!

 

[princess_bump]

it does make perfect sense honey! i no you said you didn't want two separate things but could you do something on her actually day, then something at the weekend for her, for the separate families?

i no its a different situation, but we're doing something on maddi's actually birthday day, and then a big party the following sat/sun so everyone who works can come, though i don't think james' side will! x

 

[AppleBlossom]

I guess I could but it will be a fight for who gets to do her actual birthday which should be me really! Grr sooo annoying, why can't things just be simple for once?!

 

[polo_princess]

Hun they are all adults, they shouldnt make things awkward for Graces party!! Sorry but they should all suck it up and get along for yours and Graces sake so not to spoil it for either of you

If you want one party, have one party!!

 

[princess_bump]

yes i agree, it should be you and i also agree they should be adults and all get on with it for grace's sake! why not have a word before, explain, firmly, that this is going to happen and they are doing it for her x

 

[AppleBlossom]

Think I will just have to say to them all, it's just one day, I'm asking them to be best mates, just to be civil so Grace can have a nice birthday

 

[princess_bump]

exactly! you are asking them to do it for a little girl! i'm sure they can for grace's sake x x x

 

[Hevz]

I'd do what YOU wanna do. Have a big party, invite them all....it's up to them if they're adult enough to make the right decision or to be childish and cut off their nose to spite their faces and not go.

It's Grace's birthday....and you only get one 1st birthday. Do it the way you want or you will regret it later babe

 

[polo_princess]

If it were my family id say if you love Brooke make the effort or dont bother coming simple as

 

[princess_bump]

If it were my family id say if you love Brooke make the effort or dont bother coming simple as

exactly! which is why i don't think james' family will be at maddi's, they haven't bothered with her for her first year of life, i don't see why they should come to her birthday x

 

[AppleBlossom]

If it were my family id say if you love Brooke make the effort or dont bother coming simple as

Think that's prob the best idea. They don't have to speak to each other, just not start digging! I'm desperately hoping that his stepmum and dad don't come but they will lol. would be fine if it was just his mum and sister. And I am definately going to have it at mine or my mums so I don't know whether half his family would turn up anyway. I feel harsh saying that but I don't like half of them! But yeah, I'll say a time and a place and it's up to them

 

[x-amy-x]

I, personally, would have said i'm having her on her birthday, and he can have her on another day to celebrate her birthday. But that's just me. Hope you manage to sort something out x