First Born Overnight in Hospital After Birth of Second?

[kateba]

I have a 14 month old who was born by c-section so I will need to stay overnight for two nights after the birth of our second. Has anyone been able to have their first born stay overnight along with their husband or support person? I know some people will think this is a crazy desire but it is very important to me as he is breastfeeding and co-sleeping and I feel it will help the transition for all of us.

 

[lozzy21]

I know you could not in the UK but i dont know about the US.

 

[wamommy]

My hospital has a rule that kids have to be out by 8pm My girls will stay for a bit, but then Daddy will take them home overnight. It's a bummer, but trust me, you'll need that quiet time to rest and bond with baby.

 

[smileyfaces]

I would say that it is highly unlikely.

 

[dizz]

They wouldn't let you at the hospital I was in - in fact it's one of my greatest fears over this birth if I have another lengthy stay (they kept me in because of the baby's issues) - they have absolutely NO regard for any of your home circumstances or respect that you might have siblings making shared demands on your time etc etc whatsoever.

One of our local hospitals has a patient hotel where theoretically it would be possible to pay for partner (and I'd assume child) to stay - but it's for straightforward births only and is frequently closed for staff shortages.

 

[blinkava]

Most hospitals in the US have a sibling rule for them to leave by 8pm. I have 2 boys and my hubby won't be staying with me in the hospital so he can take care of the boys and I can bond with baby.

 

[Amygdala]

I guess all you can do is try. Maybe if you explain that you're breastfeeding someone might make an exception? And if they don't allow it officially, maybe they won't kick your LO out when it comes to it. I'd try to have alternative plans in place just in case. Could LO stay with granny? Or a good friend? Or could daddy be home co-sleeping with LO?

 

[chulie]

Our hospitals are the same...no babies after a certain time. I was visiting my sister in law who gave birth and i had my daughter with me(who is 2)...she gave birth to a kid that was my egg (I donated my egg to her) so my daughter was practically this kids sister and they could care less...told me she had to be out..no kids were allowed on the floor after 8.

 

[kateba]

Thanks for all of the input from everyone.