First loss. Devastated

[motherofboys]

I've just confirmed it for myself after much clutching at straws. A day of spotting, a day of light bleeding and a morning of spotting which ended yesterday lunch time and that's it. Phoned 111 as I just couldn't wait any longer and was going mad not knowing what was going on. Hoping they would tell me to go for a scan so my hospital couldn't refuse me one. Got a call back from a doctor who said at 5 weeks there's no point scanning but to do another test in a week and that'll be my answer. I couldn't wait a week so did another now and it's so faint you can hardly see it.
I'm devastated, and confused by the lack of bleeding

 

[Classic Girl]

I'm so sorry! I've just posted my story with another loss and similar frustrations with my OB. I read on here and talk to others who have a bleed and get IMMEDIATELY seen and scanned by their Dr. yet mine (and yours) blows me off both times saying "it's common and no need to scan...call back if it gets worse etc" Like we can just keep on keeping on for days longer not knowing what's going on. WHY are we ignored? WHY don't we matter? I KNOW they can't stop it but DAMMIT can't we get a little closure to such a horribly heart-wrenching thing as losing a baby?? I get that they are busy and see a ton of people but it doesn't make US and what's happening to US less important. THIS IS OUR LIVES AND OUR CHILDREN! I'm so sorry for your loss and treatment! If you need to talk, pm me because I'm going thru it too. Right now.

ETA: I had the same amount of bleeding you did...no cramps, no clotting. My body absorbed it.

 

[motherofboys]

My friend told me to call, she said she'd been given a scan and blood test as 5 weeks and then went back as there was only a sack and got another scan where they saw the heart beat the next week. She's in a different area so different hospital, but still like you say it doesn't make what's happening to us any easier or clearer

 

[6lilpigs]

hiya mob's I'm sorry if this is a loss for you They are so sad. What your describing doesn't sound completely conclusive atm, did you use fmu? I hope this is just a 'thing' and LO is still there already giving theyre mum stress xxx

 

[motherofboys]

hiya mob's I'm sorry if this is a loss for you They are so sad. What your describing doesn't sound completely conclusive atm, did you use fmu? I hope this is just a 'thing' and LO is still there already giving theyre mum stress xxx

No I didn't use FMU. I just did the test as soon as I got home. I couldn't wait after already waiting a few days

 

[BunnyN]

I admit that it doesn't sound good but it might be a little early to be sure still. Did you use the same brand test as the 1st time and what was the sensitivity? Some tests are not very sensitive.

I think its true that a scan wouldn't really help this early although a blood test which is repeated after about 38hrs would tell if your hormones are increasing as they should.

With an early loss I think it is quite normal not to start bleeding properly while you can still see any kind of line on a test. While there are still pregnancy hormones in your body it thinks you are still pregnant so is still protecting your baby. Commonly bleeding will start a day or two after your first completely negative test.

So sorry you are going through this. I honestly don't know if loosing your baby or being in limbo feels worse. Hugs

 

[motherofboys]

Yeah same brand. It looks pretty much the same as the lines I got at 12/13 dpo

 

[momwithbabies]

I'm sorry you're being treated this way during such a horrible time. I've found that there are quite a few medical professionals out there who need more training in sensitivity. If a woman wants a scan, she should get a scan.

I hope you get the closure you need.

 

[BunnyN]

How are you doing now? Have you had more bleeding?

 

[motherofboys]

I had a little spotting and cramps yesterday morning and thought it was starting again but turned out to be nothing.
My last test yesterday morning was pretty much negative.

 

[BunnyN]

Most likely once your tests turn totally negative the bleeding will start fairly quickly. Look after yourself. Hugs.

 

[Mearly12]

I feel the same way!
I'm 5 weeks today, and my tests are getting fainter, I have known for about 5 days that based on my hcg not doubling that i would miscarry again. I have not started bleeding at all yet. It is torture, I just want it to be over already. I still get the occasionally cramp and it breaks my heart each time uhg!

 

[motherofboys]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this too.
I'm still waiting to bleed. My test Monday was pretty much negative, I tested again Thursday and it was 100% negative. I didn't even get an evap on that thing. But still nothing. I've had the occasional cramp but that's it.
Deep down I don't want to bleed, by some miracle I want to still be pregnant. But that isn't going to happen so I want it to be over now. Am I waiting for nothing? Can 1 day of light bleeding, before all the hormones have left my system, really be all there was?