FOA Edinsam or anyone else if you've gonne through CSA

[tinkabells]

Hiya,

Well i got my CB through today, and i have rung CSA, they are updating there end with my number, then will contact me back if they need any other details and then contact him etc

How long will it take, cos i didnt have a door number for him, but put everything else down i could think of, plus they should be able to find him because of his conviction his still under parol and has to go to the police station every football match england play to hand in his passport and sign that form, so they should find him, and when i spoke to that woman a few weeks ago she said, she couldnt say that found him, but said it looked promising so basically they had?!

JUst wonder how long before they send letter out to him, cos i no its gonna go down the dna route xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

it'll take a few weeks at least dude,

 

[edinsam]

hey hun = about bloody time

Did you give them a phone no? They told me they always phone first and they try 3 times before they write to him. So basically now they have your CBnumber they pass it to the case officer. He can sit on it for weeks. I left it a couple of days and called them and they were like yeah its with the case officer - well can I talk to that person. He was like not called him yet

I called them everyday for 3 days to get the case worker to call

Eventually he did although Moron said they didnt! three days after that they sent the letter - he called them straight back and denied parentage - DNA ordered now - 2 weeks for him to do that and then they will write to me to get mines and Lils done

Aything else let me know hun

Glad its moving in the right direction

Dont wait the two weeks though - call to make sure they have contacted him

Keep me posted

 

[tinkabells]

I did put his two phone numbers down, but they have been disconnected cos of her, but yeah they have my number and woman i spoke to today, she said someone will call me on monday to make sure they have everything then will contact him?!
But will it take longer for me cos i didnt have a door number for him, but they can find him cos of his conviction xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

door number? u mean full address?? they can find him online very easily on the electoral role, i found FOB's parents on 118.com!!!!can get more details if i pay..

 

[tinkabells]

No i got his full address just not his door number, i did look on 118.com his on there with his family, but i wont pay to find more out, i don't want that, i've heard them once you've paid they can inform the people you've tried to find on there xxx

 

[lauramarie]

hey hun i sent application and got a phone call from them after 4 weeks to confirm details. I don't know his phone number, but they said they would try to phone him first, don't know if they try to get it from his employer! anyway i called them on friday, which is 5 weeks and they said they couldn't get a hold of him so they would send a letter to him and he would have 7 days to respond or they would collect info from his employer. they said if he doesnt deny parentage it could be sorted out in the next month, but they will only backdate the claim from the day they sent the letter don't know yet if he will request dna test, wouldn't be suprised, but we went through fertility treatment!!

will keep you posted

 

[tinkabells]

Thanks love xxx

 

[edinsam]

any updates gorgeous?

 

[tinkabells]

I've left so many messages for someone to call me back, im still waiting!!!!xxx

 

[edinsam]

It's bloody ridiculous huh

I'm still waiting to hear if moron been for his DNA yet. Lils nearly 3 months old too!! Aaaargh

 

[tinkabells]

Its a nightmare, i swear if i was the man, i would be laughing now, its all there bloody way!!! I cant see how they help at all!!!xxx

 

[lauramarie]

hey sam can't believe your still waiting to hear whether he has done dna test

btw its precious-gift had to open a new account, couldn't remember my password, think its my baby brain

tink got phone call phone csa last friday, they said that they had tried 3 times to contact him by phone and sent him a letter, he has responded to none. they are now going to contact his employer! x

 

[Jkelmum]

The CSA are useless 12 wks they had to get me my money back in march and yet still no money ....they owe me 1292 that they sent to securtary of state x

 

[tinkabells]

Its stupid, i will call them again tomorrow, will keep on at them, cos its not fair and have oyu noctied its all 0845 numbers!!! Another thing we have to pay out for!!!
Makes me sooooooooooo mad xxx

 

[edinsam]

Hey precious how you doing? Well I called them yesterday again and they told me his DNA us being done this week (they get 28 days to do it and basically he is going to wait until the day poss isn't he)

then the DNA peeps write to me next week and lily and I will go in and then it's two to three weeks to get results back in. Then another 4 weeks until csa do the calcs - what a bloody shambles

 

[tinkabells]

And you got xmas in the mean time, so will take even poxy longer!!!!
Im thinking of just giving up!!!xxx

 

[edinsam]

you better not missy - you have come this far - do not give in now - seriously!

 

[lauramarie]

hey im fine, enjoying being a mum, how are you and lily? bet she is growing

oh i hope he doesn't go down the dna route after hearing what you are going through, but if he does i won't give up until he pays up for his son. don't give up either tinkabells, you will get there, wev just got to see it through to the end!

 

[babybaillie]

WIth my son they had every detail from birth. Nat insurance, company he worked for etc etc. My son just turned 16 and ive had about 5 payments from him, even tho they stopped his wages etc. He was always one step ahead of the csa. Moved jobs when this happened. Lies about where he lives etc. Yet he has a nice house, new family , nice car and a good paying job, and so does his wife.

He denied parenting, then we finally got a dna test when DS was 7/8!!!! work that out why it took so long. But i guess this is what happens when dad does bugger all and doesnt reply and it gets lost in system.

Good luck with them, i hope u get a better outcome than i did