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Fob said he wants to be more involved in lo's life. He said he would like to know more about her and wants to be contacted on a regular basis in regards to her and wants to schedule a time to see her while I'm present once a week.
Well, this week fob tells me he looses his job and he says that he wants to now keep her.. thing is I personally feel that he hasn't come through on anything he has said, and for that reason I don't trust him. I'm trying hard to put the issues we had in the past behind me for the sake of our child but it's hard when I see him promise he's going to do something and never does. Example weeks ago I said she's low on wipes.. I asked for unsented wipes and it took him a week and finally I reminded him and he said oh okay and went to the "dollar tree" and bought some wipes. I said well okay... I'm moving and I need a crib so lo well have a place to nap while we aren't co sleeping. He say's okay.. I should try to have it by the end of the week. Well he never came through.. so i went and bought a crib with the money I had from a thrift store.. I called around to his aunts and mother's house to find out he's not there ( did i mention he has a cell phone but won't give me the number JERK)
he finally calls me back and says well I'll take it to your house (I don't want him to know where my new house is) So I say take it to my mother's house. We agree and I tell my mom someone is going to deliver the crib.
He walks in the door trying to shake my mothers hand and she goes postal and ask what the***** are you doing here and goes for a gun... he says wait i'm trying to deliver a crib for my baby...
he leaves it in the driveway and runs home to call me to tell him how I put a bad taste in my mother's mouth when it comes to my family and he already knows i'm gonna pursue child support. and that he knows he hasn't come through on anything but he feels like he doesn't need to be told by the Government how to care for his child (the one he wanted nothing to do with and referred to at it.) I'm trying to explain to him how I feel he's never come through on anything and he jumps off the handle screaming well FINE FINE GO A HEAD PUT THEM ON ME THEN! I Mean seriously I never said that! My family HATES him. Not just for this but for all the drama that happened in our relationship prior to my daughters birth... I haven't told my family that I take my daughter to see her fob as I know it's going to cause a huge arguement... now he's asking to keep her to cut down on expenses while he's unemployed. I'm scared my lo will scream and he'll have no clue what to do with her! I honestly don't want to teach him how to care for my baby... I know I sound a bit selfish but I just want to keep her all to myself!
I'm trying to be the bigger person but this is extremely hard!
All i can think about is being pregnant alone! going to all those darn classes alone... and calling him when I miscarried while at work on the night shift, \, and I say I need a ride to the hospital and hangs up the phone on me.
I think about the my car that I bought that he totalled.... and never returned the money... I think about him calling her an "it" and now how nice he's trying to appear! It PISSES ME OFF! When I called him mother's house his dad answered and said he never told him or anyone about my child whose eight FREAKING MONTHS!
Guys If I am expecting to much tell me! but right now I can't see past my anger!
Well, this week fob tells me he looses his job and he says that he wants to now keep her.. thing is I personally feel that he hasn't come through on anything he has said, and for that reason I don't trust him. I'm trying hard to put the issues we had in the past behind me for the sake of our child but it's hard when I see him promise he's going to do something and never does. Example weeks ago I said she's low on wipes.. I asked for unsented wipes and it took him a week and finally I reminded him and he said oh okay and went to the "dollar tree" and bought some wipes. I said well okay... I'm moving and I need a crib so lo well have a place to nap while we aren't co sleeping. He say's okay.. I should try to have it by the end of the week. Well he never came through.. so i went and bought a crib with the money I had from a thrift store.. I called around to his aunts and mother's house to find out he's not there ( did i mention he has a cell phone but won't give me the number JERK)
he finally calls me back and says well I'll take it to your house (I don't want him to know where my new house is) So I say take it to my mother's house. We agree and I tell my mom someone is going to deliver the crib.
He walks in the door trying to shake my mothers hand and she goes postal and ask what the***** are you doing here and goes for a gun... he says wait i'm trying to deliver a crib for my baby...
he leaves it in the driveway and runs home to call me to tell him how I put a bad taste in my mother's mouth when it comes to my family and he already knows i'm gonna pursue child support. and that he knows he hasn't come through on anything but he feels like he doesn't need to be told by the Government how to care for his child (the one he wanted nothing to do with and referred to at it.) I'm trying to explain to him how I feel he's never come through on anything and he jumps off the handle screaming well FINE FINE GO A HEAD PUT THEM ON ME THEN! I Mean seriously I never said that! My family HATES him. Not just for this but for all the drama that happened in our relationship prior to my daughters birth... I haven't told my family that I take my daughter to see her fob as I know it's going to cause a huge arguement... now he's asking to keep her to cut down on expenses while he's unemployed. I'm scared my lo will scream and he'll have no clue what to do with her! I honestly don't want to teach him how to care for my baby... I know I sound a bit selfish but I just want to keep her all to myself!
I'm trying to be the bigger person but this is extremely hard!
All i can think about is being pregnant alone! going to all those darn classes alone... and calling him when I miscarried while at work on the night shift, \, and I say I need a ride to the hospital and hangs up the phone on me.
I think about the my car that I bought that he totalled.... and never returned the money... I think about him calling her an "it" and now how nice he's trying to appear! It PISSES ME OFF! When I called him mother's house his dad answered and said he never told him or anyone about my child whose eight FREAKING MONTHS!
Guys If I am expecting to much tell me! but right now I can't see past my anger!
its difficult to see past the atrocious behaviour of these FOBs isnt it? They do seem to live in an alternate universe where there is nothing wrong with how they behave or feel. I just think of my labour and the birth and what i just went through over the last 9 months and a lot of the early days was spent listening to HIS problems and how HE was coping in life. Selfish is a real understatement for these men. Utterly selfish people. My son will NEVER treat a woman this way, I will intervene strongly if he ever, ever behaves that selfish towards another human being in need of his support or help. 
