FOB

[kerry_xx]

I told my boyfriend of 2 years i am pregnant and he said its me or the baby he suddenly turned very evil and said he regretted ever meeting me. very sad right now but my baby is more important than a man and his immaturity. just need a few words of advice or support from anyone who can relate im very sad scared and lonely.

 

[Laura2919]

Clearly he is either scared of having a child or he just simply doesnt want one! Whatever the reason he clearly is not suited to you!

You just need to concentrate on you and the pregnancy.

One day he wont be sorry he met you but it will be too late

 

[kerry_xx]

hes going to uni and says he has so much to achieve before a baby comes along, and says it will ruin his life as he will end up not wanting to go uni and stuck in a deadend job. other the other hand i want him to go to uni and we make the effort with the baby to see each other at weekends.

 

[purpledahlia]

Its very soon, He has probably not accepted it yet, and in a bit oif shock. its still very early days and he may well come round, but if i were you, I'd plan to be secure to go it alone, start thinking about everything and planning, and if he comes round and accepts it then thats an added bonus xx

 

[teal]

My ex and I broke up when I was 4 weeks pregnant because I refused to have a termination. He has never "come around". I agree with purpledahlia in that the best thing you can do at the moment is just plan as though you're doing it alone. He'll regret it one day. It's hard work at times but it's so worth it xx

 

[purpledahlia]

#yeah FOB here hasnt accepted it either, but hes been in touch on and off, im putting my foot down now. But its early for you, plenty of time for things to change. Just dont put all your eggs in one basket iykwim?

 

[kerry_xx]

thank you just very tough right now

 

[purpledahlia]

yeah, it is. But you shouldnt ler him stress you out!

 

[sweetlullaby]

Most important thing hun. don't worry don't stress enjoy your pregnancy and maybe he'll come around at some point

 

[Laura2919]

Yeah its hard! We all have been there and it does get easier. You just need to think of you and your little baby that your carrying! It does get better with time!

 

[whoops]

I can relate. I told FOB at the weekend and he wants me to have a termination, and says he won't be able to offer support other than financial if I keep it.

I'm pretty much resigning myself to doing this alone.

 

[LittleMadam]

To be honest, I don't have a lot of sympathy for FOB and any issues he may have regarding the baby. Perhaps, you and LO will be better off without him.

All the best!