FOB's gf impersonated a nurse to get into my home

[Dezireey]

Like others have said, dont let them win sweetie! They purposely set that situation up with her coming to your home so that they would scare you into giving up with CSA. And it worked!

I understand you dont want the hassle but that scumbag planned a baby with you, got you pregnant and then let you shoulder all the hard work and responsibility, so unfair. You have your wonderful baby and he loses out on that, so his loss. He would not be able to take your LO away from you, especially after pulling that stunt.

 

[Lemonflower]

Thank you ladies for the kind words

I have now called and cancelled my CSA application. FOB will receive letters saying I've cancelled it.

They may have pulled this stunt to scare me I dunno he's evil and she's no better. I had no problem with his gf before she did this.
I didn't mind him seeing LO and I understood that eventually she'd be in LOs life. It made me jealous but I understood that it just one of those things.
After the stunt on Tues I can't have them around my child I also don't want them anywhere near us.

FOB has money (well his family have money) I don't want him taking me to court. He'd get LO (even if it's just weekends)
He doesn't want him - he said he'd "dump him" at his nans.
I can't have him using my son as a weapon or a toy.

I hope people don't think I'm being weak. FOB has his new life and he's chosen his mental gf over his baby. It breaks my heart. I thought he'd be fighting me for access.... I really did.
The 9 weeks fOB didn't contact me were very happy weeks and that's all I want - for me and LO to be happy.
My mum and dad advised me to drop CSA also. They said we'd all make sure LO will not go without. My close friends said the same.

Only thing - FOB has told his family I cheated on him and LO isn't his. He'll say that I didn't want a DNA test because he's right.
I'd like to say that I don't care what they think but I do. It's not nice to be accused of being a sl*g when I'm not. I was nothing but loving and faithful to FOB.

My friend wrote to his girlfriend on Facebook. She put her straight on a few things and confirmed to her that I would have put every penny of FOB's money into a savings account for LO's education/and or future.
FOB knows me well enough to know I would do this

I pray this cancellation letter will make him back off again. I also pray they stay together. FOB is so fickle I see him coming back for LO if his relationship did break down.

 

[Lemonflower]

Oh... I'm going to report her. She's a care worker not a nurse. How can you be in healthcare and do that to someone. Not sure where she works but I'm gonna keep digging.
I hope she gets sacked!!

 

[lemontree12]

Xxxx

 

[~RedLily~]

Omg that's awful!
It's not weak to step away from this if you think things will be better for you and LO. I haven't gone to CSA because it just isn't worth what would come with it.
Definitely report her! What she did is so messed up

 

[lyonesse]

You are such a wonderful mother and strong person. I hope it works and that both of those cruel ppl stay away from you and your LO. But please be prepared if they don't, if he insists on DNA, court etc just to be a prick. Because sometimes backing off won't alleviate the situation and you and your son need to be protected from these ppl.

He's a nasty piece of work and that gf of his is worse. I thought it was illegal to falsely represent yourself, particularly to enter another person's home! I'm flabbergasted that it's apparently okay because she didn't hurt your son? Wtf?? Why the hell else would they plan such a stunt if not to "gain" and for you to "lose"?

Karma will get them both, and it'll really hurt after the crap they've pulled. Your LO will grow up knowing that his Mum did her very best for him and I hope you have a lot of support and love around you both. For what it's worth, you have my admiration and respect. Because I'd have started a war over that sort of thing and it would gain nothing for LO in the end. Just upsets me to know awful ppl always win because they're willing to go further to hurt others-even their own children