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Fob called last night and asked me was I recieving any type of Government assistance.. ie food stamps.. and I asked why.. he started to rant and rave about how if I were that the "white man (Government)" was going to put him on child support because I was recieving assistance from them.
I said well your child has insurance... so what are you saying... he went into this long lecture about needing to know everything going and coming in my household because I have his child... Earlier in the month after he established himself as wanting to be around I informed him that my best friend who's a guy his mother was keeping our child. He called me all types of lairs and names because he feels that I wasn't forthcoming with the information. He said I know you've had another man holding my child.. He asked what my bff's last name was and I told him... He asked me how much assistance was I recieving and I told him. He tells me that it makes him look bad as a man with me sitting up and getting food stamps. I said well I"m trying to make it on my own and he yells YOU AREN"T.... YOU'RE GETTING HELP! ASK ME! and My words to him were I'm not going to share with you that I can't afford food nor that I need help your obligation is to our daughter and not me... Have a I sat at my house hungry YES but that's not something I wanted to tell him... He started ranting and raving again... I said well let's just get off the phone because this conversation is doing a little to much and he tells me I"m not excused from getting off the FREAKING PHONE!
I sit there shocked... and he tells me how dirty I was for not allowing him to come to her birth.. and if it weren't for him I wouldn't have said anything about the child.. he's the reason why we got DNA tested..... He told me that I was to meet him up there with my baby at his request.... to have the test done... if you've been inside a government agency.. you'd know how crowded it is and unsanitary it is.. I took my then 3 week old to the facility to submit our dna swabs and when he called he told me he was on his way... i said okay... he made it discovered that I had taken "it" in to be swabbed and cursed me out.. refused to submit his dna and told me he'll see me in court. Then he rants about me trying to pin this baby on him and I could have switched his dna to make him her father.
He tells me about how he didn't want another girl while I was pregnant because he had other children I didn't know about... now he claims she's his only girl.
He asked me after he kicked me out did i date anyone else.. I said yes.. and he said well TEST THAT MAN because I"m not her father... we were even suppose to meet to have testing done but he refused to pay half of the money.. saying how was he going to be compensated when the test shows she's not his. I eventually stopped answering his phone calls because all he would do was belittle me
MONTHS LATER we're asked in to court.. he then submits his dna... recieves the results and has been here since he found out "I wasn't that much of a freak after all"
He then tells me that for fear of being put on child support he said nothing and often .. he bit his tongue... but clearly nothing I say can be trusted anymore so he's going to put child support on himself so I can stop recieving assistance.. because clearly I"m so dumb I didn't think to ask him for help... I asked everyone but him and that makes him feel like less than a man... Apparently I make comments about him not being around everyday that that makes him feel bad as a man... and it's disrespectful.. he then tells me my child begining next month will be put into a day care because I'm nothing but a lair and he will have access to pick her up at his descretion. He asked me had my bff held my baby and I said well I can't lie and say that she wasn't held by another guy..he said you told me that you wanted no other woman holding my baby... I said that's all you remember me saying???? I said I know how you and your brothers get down.. with random females.... Do NOT LET SOME RANDOM FEMALE THAT YOU ARE NOT SERIOUS WITH AND JUST SCREWING HOLD OR WATCH MY BABY!... he took only one phrase and ran with it.. I told him you have aunts and mothers....wouldn't it be unrealistic of me to say don't let another female hold her?
and He says BITCH how dare you! I'm taking your stupid ass to court! You can't be trusted.... letting another swinging D*** hold my baby.
I hung up... he called this morning 3 times while I was asleep at 4 something this morning.. saying I'm gonna bring some food over there this evening. I love you guys and he hangs up.
He's the type of person who once he starts paying his money he feels the need as that "MAN" to call the shots and say how everything is suppose to go... He got mad because i made mention to going to my mother's house to eat dinner because I have no food.. of course I hadn't gone.. but I used that as an example to say I'm not gonna go days with out food. He even cursed me because I mentioned our baby had thrush at 2 or 3 months when he wasn't around...
O and when I make mention to all the names that were called in regards to me trying to pin this baby, my mother being told to F*** You, my baby being called an "it" he says I can't change what happened yesterday... He even called me a bad mom when it came to my choice of allowing my bff's mom to keep my daughter.
I don't know what to do or where to turn but I do know things are gonna get alot worse.....
I said well your child has insurance... so what are you saying... he went into this long lecture about needing to know everything going and coming in my household because I have his child... Earlier in the month after he established himself as wanting to be around I informed him that my best friend who's a guy his mother was keeping our child. He called me all types of lairs and names because he feels that I wasn't forthcoming with the information. He said I know you've had another man holding my child.. He asked what my bff's last name was and I told him... He asked me how much assistance was I recieving and I told him. He tells me that it makes him look bad as a man with me sitting up and getting food stamps. I said well I"m trying to make it on my own and he yells YOU AREN"T.... YOU'RE GETTING HELP! ASK ME! and My words to him were I'm not going to share with you that I can't afford food nor that I need help your obligation is to our daughter and not me... Have a I sat at my house hungry YES but that's not something I wanted to tell him... He started ranting and raving again... I said well let's just get off the phone because this conversation is doing a little to much and he tells me I"m not excused from getting off the FREAKING PHONE!
I sit there shocked... and he tells me how dirty I was for not allowing him to come to her birth.. and if it weren't for him I wouldn't have said anything about the child.. he's the reason why we got DNA tested..... He told me that I was to meet him up there with my baby at his request.... to have the test done... if you've been inside a government agency.. you'd know how crowded it is and unsanitary it is.. I took my then 3 week old to the facility to submit our dna swabs and when he called he told me he was on his way... i said okay... he made it discovered that I had taken "it" in to be swabbed and cursed me out.. refused to submit his dna and told me he'll see me in court. Then he rants about me trying to pin this baby on him and I could have switched his dna to make him her father.
He tells me about how he didn't want another girl while I was pregnant because he had other children I didn't know about... now he claims she's his only girl.
He asked me after he kicked me out did i date anyone else.. I said yes.. and he said well TEST THAT MAN because I"m not her father... we were even suppose to meet to have testing done but he refused to pay half of the money.. saying how was he going to be compensated when the test shows she's not his. I eventually stopped answering his phone calls because all he would do was belittle me
MONTHS LATER we're asked in to court.. he then submits his dna... recieves the results and has been here since he found out "I wasn't that much of a freak after all"
He then tells me that for fear of being put on child support he said nothing and often .. he bit his tongue... but clearly nothing I say can be trusted anymore so he's going to put child support on himself so I can stop recieving assistance.. because clearly I"m so dumb I didn't think to ask him for help... I asked everyone but him and that makes him feel like less than a man... Apparently I make comments about him not being around everyday that that makes him feel bad as a man... and it's disrespectful.. he then tells me my child begining next month will be put into a day care because I'm nothing but a lair and he will have access to pick her up at his descretion. He asked me had my bff held my baby and I said well I can't lie and say that she wasn't held by another guy..he said you told me that you wanted no other woman holding my baby... I said that's all you remember me saying???? I said I know how you and your brothers get down.. with random females.... Do NOT LET SOME RANDOM FEMALE THAT YOU ARE NOT SERIOUS WITH AND JUST SCREWING HOLD OR WATCH MY BABY!... he took only one phrase and ran with it.. I told him you have aunts and mothers....wouldn't it be unrealistic of me to say don't let another female hold her?
and He says BITCH how dare you! I'm taking your stupid ass to court! You can't be trusted.... letting another swinging D*** hold my baby.
I hung up... he called this morning 3 times while I was asleep at 4 something this morning.. saying I'm gonna bring some food over there this evening. I love you guys and he hangs up.
He's the type of person who once he starts paying his money he feels the need as that "MAN" to call the shots and say how everything is suppose to go... He got mad because i made mention to going to my mother's house to eat dinner because I have no food.. of course I hadn't gone.. but I used that as an example to say I'm not gonna go days with out food. He even cursed me because I mentioned our baby had thrush at 2 or 3 months when he wasn't around...
O and when I make mention to all the names that were called in regards to me trying to pin this baby, my mother being told to F*** You, my baby being called an "it" he says I can't change what happened yesterday... He even called me a bad mom when it came to my choice of allowing my bff's mom to keep my daughter.
I don't know what to do or where to turn but I do know things are gonna get alot worse.....
It worries me that he thinks he can do whatever he wants where you're concerned. He tells you you're stupid.. Insults you? Pfft. He has no respect for you.. x
