For the TEENS. Feeling uncomfortable?

[mz_jackie86]

Well we gotta get it from somewhere cos we dont get it from anyone else it seems lol

 

[pennysbored]

Just wondering if there are any likewise teens out there?

I'm feeling more uncomfortable than ever with regards being a pregnant teen since seeing some of the discussions that can go on about it.

Does anyone feel the same or is it just me?

It just seems as if its portrayed as wrong (by the majority) to be pregnant when you're a teenager and I genuinely don't see why. Its really got me feeling upset and doubting myself.

My own mother left me one Christmas as a little girl to be brought up by my Dad and you know, the way people talk of teenage parents, I feel as though I shouldn't be pregnant... My mothers words as she left were "being a wife and a mother is standing in the way of my career"... I don't want a job or my relationship to ever stand between me and my daughter. Is that so wrong?

I genuinely do not understand what the problem is?!

As everyone is saying, a few bad apples are spoiling the whole bunch.
I sometimes read some posts in the teen pregnancy forum, and yes, there are some girls who sound like complete idiots. When I read a thread about how a 16 year old girl can't wait to get pregnant so she can buy cute baby clothes? That worries me.
On the other hand, Pregnancy happens. When I was 17 I accidentally got pregnant, and planned on keeping it. I miscarried at 12 weeks, and looking back, it wasn't the worst thing that happened to me (the man I was with at the time was...well, less than appealing) along with the fact that I hadn't finished school. But again, if I hadn't miscarried, I would have had a 10 year old right now, and I was okay with that. Losing that baby hurt me, and still does. Just because I was young, and it wasn't my time, doesn't mean I would have been an irresponsible mother.
I think some people just feel that there is still so much to see and do. And I can't make excuses for jerks out there, or the ones on here for that matter who lump all pregnant teens in the same category. Know that not everyone thinks so, that sometimes teens get pregnant, and should be supported for taking responsibility for it. Especially emotionally.
If you ever want to talk, PM me, I'm on here all the time. You seem bright, and I wish you the best.

 

[kayley_baby]

as far as judging goes...im 17 and expecting my first child! I recently rang my uncle and gave him what i thought was good news when i told him all i heard in the back ground was his mrs exclaim "WHAT PREGNANT?! and how old is she?!" i dont get it though! she was pregnant with her first at 15 and her second at 17 so whats her problem?

 

[14_pregnant]

Hi, I'm Maya, I'm 14 and 7 months pregnant. I feel your pain, I have not given birth yet but the anxiety is pressing in on me. I feel so frightened and confused. But just so you know, you are definitely not the only scared young mom out there!

 

[HatterasSarah]

Although I don't really know what its like in the UK in regards to social acceptance, I know that where Im from (north carolina) we have TONS of pregnant teens...and they are all very accepted. I really think that people are being much less judgmental and more proud of young moms, for taking responsibility of themselves and raising their children. Kudos to you.

 

[EmmyReece]

Hey guys, I'm a bit old to be in here, but was having a nosey and I just wanted to say well done to all of you

Where I come from a lot of teens do aim to get pregnant so that they have a meal ticket and money coming in. But, it's such a refreshing change to see so many of you who want to work for a living and bring your baby up in the best possible way, and I wish all of you, all the luck in the world.

Don't listen to what anyone else says. At the end of the day you guys will be fabulous Mummys because you want to give it a shot, because you want to make it work by yourselves (not from handouts from the government) and give your baby all the love and support you possibly can

 

[Serene123]

My personal opinon (no one get offended please) is that I have tried so hard to fight for what I have to be O.K. that I spent so much time worrying about it unnecessarily. Who do I have to justify my right to have my little girl to? NO ONE. I am a perfect mother and I always will be. No one needs to know that apart from my princess. Who cares what people think? To be honest when your babies here you won't give a toss..

 

[pinkmummy]

I just wanted to say that I was 18 when I had my little one. Me and my partner didn't get a council house and benefits etc. I moved from my council flat into a privately rented 3 bedroomed house (my partner moved in with me then) and we got no benefits apart, from Child Tax, Working Tax and Child Benefit.

My partner worked 37 hours a week and I was at college doing 2 part time courses. When I finished these courses I got a part time job.

Me and my partner have always kept our upkeep from when Caitlin was born.

Don't get me wrong I'm not saying that all young mothers should go out and work I'm just saying that not all young mothers use babies for the excuse of a house, money etc. And from the replies I've read on here I don't think anyone on here does, all they want is to be accepted for loving their babies.

Hugs to you all coz it definately isn't easy with all the criticism about.

Oh yeah and just one last thing. My partner is 22 now but he looks really young when we had our 1st daughter he looked about 14 and people always used to say (people we didnt know) your young to be having a baby when people saw us walking in the street or on the bus. I always used to feel like screaming hes 20 not 14! But I thought I wouldn't give them the satisfaction, they can say what they want we love our children and don't need anyone but our family xx

PS I hope nobody takes offense to this post its not meant for that xx

 

[heather91]

as far as judging goes...im 17 and expecting my first child! I recently rang my uncle and gave him what i thought was good news when i told him all i heard in the back ground was his mrs exclaim "WHAT PREGNANT?! and how old is she?!" i dont get it though! she was pregnant with her first at 15 and her second at 17 so whats her problem?

When the security guard found out I was pregnant at work he was like 'Seriously?' and I said yes and he called me a, and I quote, 'STUPID GIRL!'. I was utterly gobsmacked. All I could manage back was 'Congratulations would have been fine'. Some peoples' reactions are ridiculous x

 

[kayley_baby]

i get what people mean by young mums but i dont consider myself to be that young!
People keep telling me i should enjoy my life while im young instead of going out getting myself pregnant (as if i sleep around (i was 16 wen i met my oh and was still a virgin and have since only ever slept with him)not my deffinition of someone who sleeps around!)
Also on numourous occasions my parents have been asked if i know the father is by
People i dont even know!!
Anyway my point is i dont drink i dont go out to parties im not legally old enough to go clubbing and from where im standing clubs are for people drinking what would be the point?
So what better way to enjoy life then giving life to someone youll love and cherish for the rest of your life?