fluffyblue
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Does pain ever go away
I have never ever shared this with anyone but having just had Ollie and seeing my mum wasting away with Alzheimers I dont have the family network around me to talk to basically because we didnt tell a soul about it.
I was 15 nearly 16 when I lost my baby at 20 weeks in 1987. I unfortunately fell pregnant on my first time with a boy who at the time was the love of my life, he didnt think so and scarpered as soon as I got the positive.
My mum was really strict and made my life hell even though I was at school at the time, spose I didnt really know better but I carried on with life as normal etc.
I sometimes visit the stillbirth/sids section but dont feel like I can post in there because I feel my story isnt worthy - I just look at ways to cope. Unfortunately I lost my little girl due to extreme premature labour. She was called Jessica well thats what I named her (Jessica was a big name in the 80's). I didnt get pictures and to be fair we didnt talk about it much.
Jessica was 240grams and 6 inches long. I cant remember much else
Im now 39 and have gone onto have 3 beautiful children but have lost 5 angels along the way, spose it was embarrassment that held it all in all those years but now I think I can release and grieve along with my other angels because I know I am not going to have any more children.
I know some of my BNB buddies may be surprised by my post but its something which ive kept inside for so long its been buried there, ive been so emotional lately with my mother and alzheimers and her debilitating memory that I need to "empty my closet" as such. I just read so many posts and want to share and express my sadness but sometimes I just dont know what to say I must seem like a "lurker" at times but I just sometimes need to know how to cope with my secret emotions.
Thanks for listening I dont expect sympathy just wanted to share xxx
Does pain ever go away
I have never ever shared this with anyone but having just had Ollie and seeing my mum wasting away with Alzheimers I dont have the family network around me to talk to basically because we didnt tell a soul about it.
I was 15 nearly 16 when I lost my baby at 20 weeks in 1987. I unfortunately fell pregnant on my first time with a boy who at the time was the love of my life, he didnt think so and scarpered as soon as I got the positive.
My mum was really strict and made my life hell even though I was at school at the time, spose I didnt really know better but I carried on with life as normal etc.
I sometimes visit the stillbirth/sids section but dont feel like I can post in there because I feel my story isnt worthy - I just look at ways to cope. Unfortunately I lost my little girl due to extreme premature labour. She was called Jessica well thats what I named her (Jessica was a big name in the 80's). I didnt get pictures and to be fair we didnt talk about it much.
Jessica was 240grams and 6 inches long. I cant remember much else
Im now 39 and have gone onto have 3 beautiful children but have lost 5 angels along the way, spose it was embarrassment that held it all in all those years but now I think I can release and grieve along with my other angels because I know I am not going to have any more children.
I know some of my BNB buddies may be surprised by my post but its something which ive kept inside for so long its been buried there, ive been so emotional lately with my mother and alzheimers and her debilitating memory that I need to "empty my closet" as such. I just read so many posts and want to share and express my sadness but sometimes I just dont know what to say I must seem like a "lurker" at times but I just sometimes need to know how to cope with my secret emotions.
Thanks for listening I dont expect sympathy just wanted to share xxx