Found out what happened

[Dee_H]

My husband and I lost our bany 2 weeks ago now and the other day I had a doctors appointment. I passed the baby at the hospital and they took it for an autopsy( not sure how you spell it !!??) The doctor told me that even though I was suppose to be 12 weeks that my baby's development was only at about 5-6 weeks and that it just stopped growing and I carried it for 6 weeks and didn't even know the baby was already gone. It was quite disturbing but in the same token I was glad to know what happened. I had that hovering over my head...what happened to my baby????? It has helped in the healing process. Have any of you heard of this....and what happens to stop the baby from growing? I ate good and took really good care of myself....I don't get it.

 

[AquaDementia]

glad to know you at least have some closure.
there will be more healthy bunnies for you in the future.
hugs.

 

[Rumpskin]

I am sorry but I dont have any answers for you. I didnt have the option of finding out what had happened. I guess it was just not meant to be.

Sending you a hug

 

[maddiwatts19]

Awww hun, im so sorry!! Hope that this can help you come to terms with it a bit better now xxx

 

[Vickie]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you were able to get some answers.

 

[nutty]

Hi Dee, sorry for your loss. Similar happened to me they took my baby away to test but said that I would probably not find out what happened (they just test for research or something). On the scan I had they said that the baby had stopped growing too I was told that this is normally a genetic fault?

 

[Lauren-x]

It wasn't your fault, but I am sorry for your loss. I think when the baby dies it's because there is something wrong with the baby so nature takes its course but I'm not sure.

 

[AS1]

Hi - I am so sorry to hear you sad news.

I am going through something similar. My baby measures 6 weeks 5days and I am 9 weeks 4 days, my dates are 100% correct. I have been having weekly scans as I have a large cyst which was causing complications. My baby was growing every week bur not at the rate it should be - when they told me the bad news on saturday I asked why if my foetus was in fact dead was it still growing and they could not answer this? It makes it worse that they make you wait - at this stage I probably won't get a D&C until next week. I'm sure like me you felt pregnant and were not bleeding so asssumed everything was ok it must have been a total shock for you to hear that at your 12 week scan.

 

[NeyNey]

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry, sometimes there's no explanation, don't blame yourself, you did nothing wrong!

 

[jenny873]

sorry to hear about ur loss, dont blame yourself im sure it was nothing to do with what you ate etc. xxx

 

[Dee_H]

It makes me worry that this will happen again if it is a genetic thing. I guess that is a risk we have to take if we want to have a another baby. It is just frustrating...like I said before I took such good care of myself and I still lost the baby.It seems like it was all for nothing. Sorry to vent ...I am having a rough day!

 

[jo27]

Hi hun i had the same thing, there is no explanation and wheras some women would miscarry straight away as soon as the baby stops developing others don't and it's what they call a missed or delayed miscarriage - i think it's a much crueler way as you think everything is going along well and get more excited and relaxed as the weeks go on. Make sure you push for those tests tho just to rule out any probs x

 

[Iwantone!!!]

i hope it helps hunni xxx

 

[Always&4ever]

Sorry to hear of your loss

 

[xclairex]

hi dee, i went through something similar i lost my baby at nine weeks and the baby growth was a 4 week growth i didnt even no my baby had died! i still thinking about it and it happened anugust the 7th i never got the chance to no why am everything passed naturally! sorry for your loss x

 

[snowflake]

Hi Dee_H,

I am so sorry for your loss. I suffered a missed miscarriage just over 2 weeks ago at 10 weeks. At my 10 week scan it showed that the baby had died at 8 weeks 3 days.

Just to let you know that my Gyni said that normally if the baby stops growing it is down to a genetic defect and that it's normally a once-off, not to be repeated again. Hope this puts your mind at rest somewhat.

 

[Dee_H]

I sure hope you are right Snowflake. We are hoping to try again as soon as I get my period.....whenever the hell that will be!!! Wish us luck!

 

[funkym]

good luck hun !!

 

[perezv0]

Hi Dee!
I am so sorry to hear about you loss. If you ever need anyone to talk to feel free to msg me.

I am thinking about you and am praying for many healthy happy babies in your future
xoxo

 

[jacky24]

HI dee, im sorry for your loss.
My story is very diffrent but i can say to you be strong and jump right back on that horse straight away, i wish i jumped back on that horse 8 months ago.

Take it easy and looking at all the replies you have, you have many friends that you can always talk to.

HUGS.... and future