Freaking out slightly.

[Wishing_well]

I got my bfp this morning but now I'm freaking out. I don't know what I'm supposed to do next...
Although it wasn't completely planned (we weren't expecting it to happen so quickly!) I'm excited but my OH is a bit..shocked I guess.
How long does it usually take for men to come round to the idea and get excited too?

 

[Siuan]

Hello! Congratulations!

My OH was a bit shocked too, we've been together for 10 years and married for 3. Then we fell pg in our first cycle of trying and he kept telling me that "on average" it takes 5 months and we couldn't possibly be pg already! So even with years of knowing I want a family and knowing that we could fall earlier than the 5 month average, it still took him by surprise!

I don't think he'll ever be as excited as I am about it. He's far too practical, but I think deep down he is pleased and he's showing it in small ways which for him speak volumes. I'm hoping our first scan will get him more excited about it all!

 

[katstar]

hi hun,

i was writing to people yesterday how my oh wants me to abort. I said no way would that happen and left him to think about it. Didn't talk to him and left him to think through in his own head. And today i am writing to say he is coming round. All men are different i suppose but give him time alone. Don't talk about the pregnancy too much and leave him get over it in his own time. xxx

 

[Mabythistime]

After trying for 2.5 years....the response I got was: Oh really?...and then nothing. haha...nothing for a week..Like I SAID NOTHING.

But it took about 2 - 3 weeks....then all of a sudden, he started making special little gestures showing his interest in his own little male way! They do take longer than us to get excited.

 

[Wishing_well]

Anyone else got any words of wisdom?

 

[Amethyste]

That was my exact reaction the day after i got my BFP. Someone on this forum told me not to worry and that "I was gonna love my bump". I don't know why but it really touched me and made me feel better ;-) so i am telling it to you today hoping that it will help : It is normal to be scared at the start so don't worry, you are gonna love your bump ;-)

 

[Mel S]

All men are different - its difficult for them as they aren't going through what we are. It might take until the baby is more real for him to get excited. In relation to what to do next - get a dr's appointment then they should put you in contact with a midwife to organise your first scan. If you aren't already start taking folic acid and watch what you are eating as somethings aren't good for you. Hope it all works out for you.

 

[3boys]

this is my 5th baby and my hubby never gets excited until about 3 wks before i give birth! lol! congrats hun! x x

 

[LilianA]

congrats hun. mine takes 9 months to get excited hahaha once the baby arrives that is. This is my third pregnancy and all of them have been planned. he gets excited for about a minute when i tell him I got a BFP then its almost nothing for 9 months. I guess guys are just different and its just natural that we get all excited and stuff, its growing in our bodies.
don't worry he will come around soon but don't expect him to be nearly as excited as you are.

 

[mrs_p84]

I remember asking DH if he was excited and all he said was, "Yeah. I guess. I mean, we were trying so I knew it was coming"
Men are so unemotional at times! I know DH is excited, they just don't show it like we do. Which is why there are forums like this!!

 

[Wishing_well]

Yeah I guess it'll take time. I think its just the lack of any emotion that got me slightly worried

 

[ajraye]

When I found out I was pregnant again I cried for 2 days....big shock since I was on birth control. My husband was in shock as well lol but honestly after about a week, we both got really excited and can't wait to meet out little princess! Actually when I told him all he said was "shutup, I know you ain't serious"! Gee way to make me feel better huh?! He will come around...guys can't act all excited and everything like us women, it would kill their macho man image Enjoy you pregnancy hun and keep us updated!!!

 

[Mandy82]

Same here, i think he'll realise it's all real after the scan or maybe not, at least for me it will be, but as others have said it might take the 9 months to sink in

 

[Wishing_well]

I was just talking to OH about meeting my friend tomorrow and he said "Don't tell her anything, she'll get all excited before I even get a chance to get excited. Not fair!"
Bless him

 

[3boys]

ah so sweet, sounds like he is coming around to the idea! x x

 

[leigh5tom]

My OH did'nt treat me like I was pregnant until my first scan, now hes like a different bloke!! Think he needed to see LO for it to sink in xx

 

[teresapk]

i showed my DH the first HPT with a faint line and he said 'i don't see anything, let me know when it's darker' i was kinda mad. so i waited until the next day and did two tests and they were both REALLY dark and he just stared at them for a while and then said 'so this means you're more pregnant?' hah
i think it'll take until i get the blood test results back from the dr for him to REALLY believe me

it takes men some time, it's not happening directly to them with all the symptoms and morning sickness so it's not real yet.