Frequency of BDing...honest answers please!

[Bear0609]

I was curious to know, on average, how often we all BD?

I start each month determined to DTD at least every other day, but then due to other things in life, such as work, illness, ridiculously hot weather or just not feeling like it, it's not always possible. And then when AF arrives I feel guilty for perhaps not doing it enough.

Do some of you wait for the most fertile time of the month or just do it regularly over the course of the month?

Thanks ladies.

 

[Mrs Cupcake]

we dtd every other day pretty much through out the month, although post Ov this drops off a bit!

my hub says he finds this a bit much though! it difficult when your tired after work etc

i don't just wait for the fertile time because the dates might be wrong and then i'd miss it. I prefer to cover all the bases!

 

[elliep]

We dtd regularly throughout the month and try to do it every day around the fertile time.

 

[welshgirl21]

We try to dtd regularly through the month but like you we find that work, life and general stuff get in the way so we try and dtd when we can up until fertile time, then try to increase it to every other or every 2 days.

It is hard though as OH is so busy at work and often tired at night.

 

[Coogee]

my OH is in the army so he comes and goes. we do it everyday when he is back, sometimes twice a day. he is super fit due to being in the army, so he has lots of stamina. I'm exhausted by the time he goes. Sorry if TMI.

Lots of baby dust for everyone x

 

[nevernormal]

Usually we bd about 2 days, every once in a while it's 3 days because we are too tired and just want to sleep on the 2nd day lol. My cycles are crazy and I don't really know when I'm going to ovulate, but I track my bbt so anytime I have a significant spike we do it that day too, even if we did it the day before lol. Then it goes back to every 2-3 days. So far this month though, I've had dotted crosshairs on my ff chart 4 times (twice they lasted over 10 days!!!), then they go away. I would like to take a break from bding in the TWW but how can I if I am not 100% that I ovulated!

 

[BabyKey]

We started DTD every other day at cd 6, then we got a + OPK and went everyday for the next 5 days. After fertile window has passed, I think we both needed a little break, so it definitely decreases. Some of those days we DTD 2x

 

[twilliamssbt]

We are in the process of moving from Lancashire back to Midlands.

OH is only with me normally at weekends, so then it is daily.

Luckily, he arrived yesterday which coincided with my fertile time starting, now due to his low count, we are twice daily.

Got a very regular 28 day cycle and temps so far are not erratic at all, seem to be following ideal.

 

[bunni84]

well if DH had his way it would be every morning and night...but im exhausted, so more like every 2-3 days and when i get my + on my OPK its 2 times a day...so when i see line getting darker its once a day, and on surge its 2 times a day and once again day after the surge...then back to once every 2-3 days

 

[maythisbelove]

On the avg we DTD four times a week. Sometimes SO with want it 2x a day and I am exhausted!

 

[Heather.]

Does anybody else have to argue with there OH or DH about not having sex every day. This is our 1st month really trying and I am only on cycle day 6 and he is already driving me nuts about not having sex every day. If that man had his way we would never leave the bedroom. We are trying the SMEP and the every other day thing is killing him I think...He promised he would give me 3 months of trying it this way.

 

[charbaby]

Me and my partner DTD everyday we always have, apart from the odd day that maybe he works late or one of us is ill (which rarely happens)
Some of my friends think its great others think its weird but its just the way we like it

 

[bunni84]

Does anybody else have to argue with there OH or DH about not having sex every day. This is our 1st month really trying and I am only on cycle day 6 and he is already driving me nuts about not having sex every day. If that man had his way we would never leave the bedroom. We are trying the SMEP and the every other day thing is killing him I think...He promised he would give me 3 months of trying it this way.

YES!! once we didnt do it for 4 days..and he got really arsey with me!! i started blubbing...

so i have to give into him every 2 days..or he gets annoyed..i can understand rejection feels awful

now i told him when my OPK starts to go dark we abstain for 3 days and then when i get surge then we DTD - his face was a picture....but when its time to DTD and i get my + on the OPK i literally drag him into the bedroom...hes literally on then haha

 

[mummy.wannabe]

I was curious to know, on average, how often we all BD?

I start each month determined to DTD at least every other day, but then due to other things in life, such as work, illness, ridiculously hot weather or just not feeling like it, it's not always possible. And then when AF arrives I feel guilty for perhaps not doing it enough.

Do some of you wait for the most fertile time of the month or just do it regularly over the course of the month?

Thanks ladies.

you sound like me, after my peroid is finished we dont really do it much for 2 weeks, ( i have around 35 day cycle so ovulate late) and then we try to do it every other day until nearly due to starr my period, we defintaly dont have sex as much as i read some people on here, but you know when youve been together along time, 10 years this year, its not as exciting as when i was a teenager, and working long hours etc its not on my mind every day, once we do start having sex then i enjoy it, but this is life x

 

[Bear0609]

Thanks for all your replies ladies.

I seriously admire those of you who do it every day or even twice a day, your partners are champions! As I get very frequent UTIs doing it everyday would cause me serious problems, and a huge amount of pain.

I'd love some of the energy some of you have, probably just me getting old and having a very hectic life!

 

[mummy.wannabe]

I'm 25 and can't do it everynight ha I'd find it too painful to do it every night x

 

[bunni84]

Thanks for all your replies ladies.

I seriously admire those of you who do it every day or even twice a day, your partners are champions! As I get very frequent UTIs doing it everyday would cause me serious problems, and a huge amount of pain.

I'd love some of the energy some of you have, probably just me getting old and having a very hectic life!

do you go to the loo straight away or just sleep afterwards? i used to get UTI's if i didnt go to the loo straight away

and pee beforehand...it worked for me! and drink 2 litres a day...i found sugary foods n drinks made my UTIs flare up

 

[mummy.wannabe]

What it uti ? X sorry

 

[ArmyWife1984]

I got my this month!
What we did is My dh held his load starting wed june 1st and then on sunday June 5th, we bd'd twice. Once morning, once night. And then the next day i had pos opk june 6th. So we bd'd that night too. And that was it for the month!!! June 16th I got my BFP! 10dpo!
In previous months we tried bd'd everyday, every other, waiting til the positive opk to bd.
And this past month we were going to wait til the pos opk, but I can impatient and did it the night before the pos opk!
It worked!
to all!!!

 

[bunni84]

What it uti ? X sorry

urinary tract infection - wee wee infection