Frequency of BDing...honest answers please!

[mummy.wannabe]

I got cystitis for the 1St time last month, and every since I lost the horrible feeling in my stomach, every now and again, you know when you 1st start to realise you need to pee, I get pain in my bladder , which I get the day after having sex, could that be uti?
As it comes and goes x

 

[Maidenet]

We do it when we feel like it, not when a line on a tester tells us we should x I don't want sex to be military and planned, as that freaks me out a little bit if im honest xxx

 

[Stinas]

I give all you ladies credit who DTD daily or even twice a day. God bless you!
I am 27 and DH is 32....we try to DTD every other day, but with busy season here, he works 96 hours a week. By the time he gets home at 3am, hes pretty much done for the night.
I am hoping this time we got it right....I feel better about it because he was more into it and somehow the stars were alined with me and I got to BD the day before my smiley OPK, the day of and the day after!!!
Hopefully this is our month!!

 

[Coogee]

Lol I think the only reason my OH and I BD twice a day is because my OH is scared I don't get pregnant. My side of the family are very fertile while his is not so much - took his parents years to conceive their first. I think he might feel a bit inadequacy if I don't get PG soon.
bless him x

 

[mummy.wannabe]

how do you get time to have sex twice a day!! ha x

 

[Siuan]

Since NTNPing it's around every other day. Sometimes that becomes a day longer gap between BDing, but every other day is much more than we're used to! My libido isn't/wasn't great before so I think OH is enjoying himself!!

 

[TheAnie]

We did it 4 times this month. >< haha. We have never been overly sexual though. At least not in the last four years. Last month it was like 9 times. And that is a lot for us.

 

[Coogee]

how do you get time to have sex twice a day!! ha x

My OH is in the Army so he comes and goes but when I see him we make the most of the week or so together and totally go for. We both have high sex drives and with him being in the army he is super fit and has lots of stamina.
Sorry if this is too much information but after BDing the sheets are soaked lol

 

[Coogee]

with my ex we used to do it 6 times a week every week for 2 years (unless one of us was sick or working late etc)

 

[mummy.wannabe]

hahaha i used to be like that when i was younger but not now ha x

 

[Coogee]

Lol yeah we are young I suppose 23, a lot to learn still.

 

[mummy.wannabe]

im nearly 26 and we have been together nearly 10 years, the longer you been together the more you have to spice it up xx

 

[TexasRider]

We have been BDing quite alot this month. 11 out of 23 days and 4 of those days we didnt were AF days and 5 of the BD days were in a row. We are in our late 20's (im 28 he's 29) But we normally DTD at least every other day while I was on BCP too. So it's not really that much of a change now that we are TTC... I am just keeping track of it on the chart so I realize it more I guess

 

[Bear0609]

Some impressive BDing going on!

With regard to UTI's, I have tried every method under the sun, its been going on since I was 19, and I am now 29. I'm just a chronic sufferer.

But after all, it only takes one little swimmer so I know one day I will get my BFP

 

[twilliamssbt]

I am 32 he is 33, been together for 14 years in December which incidentally will be 21st, we are getting married on the 10th lol.

Over the last few years, we really have not been at it much at all, I had an accident at work that meant I had to retire, now have lots of problems and pregnancy will make them worse, its just if we don't go for children now, it will get too late for me as mum and nan hit menopause at 38.

He is self employed atm,which is the only way we can twice a day while I am fertile, and tbh, its not easy, its bloody killing my back, however, I am hoping it will be worth it in the long run. Once I am sure I have ovulated, we will be having a rest (he will be away till next weekend then anyway). I can guarantee I will suffer pain wise, but if that test is positive, it will be worth it.

After thinking he was complete and total azoospermia since 2006 and only just finding out that he now only has a low count with some progressive motility problems, we are kind of going hell for leather if you know what I mean.

I was kind of hoping with a fertility referral gone off and a wedding in Jamaica planned, the law of murphy would step in and I will end up pregnant for the wedding. If not this month, maybe next, and we are having fun trying anyway. At least we have charts to show fertility clinic too

 

[Princess24]

Df and i are young and still up for dtd whenever the mood strikes around 3-4 times a week. During fertile time (about 5 days to be sure) its every day and 2 times a day the day b4 after and on ov day. Understandably we take a few days off after that. But we pick right back up after that even towards the end of af. Tmi but we also have healthy personal relationships as well.

 

[TheSmpsns]

We would only average about twice weekly because of work and other things. I feel the same when AF arrives, I feel like we should have tried harder. But with me working 11 hour shifts, it is hard to get that energy when I get home! I am going to try to up it this month. I read that an average of 3 times weekly is a good medium. I am worried since too much and not enough can both cause lower sperm count.

 

[cusegal]

Thanks for all your replies ladies.

I seriously admire those of you who do it every day or even twice a day, your partners are champions! As I get very frequent UTIs doing it everyday would cause me serious problems, and a huge amount of pain.

I'd love some of the energy some of you have, probably just me getting old and having a very hectic life!

Try concentrated cranberry capsules...you can get them at a health food store. They're a life saver in avoiding UTIs!

 

[JaanRuk]

we dtd everyday.. although during my fertile period we try to only dtd every other day so it gives us better chance for BFP

 

[Bear0609]

Thanks for all your replies ladies.

I seriously admire those of you who do it every day or even twice a day, your partners are champions! As I get very frequent UTIs doing it everyday would cause me serious problems, and a huge amount of pain.

I'd love some of the energy some of you have, probably just me getting old and having a very hectic life!

Try concentrated cranberry capsules...you can get them at a health food store. They're a life saver in avoiding UTIs!

Thanks hun but I have them already and take one a day. Sadly if an infections strikes the only thing that works is some very strong antibiotics which I have on repeat prescription. Nothing else works, I am just prone to getting it really bas.