Friend putting everyone at risk! Advice asap

[laura109]

Hi everyone. I'm absolutely annoyed at my friend. This is the first time I've ever felt annoyed at her. She had a family member with norovirus last week. A day after they stopped being sick she stupidly went around with her child. She thought it would be ok. I tried to warn her it can linger. I'm abit of an expert with sickness bugs as my child's had several. Her child's had none. Anyhow she messaged me last night to say her child had began vomiting.

I messaged this morning to see how he was. She said her child had been sick four Times in total and three times the other end. I rang her after the school run to see if she was ok as I know it's a stressful situation. She said her child was doing much better. Had the squits twice though this morning. I said Keep child on a simple diet for two days now and lots of rest. She then said she planned to send child back to school tomorrow so they didn't miss the Christmas party. I said as politely as I could that it's 48 hours they recommend. I told her my child often has a relapse and will vomit a day later. Takes a while for the aching and lack of appetite to sort itself. She then said she didn't think it was necessarily a bug as her partner had given the child pop tarts (which child eats sometimes) and she is now saying it's food related! She knows her family have had it and been in contact!

I'm so annoyed. It's Christmas next week. My child is this child's best friend. They are five and hold hands and everything at school. They are joined at the hip. We also do the school run together. So now I'm worried. Because if her child caught it five days after the relative got it then what makes her think her child won't give it to the class tomorrow when they go back less than 24 hours after the last runny bum! To add to this my almost two year old is Ill and lethargic and seeing a Dr later. He is far too run down for norovirus. It's going to ruin our Christmas if it comes in the door this week.

My partner thinks I should keep my child off for the last three days. But my child's already been off four days since September. My child will end up missing out on the school Christmas party when she is healthy too. It seems so bluddy unfair that my friends putting all the other kids at risk. She's a sahm who doesn't even need to send her child . It's all about keeping child's attendance up! What a nightmare. What would you do. Need replies ASAP

 

[Jessica60]

This would make me so angry. Don't mean to be horrible but hope her kid is sick throughout the night or morning then she can't send him in.
I've got fingers crossed that we dodge it this year, it was awful last year and spreads so quickly.
Is your child excited about going to school tomorrow?

 

[Bevziibubble]

I would be so annoyed. She should be keeping her child off. Those kind of bugs spread so easily among kids. I would be tempted to keep him off. Although saying that, my DD's teacher vomited (accidentally) on some children in her class last year and no one caught it.
I hope that your friend will be considerate enough to keep her child off school.

 

[laura109]

Thanks for your replies. She rang the school up and told them he just ate too much. They said ok he can go back today. So she text me last night and said she's sending him in tomorrow he's ok to go back as the school said. She seems to think she is fooling me that there isn't a 48 hour rule. I know full well there is as when my child was travel sick I rang them and they said it's 48 hours if there's any risk of it being a bug.

I'm going to keep my child off after today. I know there's a risk she's going to get it today but I hope to god we can get it done before monday so we can enjoy Christmas. It's so unfair but I'm thinking of my son aswel.

Me and this friend are usually really close but I feel right now I can't even look at her. For the sake of her keeping her son off for one more day to prevent the spread? She's just concerned he won't get to eat turkey and dance about. How does she know he can stomach Christmas dinner and chocolate Cake.

I will just have to hope we can keep strong through the rest of winter so my DD doesnt does any more days in January and February. Luckily it's a shorter term. Plus she's four so she does t legally have to be in school yet.

Thanks again for the replies

 

[Bevziibubble]

There definitely is a 48 hour rule. I'm sorry she's being like this

 

[noon_child]

It does sound like a bug, but not a bad one like norovirus if her child only vomited 4 times. I'd expect 4 times an hour with norovirus!! Either way though she is being a bit selfish but the only thing you can do is tell her how it made you feel. I hope your child stays well.

 

[Babybump87]

Oh wow !! I would be sooooo annoyed with her ! So close to Christmas ! This has been going around in our school and no matter what soon as they hear any pupil being off with vomiting bug or no bug it’s 48 hours !

My girls were sick few weekends ago pretty sure it was the bug but they didn’t seem to have it that bad and I made them miss a birthday party and school for a day ! It’s not worth the risk ! I would keep your child off too ! How dare she risk other people’s Christmas’s especially the children’s for her own selfish reasons !! I’m not surprised your livid, I am just reading about it !

 

[Heather.1987]

It does sound like the tummy bug and the kid should probably stay home. But I would still send my kid to school. You come in contact with germs everywhere, so even if that kid did stay home, another sick kid could be at school too. If your kid is healthy, send them and dont let them miss out on the christmas fun.

 

[Jessica60]

Laura109 any update? What happened in the end?