MeaganMackenz
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My husband and I are hermits, we only have a few friends.
The closest friends we have are with couple we know. I knew him from highschool and now he's got 3 kids who are amazing friends with our kids. Their 2 youngest are only a couple months apart from our kids. We've been friends since 2011 when I randomly reconnected with him but with some difficulty at times. We had a huge falling out between his wife and myself in Oct 2012. They reached out to reconnect in Nov 2013 and we've been OK ever since.
Anywho, the issue right now is his wife. She can be difficult to be friends with at times. She's a very dominating, I'm always right I know everything my way or the highway person. It caused a lot of disconnect with us in the past until I learned to just let most of it go because she's not always like that, but has her moments.
Since I got pregnant I've found that her moments are harder to just let go. The most irritating things I'm having a hard time with, that have happened quite recently :
-her St Bernard knocked her TV controller off the table in excitement that we had just shown up and it stopped or paused or fast forwarded the show she was watching to which she blamed my kids for. I said no it was your dog I'm sitting right where the controller is I saw it, she said no its your kids I said no its your gigantic dog and she yelled "omg stop arguing with me" like I was one of her kids.
-we were visiting and we got there before she came home, she didnt like what were watching on the TV so she picked the show apart, complained about every second of it (loudly) and basically did this until I turned it off or we change it and then she got all giddy to watch what she wants.
- we went for supper recently and after a few hours of being there supper was being served and I asked if anyone minded we put the Oscars on for the last hour we were there. My husband and hers didn't care so I put it on and paused it while everyone got their supper and sat down. When I got asked why it was still paused after the men had sat down I said I was waiting for her to which she exclaimed I don't want to watch it. She then went into her room shut the door and stayed there until after we left.
This kind of stuff happens every other visit almost. Usually I ignored it cuz it's easier to do that then try to bother with it but now I feel like I'm too pregnant and moody myself to deal with crap like this. Is that unreasonable?
Her hubby knows she's being like this and tries to apologize for her, but she never does. It's like she has no clue, which isn't surprising her dad and sister don't have any sort of social awareness to how they're acting. She's always pointing it out like she's different but now I think she's clueless too. Is it unreasonable to dial interactions with her down until I can manage them less emotionally? :/
The closest friends we have are with couple we know. I knew him from highschool and now he's got 3 kids who are amazing friends with our kids. Their 2 youngest are only a couple months apart from our kids. We've been friends since 2011 when I randomly reconnected with him but with some difficulty at times. We had a huge falling out between his wife and myself in Oct 2012. They reached out to reconnect in Nov 2013 and we've been OK ever since.
Anywho, the issue right now is his wife. She can be difficult to be friends with at times. She's a very dominating, I'm always right I know everything my way or the highway person. It caused a lot of disconnect with us in the past until I learned to just let most of it go because she's not always like that, but has her moments.
Since I got pregnant I've found that her moments are harder to just let go. The most irritating things I'm having a hard time with, that have happened quite recently :
-her St Bernard knocked her TV controller off the table in excitement that we had just shown up and it stopped or paused or fast forwarded the show she was watching to which she blamed my kids for. I said no it was your dog I'm sitting right where the controller is I saw it, she said no its your kids I said no its your gigantic dog and she yelled "omg stop arguing with me" like I was one of her kids.
-we were visiting and we got there before she came home, she didnt like what were watching on the TV so she picked the show apart, complained about every second of it (loudly) and basically did this until I turned it off or we change it and then she got all giddy to watch what she wants.
- we went for supper recently and after a few hours of being there supper was being served and I asked if anyone minded we put the Oscars on for the last hour we were there. My husband and hers didn't care so I put it on and paused it while everyone got their supper and sat down. When I got asked why it was still paused after the men had sat down I said I was waiting for her to which she exclaimed I don't want to watch it. She then went into her room shut the door and stayed there until after we left.
This kind of stuff happens every other visit almost. Usually I ignored it cuz it's easier to do that then try to bother with it but now I feel like I'm too pregnant and moody myself to deal with crap like this. Is that unreasonable?
Her hubby knows she's being like this and tries to apologize for her, but she never does. It's like she has no clue, which isn't surprising her dad and sister don't have any sort of social awareness to how they're acting. She's always pointing it out like she's different but now I think she's clueless too. Is it unreasonable to dial interactions with her down until I can manage them less emotionally? :/