Friends?

[Seren0613]

Did your friends stick around when you got pregnant?

All my friends completely bounced. I've been ignored, told I should have an abortion, made fun of because I'm pregnant - it's ridiculous. I'm the type of person who will help anyone in need & am the one that is always there. I don't deserve this.

I'm just really alone. I know I'll be busy when baby comes but I'm so depressed. My family wants to throw me a baby shower & I'm dreading it because I no longer have any friends to invite, & don't have fob either. I feel like such a loser. I just want to cry.

 

[Dezireey]

No this didnt happen to me??? How old are you? if you are very young then yes, sometimes for odd reasons people who are young do this. My only guess is that they feel like they will have nothing in common with you when baby is born and dont believe you will come out as much or they are super childish and think its uncool to be a young mum? Either way sweetie, who needs people like that anyway? they sound very immature and unkind. Dont worry, you will be super busy when baby is born and then I reccomend, when baby is a few months old perhaps, to go to baby groups and classes and make lovely new friends with other mums your age. You will find that its much nicer to be around people like that and they will also have loads in common with you.

Youll be fine dont worry.

 

[whatwillbe]

I do know how you feel, I haunt seen much of my friends since being pregnant and it gets very lonely, especially not being with fob either, but I had to move away from most of them so I can understand why I don't see them as much, I agree if your quite young and your friends are too they do seem to forget about you while their doing their own thing, my advice would be just try to keep as busy as you can , when your doing nothing a day can seem like a year, especially when your expecting, but on the plus side your going to have a beautiful baby at the end of this and you'll find if they are real friends they will make the effort, even if it's just a phone call occasionally , keep ur chin up x

 

[omfgski]

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[Seren0613]

Thanks, girls.

I'm actually 23! So, not that young. :/

 

[omfgski]

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[Seren0613]

I think maybe you're right... friend 1 had a bad marriage, so that could be the cause. Friend 2, Idk what her deal was - she just has been straight ignoring me for months, friend 3 is a guy that confessed a crush for me a few years back & was nice, until he mentioned me busy after baby comes - then he got hostile. I have other friends I rarely get to see due to distance, etc that are supportive (when we speak)... but these were my closer friends. I don't really have a "best friend" anymore, & it's lonely. It wouldn't be so bad if I had fob around to provide emotional support, but I don't.

Hopefully I can make some "mommy friends"

 

[dickybird]

Some did, some didn't. Some drifted back as the girls got older but made it clear that I wasn't interested in being friends with them anymore.

Their loss if they ditch you, you have something 10000x better in your life now!

 

[lizardbreath]

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