Frustrated with TTC#2 after chemical

[kcmb0886]

Hubs and I have been TTC#2 since October, which I guess isn't that long in the scheme of things. Last month, I was elated when my boobs started to hurt and I saw a BFP staring back at me four days before AF was due. But then my symptoms started to disappear and my BBT dropped and AF showed up a week later. Blood work confirmed a miscarriage. I was disappointed but I really tried to keep a positive attitude and resolved that I wouldn't let it get me down. Well, now another cycle has come and gone and no more BFPs this time. I know I'm not the first. I know I won't be the last. I know I'm blessed to have one child. And I know we haven't been TTC #2 for long. But I think it just really hit me how frustrated I am knowing that we were there. We were pregnant. And then we lost it right away and didn't have any luck with the cycle after and have to keep trying. I needed an outlet so I'm posting here. I appreciate anyone who's read this.

 

[nevergivingup]

Hi! I totally understand how you feel!! I had my m/c last year around this same time and me and my hubby have been TTC for 5months on and off now. And usually we get pregnant rather easily (hard time keeping them) this time around we're having a time after my D&C. I'm frustrated as well and it doesn't make it better when 4 out of 5 females are pregnant around me!! I hope our luck changes soon. And I'm sooo sorry for your loss, it's never easy.

 

[glovities]

There is hope ladies! I had a MC in sept, a chemical in Dec and an ectopic in Jan. I am currently 5 weeks pregnant and my hcg levels have been checked every few days dor 2 weeks and they are doubling. I know Im not out of the water yet, but i feel hopeful.

 

[nevergivingup]

There is hope ladies! I had a MC in sept, a chemical in Dec and an ectopic in Jan. I am currently 5 weeks pregnant and my hcg levels have been checked every few days dor 2 weeks and they are doubling. I know Im not out of the water yet, but i feel hopeful.

CONGRATS Glovities!!! Thanks So much for the encouragement!! I definitely believe that it will happen again my concern now is that I'm not ovulating. So that is a new turn for me that I'm not familiar with. But I do believe it will happen! And sticky dust to you that this one sticks!!!!

 

[Babyapples]

Hope it's ok if I jump onboard here ladies. We have been TTC #2 from last march. Got our BFP in November but miscarried 2 wks before christmas. This has just utterly devastated me and I am really struggling to get over it. I wanted to give up it's just too painful but hubby persuaded me we should give things another go. 2 cycles with no joy now. I don't feel like I really know what I'm doing. The disappointment when Aunt Flo arrives is too much to bear and I'm wondering if giving up really is the easier option. I don't think I can spend this year trying like we did last year. It is somewhat comforting to know I'm not the only one in this boat though xx

 

[nevergivingup]

Hi Babyapples! So sorry for your loss... I totally can understand how you feel. I been there and still am...after me and hubs started bk trying after our m/c last year we had to quit after nothing was happening bc it was very much exhausting, disappointing and especially stressful after 4 months of nothing happening. So we gave it a rest but refrained from ttc but my heart knew it wanted to try again and my hubs did too. So we jumped back on the boat again after a short break. It's stressful still but this time we're taking it as it comes...no timing, no opks...just enjoying each other and making sure we 're intimate enough to have a chance at getting prego but not counting the days til AF or peeing on bunches of sticks. And yes it's still stressful but not as painful as to when I have my all in it and getting disappointed when AF shows. I like it this way for now anyway

 

[Babyapples]

That's exactly the position I'd love to get my head to nevergivingup. I just feel under so much pressure even though I know I'm the only person making me feel that way. We had actually decided to stop trying in Feb if we hadn't got pregnant but the miscarriage has made me want a baby more than ever. I just don't know how long I can try again for without it taking a toll on our marriage and my health. I know the wait is worth it but I just have this voice in my head saying we aren't meant to have another one.

 

[nevergivingup]

That's exactly the position I'd love to get my head to nevergivingup. I just feel under so much pressure even though I know I'm the only person making me feel that way. We had actually decided to stop trying in Feb if we hadn't got pregnant but the miscarriage has made me want a baby more than ever. I just don't know how long I can try again for without it taking a toll on our marriage and my health. I know the wait is worth it but I just have this voice in my head saying we aren't meant to have another one.

Hang in there dont give up just yet. I know it's a lot but I found myself trying to find ways to help me like I went and bought me some preseed some geritol vitamins and started eating healthier and exercising and it took my mind off a lot. I'm my biggest problem by being so negative so I figured what can it hurt to help myself out and I set myself up for an dr. Appt. to been seen. My hubby was getting dismayed and that really bothered me so i knew I had to do whatever I can do. My Dr. Appt. is this Thurs. so hopefully I'll get some definitive answers soon. I have to hang in there and you can too, I think all this stressing makes it worrisome too.

 

[Babyapples]

Thank you I really needed to hear that. I have been using preseed but to no avail. I don't have too bad a diet but don't exercise at all. I think your right though the biggest thing I have standing in my way is the worry stress and pressure I'm piling on. I know we can conceive so that's a big plus. I know I'm definitely not gonna be a long term ttc'er so just need to throw a lot of good vibes into life I suppose!!

 

[nevergivingup]

So you're already half way there with the preseed and being nsync with ttc. We definitely know we can conceive but I bet it's the pressure and stress we put on ourselves and our body just don't do what it's suppose to do bc we're overpilling it with negative hormones. And I'm sure that has to play a part. You ever hear people say when you finally stop stressing and relax and let it happen...it will happen? I totally believe in that, it's a mind thing and we have to get our mind on something else and let our bodies do the work. It's hard I know, no matter where I go I see at least 2 pregnant ladies. And they look so happy and I find myself staring and longing BUT I know I will get there. So I just smile and continue my task.

Where are you at in your cycle?

 

[Babyapples]

I'm loving your positivity!! Believe things can happen and they will! Really need to get that to sink in. Couldn't agree more that we need to take our head outta this process and let nature do its thing! Cycle is a little outta whack still but using opks so getting the timing right. I'd expect to ovulate between Monday and Wednesday next week.

 

[nevergivingup]

Yes that's the spirit. I loved opks until after my D&C and then my cycles went wacky. The opks wasn't getting dark enough until last month so I guess it took some time to normalize. But I had purchased the opk that you stick one of the 30 sticks in every day and the monitor tell you yay or nay and then you do it until you get a positive...well the darn thing stop working as I was getting close to the days for O...I was sooo upset that I quit opk'ing bc that darn machine cost me $50 and only lasted 5 days! What opks are you using?

 

[Babyapples]

Yeah I think in a way they do add to the pressure. I found my whole day was ruined before it began if I didn't get a positive one. I was using the dye ones but wasn't getting stressed trying to read the lines! So been using the clearblue one that give you a smiley face if it's positive. I always wonder how there can be soooooo many unplanned pregnancies because this baby making game is reallyyyyy hard work!!

 

[nevergivingup]

O my gosh!! YESSS!! I just asked my Hubs & Sister that same question a couple of days ago!!! My younger cousin is pregnant again and didn't know she was and wasn't trying and now she's 5 months...I can't see it happening as much as it is..how is almost everyone having Intercourse around Ovulation time and not know they're soon to be ovulating except me and I have a $50 machine!!
Yeah i should've went with the stick opks which I usually do but I needed more of a yes or no and ended up guessing

I still have like 4 opks left and 2 prego test...I'm scared to do either one...